There is a famous saying in "No matter how beautiful it is, it can't be imagined": "Companionship is the most affectionate confession, and guardianship is the most silent companion." ”
In marriage, although the husband and wife do not need to spend time together, it is not advisable to be separated for a long time. For any couple, if they are not able to spend time together, their estrangement can lead to emotional apathy.
Especially for women, the lack of companionship in their lives and long periods of solitude may allow them to gradually adjust to life without a husband, and may even be replaced by another person one day.
Nowadays, life is stressful, and many couples have to face separation. Most often, the husband is away from home to work, while the wife stays at home to take care of the children, and this unbalanced marital state puts many couples in a difficult situation.
Therefore, the separation of husband and wife for a long time does have a particularly large impact on the relationship between husband and wife. The longer the separation, the more indifferent the relationship between the husband and wife, and an insurmountable gap will form between the husband and wife.
So, if the husband and wife are away from each other for a long time, can the woman remain loyal to her husband?How long can a woman endure?The three women's answers seemed very realistic.
Ms. Zhang: Four years in a different place, hovering on the verge of partingMs. Zhang and her husband have been married for more than five years. Since the second year of marriage, the husband has been working in the field and can only return home once a year.
The two met on a blind date, got married after half a year of dating, and have always had a good relationship. Initially, Ms. Zhang thought that her married life would be happy, but this was not the case.
When her husband was not at home, Ms. Zhang felt very lonely. Due to the short time together, various conflicts arise between husband and wife.
Although her husband sends money home every year, she always feels that something is missing, and her feelings for her husband have become indifferent.
Ms. Zhang said: "What is the use of money, I can't even see each other. I handle all the big and small affairs at home alone, and the pressure makes me breathless. ”
Sometimes, she would go to the village to chat with other women to relieve her loneliness, but when she got home, she still felt cold and desolate.
Faced with many problems, she could not solve them, so she had to ask the men of the village for help. This situation embarrassed her, who was originally a conservative woman and worried that others would talk about it.
As a result, Ms. Zhang felt that such a life was very depressing, especially when she felt lonely and helpless at night, and she began to wonder if marrying her husband was the wrong choice in the first place.
When asked how long she could endure it, she said that it was no longer possible to continue, and if it weren't for the sake of her children, she would definitely choose to leave.
Ms. Zhang stressed that although she never considered being sorry for her husband, she really couldn't stand this kind of life of separation between husband and wife.
Eventually, she believes that if the separation continues, it may only be a matter of time before she leaves.
In fact, companionship is really important in marriage. If couples are not able to accompany each other, the relationship will almost inevitably suffer.
Good companionship not only brings the couple's heart closer and helps to communicate, but also promotes the relationship between the husband and wife, making the love for each other more durable.
Ms. Chen: After five years in a different place, I hope that my husband will return home as soon as possibleMs. Chen and her husband have been married for nearly eight years. Due to the change in the family's finances, the husband had to go out to work for five years.
After marriage, their living conditions were average, and with two children, the pressure on life suddenly increased.
Over the years, my husband has been working part-time for a mediocre salary, and he said that he would come back in two years.
In the days when her husband is not at home, Ms. Chen manages the family alone, takes care of the elderly and children, and basically has no leisure.
She sometimes encounters difficulties, such as when her children are sick and she cannot be left unattended at home, and she very much hopes that her husband will be around.
Sometimes, when she has no money, she will go to the village to introduce her to some temporary jobs to support the family.
At present, her biggest wish is for her husband to come home early, because she feels very difficult to live alone.
Her husband told her that he would be back in two years, so Ms. Chen kept counting the days, and her anxiety can be imagined.
When asked if she would remain faithful to her husband, Ms. Chan made it clear that she would.
As distressed as she sometimes felt, reason always prevailed, and once she saw it, she stopped thinking about those things.
Moreover, her husband loves her so much that no matter how good other men are, she will not be able to be attracted to them.
Ms. Chen admitted that although life was very difficult, their relationship between husband and wife was very affectionate, her in-laws were very good to her, and the children were gradually growing up, so she could not have other ideas.
Although her husband is not around, she has the responsibility to take care of the family, which is also her responsibility as a wife.
It can be seen that Ms. Chen is really a good wife, she is very popular and kind. Being able to marry such a daughter-in-law is also a blessing for her husband.
Ms. Ning: Seven years in a different place, emotionally estranged, and miserable life Ms. Ning and her husband have been married for more than ten years, their children are in high school, and her husband is engaged in engineering and has been running around all year round.
When it comes to the problem of husband and wife being in different places, Ms. Ning feels very aggrieved, and she feels that her husband really doesn't care about her. Although she can make a lot of money, she doesn't look forward to it at all, and she doesn't even have love, so what's the point of so much money?
After seven years of being in a different place, she has only been intimate with her husband a handful of times, and she has become more and more disappointed in her expectations for marriage, and her life is very miserable.
Many times, she asked her husband to come home and do something else. A long separation is really not good for the relationship.
However, every time her husband didn't understand her, and said that she was short-sighted and how to live if she didn't make money.
Therefore, every communication was fruitless, and the husband still ran around and rarely returned home once a year.
Ms. Ning even suspected that her husband must have something else going on outside, otherwise why didn't he develop at home and have to run outside?Can't you make money at home?
However, she did not dare to mention it to her husband for fear of provoking his anger, and he had a bad temper. For this marriage, Ms. Ning's heart has long become discouraged and cold.
She felt tired every time and felt that it was not worth marrying into this family. Her feelings for her husband have long disappeared, and she even once met a male colleague who used to have a crush, who was very concerned about her and often helped, which made her feel a little moved.
Ms. Ning said that she just longed for someone to accompany her and give her a little warmth, and she was not the kind of woman who was unfaithful to her marriage. If her husband didn't do this to her, how could she do that?Without love, without companionship, she must have someone to talk to.
Therefore, Ms. Ning said, whether or not to separate from her husband will depend on his attitude, and if he continues to do so, the marriage may indeed come to an end.
Conclusion: In fact, it is very common for couples to be in different places for a long time nowadays. If it is not forced by life, it is recommended not to separate easily, otherwise the impact on the relationship between husband and wife will be huge.
If long-distance separation does change lives, it makes sense. But if a man has been away for a long time, has neither contributed to the family, but also neglected his wife, what is the point of such a marriage?
Therefore, it is hoped that long-term long-distance couples can communicate and adjust well to change the situation of separation, so as to avoid the indifference of husband and wife's feelings.
If left unchecked, women can indeed become lonely and lost because they do not have the care and companionship of men, and even feel hopeless about marriage.
Maybe we can't change our lives, but at least we have to make the other person feel loved. After all, companionship is the most affectionate confession, and husband and wife should understand and communicate more, which is beneficial to the longevity and stability of the marital relationship.