The experience of a 70-year-old retired old man, after retirement, no matter how rich you are, don't easily help your children with these "three favors".
1. Sell your house for your children.
As the saying goes, "the golden nest and the silver nest are not as good as their own kennels", no matter how good the children's home is, it is not as good as their own nest.
To understand the truth that the fragrance is far away and the smell is near, it is still a good thing to be far away from the children, and the distance produces beauty, and there will be a lot less contradictions. If you often live together, after a long time, there will naturally be more contradictions, and in the end, you will dislike each other, and the relationship will become more and more tense.
Don't sell your house for your children, because your children's home is not your parents' home forever, once a long time passes, there will be conflicts, when your children call you back, you will be homeless, and in the end it is you who pity yourself.
2. Don't get involved in children's housework.
After children get married, they have their own small families, as parents, they should learn to let go, let their children live independently, and participate less in their children's family affairs, after all, the two generations have different ideas, and there is a generation gap.
And sometimes it's not thankless, the more you manage, the more it will backfire, and your children will dislike you more, so it's better to talk less, do more, and help your children give more advice.
3. There is no bottom line to subsidize children.
When children encounter difficulties, it is appropriate for parents to help, but they must also be measured, and subsidizing children without a bottom line will only make children dependent, not motivated, and become lazier.
When you are short of money, you will come to your parents to ask for it, and you will become an old man, and you will not make money through your own efforts, which will only harm the next generation.
Don't give all the savings to your children, you have to leave a way back for yourself, only with money in your hands, the pension will be guaranteed, because no one can rely on it, only by yourself, you have given your savings to your children, and when you need money, your children will not necessarily give it to you.
As long as the retired elderly do the above three points, their life in their later years will not be too bad, and thinking more about themselves and taking care of themselves is the greatest blessing for their children.