Our eyes are accustomed to looking outward, as if the world is always full of novelty and unknown, and ignore the unique scenery deep inside. This habitual outward looking often leads us to fall into deep confusion and find it difficult to understand our inner qualities. Just like drawing a stick figure of a character, we are accustomed to depicting the outer outlines and features, but we often lose sight of the inner emotions and soul.
When we close our eyes and try to depict our inner self, we find that there is a huge difference between the image in front of us and the image in our minds. Similarly, there may be a similar gap between our perception of our own personality. This phenomenon is very common in interpersonal interactions, and we often wonder why we always have difficulty adapting to our surroundings and why we are always misunderstood by others.
Personality is a relatively stable system, but at the same time it is a dynamic and evolving process. The social personality, on the other hand, emphasizes the individual's ability and tendency to adapt, choose, and modify the social environment. Between introverted and extroverted, conventional and unconventional tendencies, there are four types of lifestyles: implementers, supporters, innovators, and bystanders. Each of them exhibits unique personality traits, like the stars in the night sky, each shining brightly.
Take the innovator's Will as an example, who is confident and dares to challenge old rules and frameworks, a trait that makes him an Iron Man-like hero. Vito Corleone, the old godfather of the implementer, is more concerned with real-world rules and responsibilities, and he is able to handle complex relationships in an orderly manner, showing great self-control and cunning.
If we think of interpersonal communication as a stage play, then Will, the spectator type, is a calm bystander who is good at observing the performances of others and then drawing from them. When he met the guidance of a psychology professor, he gradually opened up and began to participate more in the world.
And the development of personality is closely related to the degree of self-realization. Just like Cheng Yong, the protagonist of "I Am Not the God of Medicine", he initially focused on the pain and needs of others, but in the process, his heart gradually grew, and his pattern gradually expanded. This is the process of personality development, which is a process of continuous self-transcendence and self-realization.
At the same time, we also need to pay attention to the influence of other traits such as dominance, initiative, sociability, social demeanor, self-acceptance, empathy, responsibility, socialization, self-restraint, tolerance, etc. These qualities do not exist independently, but influence and shape each other. Understanding these traits helps us understand ourselves better, adapt better to our social environment, and get along better with others.
Overall, understanding your social personality traits is like finding a key to your inner world. Through this assessment, we can understand ourselves more clearly, understand our strengths and weaknesses, and find a social growth path that suits us. This not only helps us to better adapt to the social environment, but also helps us to explore our potential and realize our self-worth.