Yesterday, when we analyzed the company's maternal and infant business data, we found that this year's transaction volume is much lower than in previous years.
Colleagues have lamented that this is a direct reflection of the decline in fertility and the reason why it is difficult for our performance to improve.
We joked with each other that the young people in the company were not willing to get married and have children to contribute to the company, and the boss gave birth to two children in a fit of anger to prepare for immortality.
At this time, an old colleague suddenly interjected and said in a serious tone:
You young people, you will regret not having children, what will you do when you die?
We were all so embarrassed by his words that we didn't know how to answer.
Only Xiao Li reacted quickly and said humorously
I'm dead, what do I care about here, it's only my upstairs and downstairs neighbors who care.
When the old colleague heard this, he was half angry and slammed the door, probably to find other colleagues to complain about the selfishness of contemporary young people.
People like my old colleagues, they're always worried
What should I do if I can't find a job?What should I do if I can't get married?What should I do if I can't have a baby?What should I do if my child grows up to Xi badly?What should I do if I can't find a job after working?
They don't understand and don't accept:
Not being able to find a job is not necessarily a failure, not being able to find a partner is not necessarily lonely, not being able to have children is not necessarily sad...
They also don't respect other people's choices, they feel that other people's lifestyles must be the same as their own, otherwise it is abnormal and unreasonable.
They don't even know their own lives, and they start to worry about whether they are dying decently.
In fact, having children or not does not change the fact that we will all die.
Not long ago, I saw a friend in Shanghai post her baby in the circle of friends, which surprised me.
Because I remember that she was not married, why did she suddenly have children?
I asked her curiously, and she told me that she didn't have a boyfriend, but she always wanted a child of her own, so she did IVF through a sperm bank somewhere.
Listening to her words, I couldn't help but admire her courage and determination.
In this society, having children out of wedlock and single mothers are very sensitive topics, and it is easy to attract accusations and ridicule from others.
Especially those who are conservative-minded, they think that it is normal to only get married and have children, and everything else is a big rebellion and bad morals.
But have they ever thought that their ideas come from **?
The rules and concepts of society are not innate, but artificially formulated.
Moreover, these rules and concepts are often aimed at safeguarding the interests of some powerful groups while restricting the freedom of some weak groups.
Otherwise, the frequent news will let us see:
Some people just don't follow the rules and do whatever they want.
Over the years, I have gradually come to understand some truths.
A lot of things aren't really that important, and we're just confused by society's expectations and pressures.
If you can't get into a good university, you don't necessarily have no chance;
If you don't get into the system, you don't necessarily have no sense of security;
If you don't get married, you don't necessarily have no happiness.
We are frightened from an early age, as if if we do not live according to some worldly standards, we will achieve nothing and will be looked down upon.
In fact, when we really go through those stages, we will find out:
Those so-called standards are not at all the factors that determine our fate.
The reason why we are tired is often because we care too much about other people's opinions and care too much about our own face.
We are afraid that if we don't get into a good university, we will disappoint our parents and make ourselves feel inferior;
We are afraid that if we can't find a good job, we will be looked down upon, and we will be ridiculed;
We are afraid that if we can't afford to buy a school district house, we will let our children lose at the starting line, and we will be embarrassed.
Our vanity makes us forget our own true intentions and make us unable to distinguish between what is a real need and what is a useless desire.
We regard the eyes of others as a yardstick to measure ourselves, and the compliments of others as a reward in life.
But we don't know that we have lost ourselves, lost in the labyrinth of the world.
In fact, no one really cares how we are doing, and those who like to judge are just bored or dissatisfied.
They themselves are bound by the rules of society, and when they see someone who dares to be different, they will feel unbalanced, and they will want to suppress or denigrate.
However, as long as we don't care what they think, as long as we take responsibility for our choices, then there will be many possibilities in life, and there will be a lot of freedom.
A lot of so-called mistakes are just not up to their expectations, not meeting their standards.
We are taught from an early age to obey, to obey, to give.
What we are indoctrinated with is a single value, and what is overlooked is our personality and gifts.
The same is true of society, its definition of "good people" is often those who are "gregarious", those who do not get ahead, and those who do not cause trouble.
And those who dare to be different, dare to break through, and dare to innovate are always excluded, criticized, and ridiculed.
I've seen a lot of so-called adults whose bodies have grown up, but their minds are stuck in their teenage years.
They live a mediocre life, they don't know their meaning all their lives, and their lives are wasted;
There are also those who are too busy coping with their lives to know their purpose, and the days pass away
There are also people who are so confused that they don't even know if they're still alive.
If you ask them if it's funny, they'll roll their eyes: Isn't everyone like that?
When we were kids, we wanted to be teachers, scientists, astronauts....No one, except for those who have never wanted to be themselves.
Maybe we should think about it:
In the future, do you have to live in the framework given by others?