InRuralThe relationship between brothers has always been seen as very close and fixed. And this sentence "Brothers prefer brothers to be poor" Although it seems a little abnormal on the surface, it reflects a special kindSocialPhenomenon. As far as I can see, the existence of this phenomenon is mainly related toEconomychanges in the situation.
When the brothers get married and start a family, their parents will divide their families according to certain distribution rules. At the initial stage, the brothers were at a relatively equal starting pointlifeThe status is also about the same. In such a situation, they will help each other and pursue better together based on the principle of supporting each otherlife
However, over time, one party suddenly becomes wealthy, while the other suffers from difficulties. This kind of suddenEconomyGaps tend to trigger psychological changes between brothers. The winning party will think of their ownlifeIt is earned through one's own efforts, not by one's parents. As a result, they will be more cautious in the use of their wealth and reluctant to help their brothers who are in trouble. The troubled party, on the other hand, relies on the support of the brother and feels the brother's indifference. The inconsistency of ideas between the two sides will exacerbate the development of contradictions, which will eventually lead to the emergence of such a situation.
The emergence of this conflict is also related to the increase in people's comparison mentality. InRuralSocialPeople often compare themselves to others. Once there is a brotherhood between themEconomyThe gap will invisibly open up the gap of comparison. Even if the successful side does not take the initiative to show off, but theirlifeThe rate of growth and the improvement in material conditions have become obvious indicators. This invisibly exacerbates the inner pain and dissatisfaction of the troubled party. EconomyThe change in the situation not only brings about the problem of material distribution in the family, but also touches on people's self-esteem and face problems, which makes the relationship between brothers more delicate and complicated.
InRuralbecause of the lack of diversityEconomyEconomyChange of condition for a familylifehas an extremely important impact. When a family'sEconomyCircumstances suddenly change, such as when one brother becomes successful in business or has other wealth**, while the other brother is still maintaining the same thinglifelevel, the relationship between them is likely to change. Because the family is a relatively closed smallSocialThis change will not only affect the dignity and self-esteem of the individual, but also involve the face of the whole family. As a result, the gap between brothers will become more sensitive and difficult to bridge.
InRuralAgricultureSocialParents have special feelings for their children. Parents often pay special attention and favor to one child, and many resources will be more inclined to this child. This kind of unfairness may be recognized and encouraged by the parents for their children's excellence, but in the eyes of other brothers, it often leads to conflict and jealousy.
When the brothers grow up and start a family, this preference for one child will not only not change, but will be magnified. Because the brothers each have their own families andEconomycondition, and have the ability to repay their parents with filial piety. At this time, the child who is especially favored by his parents will receive more care and resources, and this favoritism can easily lead to the accumulation of conflicts and dissatisfaction between other brothers.
From ancient times to the present day,Homeschoolinghas always been an important factor in a person's growth. InRuralofHomeschoolingThere is often special attention and favoritism towards one child. Parents' partiality is likely to be motivated by genuine love and recognition for their children. However, this favoritism often leads to resentment and conflict among siblings.
RuralParents often hope that their children will become successful and tell their children to study hard and Xi in the future, and they will pay more attention to and encourage the excellent performance of one of their children. There is nothing wrong with such attention and encouragement, but the problem is often in the degree and manner of attention. Parents often neglect the needs and growth of other siblings while pursuing the advancement of one child. This kind of favoritism may be that parents feel sorry for a certain child and are more bitter, or that a certain child is very good in a certain aspect. But once the other siblings begin to become aware of this favoritism and begin to resist and resent, this resentment becomes more and more pronounced.
Family unfairness has a profound impact on sibling relationships, which can not only lead to family estrangement, but also lead to quarrels and conflicts between siblings. Since historically brothers and sisters were common to each otherlife, the relationship of joint labor, so once a quarrel between siblings occurs, it is often difficult to clean up and alleviate. Because of this, this further deteriorated the relationship between siblings, and eventually led to the existence of the phrase "brothers prefer brothers to be poor".
RuralSocialThe relationship between concubines is often more than thatMother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationshipIt's more complicated. At least one of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has a relationship between a son and a daughter, and relatives can still maintain some closeness and mutual assistance between relatives. However, the difference between concubines and concubines is that there is no between concubinesBlood relationshipbut they must rely on each other and get along. This kind of nonBlood relationshipIt often makes the communication between concubines more difficult, and it is easy to produce various contradictions.
InMarriageIn the relationship, the relationship between concubines is oftenMarriageA side story of the relationship. The two brothers married two concubines, and their relationship was inseparable. However, since both sides did notBlood relationshipIt is often difficult to establish a true family relationship. Concubines often have conflicts in getting along, and because the contradictions cannot be resolved, they are often reflected in the relationship between siblings in the end.
When the concubines convey their grievances and conflicts to each other, these grievances and contradictions are often transferred to the siblings in the name of siblings, further exacerbating the tension and conflict between the siblings. Due to the siblingsBlood relationshipThe breakdown of such a relationship can not only hurt the dignity and self-esteem of the individual, but also have a positive or negative impact on the entire family.
InRuralIn the relationship between concubines and concubines is often more thanMother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationshipIt's more complicated. Since the two brothers each married two concubines, this means that the two do not haveBlood relationshipof women in the same familylife。Since there is nothing between the concubinesBlood relationship, whileMarriageIt also makes them have to get along with each other, so it is easy to cause various conflicts.
The complexity of the relationship lies in the fact that the two women come from different families and have different upbringing backgrounds and values. They may be therelifeThere are differences in Xi, family values and ways of doing things, which makes it more difficult to get along. Moreover, since the relationship between concubines is not related, it is difficult for them to understand and tolerate each other like sisters. In this case, the concubine relationship is prone to contradictions and conflicts.
When there are conflicts between concubines, these contradictions are often not limited to concubines, but affect brothers and sisters. The concubines will convey their dissatisfaction and contradictions through the brothers, causing conflicts and discord between the brothers. Therefore, the disharmony of the relationship between the concubines often leads to the breakdown and conflict of the brotherly relationship.
In addition, inRuralBecause of the limited resources of the family, there may also be a competition between the concubines for the family property. In order to compete for family property, concubines often exert pressure on their brothers and even create conflicts. Such a feud can not only spoil the relationship between the brothers, but also negatively affect the entire family.
To sum up,RuralThe fraternal contradiction may be caused byEconomyIt is caused by various factors such as changes in situation, favoritism in family education, and conflicts in the relationship between concubines and concubines. These factors may have different weights and influences in different families, but in any case, promoting harmony and understanding between brothers is the key to resolving these conflicts. Family members should support and respect each other, be fair and just, and strive to resolve existing problems in order to maintain family harmony and stability.