In 2011, Liu Zhenyun's ** "One Sentence Top 10,000 Sentences" won the Mao Dun Literature Award, causing quite a stir.
More than ten years have passed, and it is still on the top best-selling list of contemporary China.
This **, with the story of two core characters, truly reproduces the loneliness in the hearts of Chinese:
Yang Baishun, who was hesitant and helpless, finally chose to walk out of Yanjin after going through many hardships;
His adopted daughter's son, Niu Aiguo, resolutely chose to go to Yanjin in order to get rid of loneliness after encountering various blows.
One walk and one return, delayed for a hundred years.
They have the same purpose, for someone who can speak, for a word that can be said.
Because, when talking to someone who can speak, one sentence is up to 10,000 sentences.
This sentence is not gorgeous or profound, but it makes people feel empowered and relieved instantly.
It has been said, "Good literature teaches people to grow." ”
Liu Zhenyun has been brewing for three years, and the completed ** of "loud voices and huge silence" is known as the Chinese version of "One Hundred Years of Solitude".
It exhausts the exhaustion of the souls of all living beings and the suffering of life, and also enlightens us:
There are some cruel life truths, the sooner you know it, the better.
"There are people everywhere in the world
It is difficult to find anyone who can say it."
In the first half of the book, Yang Baishun did not have a good time.
He was not loved by his parents, and he was angry for a while, so he left home alone to make a living.
Selling tofu, killing pigs, carrying water for the dyeing workshop, breaking bamboo, and growing vegetables in the county government, he changed a lot of jobs and met many people, but he still couldn't find anyone who could talk to him.
In response to the sentence in the book, "People are everywhere in the world, and those who can speak are hard to find."
No matter what a person's background is, they have the trouble of finding a confidant.
Yang Baishun also thought so.
Going around and around, he married his daughter-in-law, but the two couldn't talk.
The only thing that makes him feel relieved is that he can talk to his 5-year-old stepdaughter Qiaoling.
Even if he was treated coldly after marriage, he was accompanied by Qiaoling, and he didn't feel how difficult his life was.
Unexpectedly, a sudden change disrupted the originally stable life.
His daughter-in-law rolled up all the softness and ran away with others, leaving Qiaoling to rely on him for her life.
As far as he is concerned, he didn't want to go to his daughter-in-law, but because of the world, he could only go out with Qiaoling and pretend to look for it.
Doom picks on the miserable.
Unfortunately, on the way, he lost Qiaoling.
After searching for it without success, he no longer had any nostalgia for Yanjin, where he grew up, and then walked out of Yanjin.
Yang Baishun's life is full of twists and turns, and he wants to talk to someone who can talk about it, just to confide.
In all kinds of life, everyone has their own pain and happiness, if someone confides, the suffering will be reduced by half, and the happiness will be increased several times.
Not only him, but also those of us who are in a heavy life are also facing all kinds of pressures:
I was too tired from work, and I was maliciously complained by a customer, and I had a conflict with my family......
At this time, we all want to have someone who "can speak".
This person can complain to each other about their troubles and express their hearts to each other.
After all, no one can walk all the roads of life alone.
The writer Ma De once explained the word "confidant":
This is an exit in your life, not necessarily the most important exit, but it must be the last exit.In fact, this is also the meaning of "the person who can speak".At this exit, what you get, instead of victory, is release.
Everyone is born lonely, this is fate.
Endless loneliness will run through the trajectory of everyone's life.
But someone understands, someone accompanies them, the soul has sustenance, the soul has comfort, and there will be hope in even the darkest days.
So, if you meet someone who "can speak", please be brave enough to open up.
Don't count on others when it comes to determining your fate
Qiao Ling was abducted to a family surnamed Cao, renamed Cao Qing'e, and after growing up and getting married, she gave birth to a son, Niu Aiguo.
Niu Aiguo, like his adoptive grandfather Yang Baishun, does not like to talk and is not treated well by his parents.
Going to school, serving in the army, being demobilized, and returning to his hometown, he has been pushed forward by fate.
finally got married, and he and his daughter-in-law had nothing to say. As time went by, his wife had an affair.
Niu Aiguo ran out of ideas for a while, so he took a car for two days and two nights to find Du Qinghai, a comrade-in-arms who he could talk about when he was a soldier, and wanted to ask the other party to help him sort things out and come up with a reliable idea.
Du Qinghai's suggestion is not to divorce, but to please his daughter-in-law in every way.
So how to do it?
Since the husband and wife are estranged because they can't speak, they have nothing to say, and they say good things.
Niu Aiguo believed it to be true, so he did it completely.
He not only endured his daughter-in-law's centrifugation, but also took the initiative to be courteous to his daughter-in-law.
Even though it was difficult to find words, and even more difficult to find good words, he still persevered patiently.
What he didn't expect was that there were too many good things to say, and his daughter-in-law called it "disgusting".
He suddenly realized that Du Qinghai's idea was not reliable at all.
In the past few years, Niu Aiguo has said hypocritical things and done hypocritical things, which has not only failed to achieve the goal of "talking" with his daughter-in-law, but also made him feel tired.
When he came back to his senses, he understood that he should not have looked for others when it was fateful things.
In the early years, when his adoptive grandfather Yang Baishun ran into walls everywhere, he was also advised:
When it comes to small things, you can count on others;When encountering major events, you must not tie your own fate to others. ”
It's just that Niu Aiguo didn't understand this truth at first.
It's not just Niu Aiguo who doesn't understand this principle, but many of us have had similar confusion in life:
When faced with life-threatening choices such as which university to study, whether to go to graduate school or graduate school, what kind of partner to choose, etc., many people will seek advice from people who seem to have a vision.
In fact, they don't necessarily put themselves in our shoes.
Mr. Yang Jiang has a saying:
It's best not to expect too much from others, everyone has their own difficulties, and if you really have to hope for it, you can't expect too much, and if you expect too much, you will be easily disappointed.At the end of the day, no one is your backer forever.On the road of life, we are all lonely walkers, such as people drink water and know that you are always the only one who can really help you.
Relying too much on others and expecting others to guide one's life, in the end, it is still oneself who is in trouble.
Therefore, if you want to get out of the predicament, you must rely on yourself.
"The days are in the future, not in the past."
In this book, what touched me the most was this sentence:
"The days are in the future, not in the past."”
Moreover, this sentence came from the mouths of two women who had experienced the world.
Since his wife eloped with someone else, Niu Aiguo's life has also been messed up.
After the deception of marriage and the trials and tribulations of life, he was heartbroken and planned to leave his hometown.
Before leaving, he went home to visit his mother, Cao Qing'e, and her daughter.
Cao Qing'e knew what happened to her son and felt sorry for her son, but she was helpless, so she only said a word of relief:
I also see through one thing, living is in the future, not in the past. ”
When they were young, they were not liked by their parents, they had no common language with their lovers, and they couldn't get along with the people around them, and they had a lot of similarities between mother and son.
So, she said it to herself, and to her son.
Coincidentally, the same words, Niu Aiguo heard them again many years later.
In the process of looking for his daughter-in-law, he thought of his mother's wish to contact the descendants of his adoptive father Yang Baishun, so he embarked on the road of finding his roots.
After Yang Baishun left Xianyang, Shaanxi, he married a wife and had children there.
When Niu Aiguo rushed to Xianyang, he rushed to Yang Baishun's grandson's house non-stop.
Through Yang Baishun's granddaughter-in-law He Yufen, he learned that Yang Baishun had died 20 years ago, and He Yufen's husband also died of stomach cancer eight years ago, leaving her alone with her two children to live a difficult life.
The two of them could talk, and Niu Aiguo also expressed his troubles.
Before leaving, He Yufen told him: "The days are over, not the past." If I don't think about this, I wouldn't be able to live today. ”
Although it is a word of comfort, it sounds like there is endless bitterness hidden between the words.
If you hadn't experienced a lot of sorrows, how could you have said such heartfelt words?
Life is hard, and everyone is not born easy.
There is no life that is not wronged, and getting through it is the only way to get through.
Under the epidemic, many people have lost their jobs, careers, and foundations.
What's worse is that it has also worn out the fighting spirit and enthusiasm of many people.
As ordinary and ordinary people, we can only look forward and move forward as much as possible.
Writer Mu Xin said, "When a person comes out of sorrow and generosity, he is an artist." ”
You can't get out of the past, and you can't live well in the present. Because, clinging to the past, it is difficult for people to get a new life.
And excessive complaining, or infinite entanglement, is also a kind of internal friction of life.
Rather than this, it is better to let go of obsession, bravely get out of the cage of fate, and get out of the trough of life.
As long as we live and look forward, we will have hope and be truly liberated from suffering.
In the program "Literature Everyone Says", Liu Zhenyun said a classic saying:
Read, read good books, insightful words, a sentence top 10,000 sentences. ”
His ** "One Sentence Top 10,000 Sentences" is like a genre painting, and many people in the painting are living alone.
Everyone in the book has his own thoughts, but some people have nothing to say, and some people have nothing to say.
Slowly, these thoughts are pressed into the bottom of my heart, become a matter of my heart, and become the deepest loneliness.
Perhaps, we have also felt sympathy for the life tragedy and spiritual tragedy of Yang Baishun and Niu Aiguo, but many of us are not like this.
The value of their twists and turns is also to guide us to think.
I am reminded of a quote from Balzac: "A man who can think is really a man of boundless power." ”
For us, we read other people's stories and understand our own lives.
And everyone's life is a practice.
Whether we have experienced ups and downs or the road ahead is full of fog, may we all cultivate a strong heart to calmly deal with the impermanence of life.
Encourage your friends.
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