With the development of science and technology, we live in an era of information. Mobile phones, TVs, computers and other entertainment devices emerge in an endless stream, making it easy for people to fall into the whirlpool of "** fun".
What is "** music"?
What it means:Indulge the masses in entertainment and sensory stimulation products, such as online games, short **, etc., so as to lose the ability to think about real problems.
These ways of making people happy, like stuffing a baby with a pacifier, are oneThe happiness of "low cost, easy access, high satisfaction".
There's nothing wrong with pursuing pleasure, but indulging in such low-cost pleasures is harmful.
Not only does it consume our time and money, but it also unknowingly steals our future possibilities.
Because the level of a person is often determined by his ability to resist **.
The low-level pleasure depends on indulgence, and the top-level pleasure depends on self-discipline.
1. Low-level pleasure depends on indulgence: ephemeral and nihilistic
The ancient Chinese poet Tao Yuanming once said: "Time should be encouraged, and time does not treat others." He advocated that people cherish their time and be proactive, rather than indulging in short-term pleasures.
But those who pursue low-level pleasures often gain pleasure by indulging their desires.
For example, playing games, brushing **, watching cool ......These are entertainment activities that don't require thinking and provide instant gratification.
Once you indulge in this "low-cost, high-return" stimulus, it is difficult to do those "high-investment" things.
Not only that, but they get caught in a vicious circle:
Addicted to short-term pleasures, lacking the concentration to devote themselves to one thing for a long time, getting tired after a little effort, and continuing to indulge in short-term pleasures after giving up.
There is such a real case:
A 21-year-old college student was dissuaded from school because he was addicted to games.
His parents cut off his finances, so he went to work in an Internet café and earned money to continue playing games.
Even in order to raise money to play games, he killed his grandmother and sold the family property.
In his confession, he said:
My parents divorced, and I felt that no one cared about me, and I couldn't control me very much, so I became addicted to the Internet, and my personality became more and more withdrawn. ”
Indulging himself in the virtual world for a long time made him gradually lose the ability to perceive and empathize, and finally embarked on the road of no return.
There are not a few people in life who are dragged down by low-level pleasures like this:
Some people are addicted to short **, a brush is a few hours, and the good time is wasted;Some people are addicted to cool texts**, stay up late to read it, and get up early to go to work the next day but have no energy;Some people are addicted to games and don't sleep all night in order to get up, not only abandoning their studies and work, but also ruining their physical ......
The cost of pursuing low-level pleasures is low, but the price is very high.
Not only does it consume our time and energy, but it also paralyzes our nerves and gives us a sense of powerlessness over reality.
A person who only pursues low-level happiness has no future. Because they will gradually lose their self-discipline, thinking and perception skills in the process. And these abilities are the key to our happiness and success.
2. Top happiness depends on self-discipline: lasting and fulfilling
The ultimate happiness is the freedom and sense of accomplishment that comes with self-discipline.
Unlike indulgence, which pursues low-level pleasures, people who pursue top-tier pleasures tend to be highly disciplined.
They know what to do and what not to do, and are able to stick to the right thing for a long time. Even if there will be difficulties and setbacks along the way, they will not give up easily. Because they understand:True freedom and fulfillment can only be achieved through constant effort and self-discipline.
Zeng Zi said: "I have three provinces in my day." "That's what self-discipline is. By reflecting on our actions, we can continue to improve and surpass ourselves.
Ancient calligraphers such as Wang Xizhi and Yan Zhenqing, through unremitting efforts and self-discipline, have become famous throughout the ages.
*Master Qian Mu is a very self-disciplined person, he insists on writing for more than 10 hours a day, even when he is blind and paralyzed. This high degree of self-discipline has made him one of the leading figures in Chinese historiography.
Celebrities are self-disciplined, and the same is true for us ordinary people: if you want to have a good body, a healthy body, a successful career, etc., you have to put in the effort and discipline accordingly. Only by constantly learning, exercising and improving oneself can we gradually get closer to Xi the goal and finally achieve it.
When you get what you want through self-discipline, that sense of accomplishment and satisfaction is unmatched by any low-level pleasure.
3. How to achieve self-discipline
To achieve self-discipline, you can start from the following aspects:
Set clear goals: First of all, you need to be clear about what you want and have a clear goal. In this way, in the process of pursuing the goal, you can not get lost, and you can maintain direction and motivation.
Make a plan and execute it: Once you have a goal, you need to make a detailed plan and put it into action. This requires firm determination and perseverance, not to be swayed by the outside world. An executable and detailed plan is a guarantee that the goal will be achieved.
Learn to say "no".: Learn to say no to things that may affect your ability to achieve your goals. Avoid getting bogged down in unnecessary recreational activities and stay focused and focused.
Insist on reflection and adjustment: In the pursuit of goals, you need to constantly reflect on your actions and plans. Adapt to the situation and make sure you're always on the right path.
IV. Conclusion
In short, the pleasure brought by "*happiness" is short-lived, addictive, low-level pleasure;And the happiness that self-discipline brings is a long-lasting, far-reaching high-level happiness.
Indulging in low-level happiness, we lose the ability to pursue high-level happiness, and we should say goodbye to "** happiness" and move towards the road of self-discipline. Only in this way can we find true happiness and fulfillment in life.
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