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Text |He Rihui.
Release |Sunny day mentality.
Today's article is a self-report sharing of a patient's father, his son Meng Kun, a very sensible and intelligent child, but he developed severe mental and psychological symptoms in his third year of high school.
In 2016, Meng Kun was diagnosed with bipolar disorder by doctors at Shenzhen Kangning Hospital (i.e., Shenzhen Mental Health Center), and the effect was not satisfactory. Later, his father met me through a friend's introduction and decided to let the child receive clinical in-depth psychological intervention.
Meng Kun's father recalled that when his son was ill, he couldn't help but feel sad, but he still wrote down his son's illness process and experience, hoping to help the majority of patients' families.
Next week, I will analyze Meng Kun's condition and the key reasons why I can quickly **. Moreover, when Meng Kun came to see me, our clinical in-depth psychological intervention was not as in-depth and perfect as it is now, and I will give some explanations.
I hope Meng Kun's father's sharing will inspire everyone.
He Rihui. The following authors are: Meng Kun's father).
It was around 2016 when my son was in his third year of high school. I'm usually very busy at work, and his mother takes care of him. One day the child told us that he felt he was depressed.
At that time, my wife and I had no knowledge of this and didn't know anything about it. In our eyes, children are quite active and cheerful outside, although the weekends are a bit reversed, sleeping late at night, and not getting up for breakfast during the day, it seems that it is normal for young people to be like this.
Of course, I don't know what happened to him outside. But in short, he said that he was depressed, and we didn't believe it, thinking that the child bought psychology books on the Internet by himself, which was a bit of a match.
But then, the child's problems became more and more serious. It was getting harder and harder for him to get up during the day, and he often said that he had a headache, a tearing pain, and even a pain that hit the wall and the glass, and the glass door of the kitchen at home was broken by him. He said that sometimes he heard people calling him, but there was no one around, so he might hallucinate.
Fortunately, even at the worst of times, he did not have suicidal tendencies and did not say such world-weary words as "I don't want to live anymore", but his life was difficult to normalize, and he was forced to take a year off from school.
The above situation forces us to pay attention. I took him to Shenzhen Kangning Hospital for treatment, and the doctor said that he was moderately depressed and asked to be hospitalized**, and the child could not bring a mobile phone when he was hospitalized, and his parents could not visit him often, which was completely a mandatory isolation**.
My head was "buzzing" a little, why is it so serious?
At that time, the doctor opened the hospitalization slip and asked me to take the child through the procedures. I was not at ease, so I said that I would first look at the environment of the ward, and under the guidance of the medical staff, my husband and wife went to the ward of the observation room with the child. I don't know if I don't see it, but I'm scared when I see it.
At the beginning, the inpatients there lived in a "temporary observation room", and there were more than 10 patients living in the same room at the scene, all of which were locked and closed with iron doors and windows, and were first observed for half a month to a month, and then divided into rooms according to the conditions of different patients. In this observation room, many patients are very seriously ill, some are giggling at me inexplicably, urinating on other people's heads, beating people, shouting, and several patients are looking at us with fierce eyes, all kinds of situations!
But my child can communicate with people normally, self-control is normal, and he is very cooperative, but he is very depressed, has a headache and hits the wall, and he is far from being a delirious "mental patient". If my child lives in, the psychological damage caused by this environment and the physical injury caused by being beaten may be greater, even if it is fine, it can scare something, and there is a very high risk of secondary injury.
Also, it just so happens that my job involves some street management. If the child only sees an outpatient visit, this medical record information will only be limited to the hospital. But if he is hospitalized, the patient's medical records and detailed information will be reported to the ** and health departments according to the regulations, and soon the street where he lives, the community health and fine prevention doctors, the police station and other departments will set up a five-in-one team will know that according to the risk level of the patient's condition, it will be included in the key control objects of mental patients, and they will come to their homes from time to time every month for face-to-face visits or follow-up.
Although the starting point of this measure is also good, it is to care for the patient group and maintain social stability, but many patients and their families are very disgusted, which is understandable.
Anyway, I immediately decided that I couldn't do it. I decisively told the doctor, you can prescribe medicine for me, and the child will be taken home**. Until now, I feel like I made the right decision.
The child took the doctor's medicine, the effect was still not good, and even slept more, and he couldn't get up until the afternoon, and his life and Xi were basically wasted. We took him to Corning Hospital again, and this time the doctor diagnosed him with bipolar disorder.
I didn't know anything about this disease before, but I later learned that it was a more serious form of "severe psychosis". It's not nice to say, if others don't understand, they will directly equate my son with a "madman"!
To be honest, I think this diagnosis is a bit too serious, why are the two diagnoses at Kangning Hospital different, the first is moderate depression, and the second is bipolar disorder?The doctor issued another hospitalization order, but I still resolutely refused to be hospitalized, prescribed medicine and went home with the child.
Children are the hope of the family, and the children who have worked so hard to raise are suffering from mental illness, and our pain at that time is difficult for others to imagine. There is discrimination against this disease in society, and we can't tell others about it, and even if we do, others can't help it. We didn't know what to do, and the mothers were mildly depressed.
Once I had dinner with a classmate with whom I had a good relationship, and my child was there. He observed that my child seemed to be very uncommunicative and did not look at others. It just so happened that his child had also suffered from mental and psychological disorders before, and he did not shy away from asking me about my child's situation directly.
As I was talking, tears flowed out, and my classmates and their husbands and wives also cried, they were able to understand us, and what I said also evoked their painful memories, the pain in my heart, the pain in my heart I couldn't tell anyone at all, including my other relatives, and I didn't dare to say it, for fear of causing a bad negative impact on the child. The depression and pain of my family broke down all at once, and the family of three hugged each other and cried bitterly.
My classmate's children were cured by Director He, and they all became friends with Director He, and he suggested that we try it too.
Director He was very enthusiastic and communicated well with my children. He took the child to live in Guangzhou for a few days, observed the child's condition from his professional point of view, and asked his wife Lucy to do deep hypnosis on the child. My child felt a lot more relaxed after returning to Shenzhen, and we were very happy.
But later, the child's condition recurred, and I decided to take the child to Guangzhou to find Director He. At that time, he was in his fourth business and was very busy with work, but he dedicated at least 2 hours a day to psychological intervention for my children, sometimes even 4 hours.
He and his wife Lucy mainly did psychological intervention with my child at that time, and we didn't talk much about it, but they also specifically told us to pay attention to the child's mental and psychological problems, and pay attention to the change of family atmosphere, including teaching us how to communicate with the child and how to encourage the child.
We really don't understand this, it was Director He and his wife who opened us up. We do what they say, rarely blame the child, most of them are tolerant, try to avoid irritating him and hurting him, and care for him and encourage him in every detail.
Director He said that the child is still relatively sensitive and insecure in the process of **, and we should be cautious in the way we treat him. Then we are cautious, sometimes he sits in the living room thinking about things, and we don't dare to speak too loudly, or even slap him from behind, for fear of causing him to react violently.
I've also met parents in my work whose children have mental illnesses that they can't do for us. Of course, they also lack professional guidance. So, Director Ho and Lucy are really important to our family **.
At that time, I also asked Director He what was the reason for my child's illness. I also asked the doctors at Corning Hospital this question, but they always said that they still don't know about this disease, just cooperate with **.
Director He may have some agreements with my child, he only told me that the fuse of the child's illness is related to some interpersonal relationships, but he didn't say much about the rest, and he also asked me to respect the child's wishes and not ask the child too much.
At that time, the child stayed in Guangzhou for 7 days, and later returned to Shenzhen to recuperate for a while. In the second year, I went to college normally, there was no problem in socializing and learning Xi, I liked to participate in some clubs, learned a musical instrument, and learned hip-hop dance, and the company of friends was also very beneficial to him.
When I was in my junior year, he suddenly said to me, Dad, I actually like design very much, and I sold one of my works to a company for 4,000 yuan.
His mother and I were stunned because he didn't study this in college, he was completely self-taught, and we didn't know he had the interest and ability to do so.
My child is like this, he never exaggerates, he is not ostentatious, he has independent thinking, and he is very down-to-earth. Often he will share something with us after he has done it and done it.
He said he wanted to be a designer after graduation and said he would work hard to enter the industry. We feel very happy and relieved, for our parents, it is very good that our children have had such a disease in the past, and now they can develop to this extent!
When he was about to graduate from university, he went to a nationally renowned company in Shenzhen to Xi, and originally thought that he could become a regular, but then it became a third-party labor dispatch, and he hurried to find a job. As a result, after going to another company, he soon quit again.
I saw him move his stuff home that day, and I said, what's wrong, unemployed?
He wasn't angry either, and glanced at me, "Just kidding!."How can I be unemployed, I want to improve myself!”
I don't continue to ask either. He is very assertive about many things, and he won't discuss too much with us, because he knows that we don't understand this and can't help if he does. Then I have to trust him. The child studied another major seriously at home for 3 months.
While keeping an eye out for job opportunities and submitting resumes, he locked himself in his room and continued to tinker with the design. He found that there was a large design company in Hangzhou that ranked more than 10 people in China, and he compared the recruitment conditions, which required more than 5 years of work experience and professional college graduation, and he could not meet any of these conditions. But he still wanted to give it a try, so he submitted his resume and attached a lot of his own design works, but unfortunately there was no news.
Soon, a design company in Shenzhen recruited him. He was about to go to work in this company, but suddenly received the ** from the Hangzhou company, and he was not HR, he was a CEO.
He said, "You are so young, you have so many works", he talked a lot with my children in **, and finally decided to make an exception for admission, and also talked about the salary, which was double that of the company in Shenzhen, and asked him if he would like to come.
Of course my child would do!He went to Hangzhou alone. Now, he has been working there for 3 years, taking good care of himself, having a stable relationship with his girlfriend, and getting excellent employees for 2 consecutive years.
In the past few years, I have only mustered up the courage to ask him once, "How are you doing now?""He knew I wasn't really asking about the body, but about the illness he had been diagnosed with before.
He immediately shook off, "I'll be fine for a long time." Don't ask about that in the future."
I immediately understood that he didn't want to touch and remember the painful experience, or maybe he didn't know how to tell me. I immediately said, "I'm just concerned, okay!".Don't ask in the future!He stopped talking, but he wasn't angry either.
So, I can only observe more secretly. Fortunately, at least as far as I know, he has been living well, very normal, and has found his purpose in life, and is working hard to forge ahead.
Actually, I was an unqualified father until my child got sick. My work is very busy, my responsibilities are very heavy, and it is normal to be away from home, and my lover takes care of him. Until now, I don't know about what my child has encountered in school and making friends before, and I don't dare to ask him.
And my lover is a typical loving mother, who loves the child very much, never beats and scolds him, and is willing to give his life to the child. But being too loving is sometimes not a good thing, and in some ways it may be too spoiled for the child.
Maybe because of this, although my child is very well-behaved, never causes trouble, does not bully others, and has some good friends, he actually has a very delicate and sensitive side in his heart. He's not the kind of boy with a big-hearted, rough personality.
Director He's words are still deeply engraved in my mind, "Your child must cooperate well, and your family must also **" I have learned a lesson in family education, and I should use a peaceful coexistence with my child, less scolding, less denial, more encouragement, and more affirmation. My child also said that after he experienced this incident, he understood a lot, and he will definitely learn psychological knowledge faster than others in the future, because he has personal feelings.
Finally, I would like to thank Director He and his wife Lucy very much. I have become friends with Director He, and my children often call him "master". At that time, our hearts were really broken, and there was no hope at all, no matter how good the economic conditions were, once the children were unhealthy, the whole family was depressed and miserable. Now that the children are better, our mood is better.
After so many years, the child has been very stable and doing well, and his career and love are going well, and I have nothing to worry about. I really sincerely thank Director He and Lucy for giving the child a second life, Director He and his wife are the benefactors of our family!
Health is one in a hundred