My name is Li Ali, I am 30 years old and I am from a small mountain village in Hebei Province. Five years ago, I married Li Jianhua, the only son of a prominent family in my hometown. The conditions of my mother-in-law's house are very good, and my parents-in-law are also very satisfied with me, and it didn't take long for the house to be transferred to the names of me and Jianhua. I have always been filial to my in-laws, and I have been busy diligently, and my mother-in-law has also praised me as a good daughter-in-law.
In this way, I lived a well-off life in the city and adapted to everything here. Yesterday at noon, I was busy preparing dinner in the kitchen, and my mother-in-law came in and said to me, "Ali, next month, your two nephews will be sent to our house for a month after their summer vacation." You take good care of them, and if you don't, don't blame me for not reminding you. ”
I was taken aback when I heard this, and hurriedly replied, "Mother-in-law, you asked me to bring my two nephews?"I've never had a child before, so I don't know if it's good or not. ”
The mother-in-law was upset and said, "What are you talking about!".My nephew, why can't you bring it well?You hurry up and clean up the room, I've agreed to let them come. ”
I had to nod my head and agree. After my mother-in-law left, I muttered in my heart that I had never brought any children except for serving my in-laws and doing housework. Two naughty nephews, I am worried that I will not take good care of myself, and when the time comes, it will be worth the loss to be blamed by my mother-in-law.
Following behind was the 14-year-old eldest nephew Zhang Yu, holding the game console and ignoring it. I said enthusiastically: "Yuyu is also a lot taller, Auntie hasn't seen you for a long time!."”
Zhang Yu raised his head and stared at me, and with an "oh" sound, he lowered his head and went to play the game. I saw him like this, and I couldn't force him to speak anymore, so I took the two children home first.
After dinner, I told them to go to bed early and not to play games too late. As a result, they disappeared in a blink of an eye, and I searched for a long time in the room before I found the two of them huddled together and playing games from the storage room. I brought the game console and said with a tough attitude: "I have to go to school tomorrow, it's late, go to bed!".”
Li Lei said unconvinced: "Mom has already let us play until ten o'clock!."Auntie, you're too wide!”
I explained, "Auntie, this is for your good, playing games is not good for your eyes, you are still young, you should go to bed early and get up late." ”
Zhang Yu said indifferently: "Whatever, isn't it just half an hour, it's a big deal, I'll sleep tomorrow." After speaking, he pulled Li Lei to hide in the bathroom.
I tried to force them to sleep, but I couldn't resist them, so I let them go. When they played until 10 o'clock and turned off the lights and went to bed, I went to rest with confidence.
Don't hurry up yet!I raised my voice and shouted, "You can't skip school!"Hurry up and wash up!”
Li Lei said impatiently: "I know, don't make noise, it's still early!."”
It took me a long time to get the two lazy worms out of bed, and they were struggling to wash and change their clothes, and by the time they sat down for breakfast, they were almost late. I was anxious to urge them to eat quickly, and Zhang Yu said unhappily, "Can you let us eat slowly!".The pressure was so great that I couldn't even take it. ”
At noon, I went to pick them up and go home for dinner, and when I asked Li Lei about his noon class, he couldn't say anything. I immediately guessed that he was wandering in class again. After lunch, I said to him solemnly: "Lei Lei, you must listen carefully to the class, and you must not be distracted." Knowledge is important and you can't take it lightly now!”
Li Lei said unhappily: "How can it be so serious, what's wrong with occasionally emptying up, learning Xi is so boring, you need an active mind to maintain your attention." ”
I sighed and continued to advise him: "You are now in the period of building a knowledge base, which is important for your growth. I'm sure you can try to pay attention, right?”
Li Lei held his mouth and reluctantly agreed. I just hope he keeps his promise and doesn't get distracted anymore.
Zhang Yu immediately**: What, this is already very serious, okay, it's completely enough!”
Li Lei also asked: "Does this typo have a big impact, just change it." ”
I said firmly, "No, you have to rewrite it, and I'll check it." You can't be sloppy with your homework, it will affect your Xi. ”
The two children kept complaining, but at my insistence they rewrote their homework. I checked it for them, so I was relieved.
After a week like this, I got up early and worked greedily every day, but the two children didn't appreciate my affection at all. I go to bed too late at night, wake up too late in the morning, and do my homework sloppily. I wanted to give them a little free time to play, but they didn't keep the time at all. Every day I am tired and dizzy, but I still don't count the children one or two.
When my mother-in-law saw that I was suffering, she often lectured me and told me to be strict and not let the children be too presumptuous. I also couldn't help it, I felt that my mouth was ineffective, and I really couldn't deal with two disobedient children. Gradually, my mother-in-law became dissatisfied with me and felt that I had no way to discipline me.
On this day, I went to school as usual to pick up my two children and go home. They didn't even wait at the school gate, and I waited for a long time and didn't see them. After the other children left, I had to call ** and ask them if they were **, but no one answered.
It was getting late, and when I was still looking around the city, my mother-in-law called ** again, and her tone was already very bad, "Aren't you coming back yet?."The children still don't know where to go, and your ability to take care of them is too poor, right?”
The mother-in-law sneered and said, "I knew it would be like this, with your ability, and you said that you would take good care of it?"What if something happens to my child?You tigress, you can't even look at the cubs!”
At nine o'clock, I almost called the police, and the two children were late. I went up excitedly and hugged them, tearfully asking them where they had gone. Zhang Yu said disapprerovingly: "I went to the Internet café to play games for a while, what's the big deal!."”
I said with red eyes, "Then you should also pick me up and tell me you are a**!."Do you know that Auntie is worried about death!”
Li Lei said impatiently: "I know, I know, we just had so much fun that we forgot to look at the time and **." ”
I was really angry and sad. The mother-in-law also came out at this time, and as soon as she saw the child coming back, she began to preach: "Really, the adults have been looking for a day, and you are having a lot of fun outside!."”
After speaking, my mother-in-law looked at me and frowned: "I'm so an adult, and I don't know how to educate children!."I don't think you're at all!”
That night, I cried so hard that my eyes were swollen like two peaches. I began to think about whether I should continue to stay in this family, I really wasn't fit to be a daughter-in-law and aunt.
I packed up a few clothes and daily necessities, and was about to move out of the home where I had lived for five years, when Li Lei and Zhang Yu came to stop me and sincerely begged me not to leave.
Auntie, I'm sorry, it's not good for us, don't go. Li Lei said with tears in his eyes.
Zhang Yu also lowered his head and said, "We will correct it, you give us another chance, we will definitely listen to you!."”
Seeing the sad and remorseful appearance of the two children, the inexplicable obstacles in my heart also disappeared. I really should give myself and them another chance, children can be educated.
So, I decided to stay. After that, I had a long conversation with my two nephews about trust. I told them that I hoped that through this relationship, we could become family members who trust and rely on each other. The children also nodded with red eyes, promising to correct their previous bad Xi habits so that I could see their growth.
After two months, the children have changed a lot. They will turn in their homework on time and no longer stay up in the middle of the night playing games. Li Lei was no longer distracted in class, but listened attentively. Zhang Yu also began to participate in calligraphy interest classes and was no longer addicted to online games.
I prepare delicious meals for them every day, accompany them to learn Xi, and take them to the playground on weekends. We care for each other and support each other as a family. My mother-in-law also praised me for my good education, when she saw the transformation of the children.
At the end of the summer vacation, the children were reluctant to leave me, saying that it was an unforgettable vacation. They made me happy to see them grow. I also feel that through my love and wisdom, I have helped them find the right path of growth.
This experience also made a subtle change in my relationship with my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law finally realized that I was actually a competent wife and aunt. And I've learned Xi better way to get along. Every family needs warmth, tolerance and wisdom, and this is also my biggest realization recently.
After that, my relationship with my mother-in-law gradually improved. My mother-in-law finally realized that I am not a daughter-in-law of Hulai, and I have the wisdom to educate children.
One day, my mother-in-law suddenly said to me: "Ali, you are quite good at taking care of children, it seems that I blamed you before." The children have changed so much in these two months, you have worked hard. ”
When I heard my mother-in-law's compliment, I said happily, "Thank you, mother-in-law, in fact, the children are very obedient, as long as they use the right method." ”
The mother-in-law nodded and said, "I misjudged you, you are not simple." It is not easy to change a child. You can change them, and you can influence others. ”
I smiled and said, "Mother-in-law, I also had shortcomings before, thank you for correcting me." We understand each other in order to become a harmonious family. ”
My mother-in-law patted my hand with relief, and at this moment, I felt that she had accepted me as a daughter-in-law.
My mother-in-law's recognition gave me a lot of confidence. I continue to strive to be a qualified daughter-in-law, but I will also stick to my own way of education when necessary. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law need to cooperate with each other, not only absolute obedience.