In the growth of children, family is the top priority, and the three keys to family education are: atmosphere, companionship, and habits.
01. Children's growth is inseparable from a good family atmosphere
The TV series "Minglong Boy" is on the air, and Shen Yao's growth experience in the play gave me a great shock, it turns out that the growth of children has a lot to do with the family atmosphere.
Shen Yao self-harmed in "Minglong Boy" in order to vent. Dad Shen asks for a little bit of his children, but he demands a little bit of himself.
After Shen's father cheated, Shen's mother's behavior was even more disgusting, she did not restrain her husband, but she PUA the child went to Shen's father, and forced him to listen to Shen's father and Xiaosan's flirtation.
The parents were busy with infighting, and no one cared about their children, because they were deeply hurt by their relatives, which led to the distortion of Shen Yao's mind.
If the child's heart is originally a blank slate, a bad family atmosphere will paint the child's soul with shadows, which will affect the child's growth and lead to psychological distortion.
What kind of family atmosphere you give your child, what characteristics the child may form.
02. No matter how busy your parents are, they must give them good company
I have a friend whose parents have been working since he was very young, from school to university, and rarely see his parents except for the Chinese New Year.
In order to make money, I always get together with him less and leave more, and when I grow up, I have a very weak relationship with my parents, and there is no topic to talk about.
Every time you hit **:
You haven't "eaten" it
When it's cold, take care of your clothes."
Okay, got it, I'll hang up if it's okay."
Left-behind children. Children are not accompanied by their parents at the key to growth, just like flowers leaving the rain and dew. Children who lack the company of their parents are inferior and crippled in their hearts!
In "The First Lesson of School", Dong Qing said: "When educating children, you choose to earn money, not to discipline children, the money you earn in your life is not worth what he spends in a year."
Moving China" in 2014, Yang Naibin shared his story. A severe fever caused him severe hearing impairment and speech impairment, and it was his parents who did not give up on his life.
His mother even put down everything at home, accompanied him to school, took care of his daily life, and acted as his ears.
He also lived up to expectations and was admitted to the City College of Hebei University of Technology with his "mother at the same table".
The good qualities of children are not learned from books, but by the words and deeds of their parents, and they lead by example.
03. Children's growth is inseparable from the formation of good habits.
* The writer Fyodor Dostoevsky said that "the second half of a person's life is made up of habits, and his habits are formed in the first half of his life".
Everyone knows that the great writer Mr. Lu Xun has a table engraved with the word "morning". This is his enlightenment period, because of family reasons, he is often late, and after being criticized by the teacher, he silently carved it as his own wake-up call.
Three Flavors Book House. Since then, he has never been late. The formation of good habits can greatly change a person's fate.
The ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle once left an insightful definition of "habit formation": "Human behavior is always repeated over and over again. Therefore, excellence is not a single action, but a habit, and people are shaped by habits, and excellent results come from good habits, not momentary actions."
Good habits can last a lifetime and determine our fate!
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