GuiguziAccording to legend, he was a great philosopher of the Warring States period and was already famous during his lifetime. GuiguziIn addition to his outstanding contributions to philosophy, military affairs, politics, etc., he also has unique ideas in interpersonal communication. Today we will come a**GuiguziThe life of the company and its teachings, and tell it in detailGuiguziThe "four kinds of deep friendships" and "three kinds of broken friends" in thought.
Guiguzi, surnamed Yang, named Yu, the word Meng Ke, also known as Jiuli Mountain. It is rumored that he was born in the state of Chen and studied Xi with Lao Tzu in his early yearsTaoist thought, proficientFive elements gossipand prefers military strategy. Warring States Period,GuiguziTraveling between countries, lobbying officialdom, participating in politics, and showing his talents. His proposition is "the unity of God and man" and "the unity of kings and ministers", and advocates respecting the harmony of heavenHumanity, to govern the world with the principle of "clear way".
And his idea of "four kinds of deep friendship" and "three kinds of broken friends" can be described asGuiguziThe more unique and profound parts of the thought, let's go into more detail**.
GuiguziIt is believed that one's interpersonal interactions should not be extensive and unlimited, because in this way one will lose oneself and consume one's spiritual strength. He put forward the theory of "four kinds of deep friendship", that is, the person to be associated must belong to the group of people who have integrity, integrity, knowledge, and self-cultivation. The so-called "deep friendship" is to be able to establish a relationship with such people that can truly trust each other, respect each other, and friendship is not affected by money, interests and other factors.
1. The concept and role of the four kinds of people"Deeply befriending four kinds of people" means that making friends should be based on the four aspects of morality, wisdom, benevolence, and courage. The person who befriended must not only have high moral character, but also have good education and taste, and must also have a certain amount of knowledge and ability. Only such people can truly understand us and mingle with us.
The role of "deep friendship with the four kinds of people" is to be able to gain knowledge and enlightenment, to self-reflect, and to expand oneselfoutlook on life, values, to promote the growth of their own personality and thoughts.
2. The characteristics of four kinds of people(1) Benevolence as a friend, elegant temperament, magnificence;
(2) Profound insight, with a certain amount of knowledge and learning;
3) Noble character, integrity, integrity, courage, stability and other qualities;
(4) Noble moral character, good self-cultivation and taste.
Only those who possess these four characteristics can become true friends, confidants, and friends.
3. How to make friends with four kinds of people(1) Take the initiative to find the advantages of the other party, praise the advantages of the other party, and show your outstanding side;
2) Don't talk about yourself lightlyInner worldInstead, listen patiently to the other person, giving enough space and trust;
3) Communicate and resolve disputes or misunderstandings between friends in a timely manner to eliminate conflicts.
The above methods not only help to build deep friendships, but also help to grow in self-reflection.
Break up three kinds of people", yesGuiguziThe important ideas put forward in interpersonal communication advocate keeping a distance from these three types of people and avoiding long-term contact so as not to be eroded by their negative effects.
1. The concept and role of the three kinds of peopleThe concept of "three kinds of people" is very simple, that is, do not associate with those bad characters who do not distinguish between good and evil, insidious and vicious, stupid and selfish, undisciplined, and improper character.
The role of the "three kinds of people" is to be able to keep a clear head and avoid being eroded by the negative factors of others, so as to maintain their own good attitude and personality.
2. The characteristics of three types of people(2) "Egoists" who are greedy for money and profit, do not hesitate to take risks for their own selfishness, and are calculating;
3) Self-righteous, unscrupulous, disrespectful, unruly "bad character".
All three types of people are bad people and can have a lot of negative effects on us in our interpersonal interactions. Therefore,GuiguziIt is suggested that we should stay away from these people.
3. How to avoid the negative impact of the three types of peopleHow to avoid the negative effects of the three types of people?Here it is:GuiguziSome suggestions:
1) Don't easily believe the flattery of others, and be good at distinguishing the relationship between friendship and interests;
2) Be selfless, do not gain a bad reputation for selfish interests, and do not blindly pursue power and status;
3) Choose your friends carefully, and use actions to counter those who maliciously attack and slander you.
Only in this way can we avoid the irreparable negative impact on us by those bad people.
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In this complex social system, we have to cultivate our ability to behave in the world, and Guiguzi taught us thatTo be strict with oneself, to cultivate oneself, to be lenient to others, and to repay the society is to do good!
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