"Ten Layers of the World" is praised by many as the realistic version of "Alive", and the author Hou Yuan is a veteran who loves words.
Through ten chapters, he tells his life experience from childhood to adulthood, although it is full of suffering, it is not sad, but it makes people feel an upward force.
If you're wrestling with fate right now, read this book to help you find the meaning of redefining happiness and find what you already have but you inadvertently throw away.
Next, let's go into the lives of ordinary people and understand the truths of life that have been ignored by us.
In the relationship between husband and wife, another name for fear is love
When Hou Yuan was a child, he was particularly envious of some of his classmates, thinking that their mother was gentle and considerate, while his own mother was short-tempered and rude.
For this reason, he suffered a lot and often received "broom education".
Even Dad was not "spared".
Because of my father's drinking, my mother lost her temper a lot, not only smashed dozens of boxes of wine at home, but also let my father sleep on the roof.
Every time his mother lost his temper, he and his sister were too scared to use chopsticks to eat, and his father was too scared to speak.
When he was in junior high school, Hou Yuan secretly persuaded his father: "Why don't you change your daughter-in-law?"Give me a new mom too. ”
Dad, who was driving, did not speak.
At that time, Hou Yuan thought that his father didn't dare, but later realized that he didn't understand his parents' love.
Later, Hou Yuan's mother was seriously ill, and his father pulled wood during the day to make money, and then sent the money to the hospital at night, and the cycle continued, and finally snatched his lover back from the hands of death.
Although Dad never said "I love you", he made the best proof with practical actions.
There is such a line in the movie "Ip Man":There is no man who is afraid of his wife in this world, only a man who respects his wife.
In one sentence.
In marriage, a man's tolerance for a woman is not out of fear, but out of respect and love.
Director Wu Jing once generously admitted in an interview: "It's a good thing to be afraid of your wife, I don't think it's a good man to be soft, women just have to be cared for, men, they should listen to their wives." ”
A truly mature man will never go toe-to-toe with his wife, but know how to bow his head and give in at the right time.
Because they know that those tiresome verbosities and disciplines are actually for their own good and the good of their families.
In front of our lovers, we don't have to be recklessYou don't need toCamouflage
Just use love to warm each other.
True happiness, perhapsAll the timearound
In life, there are always people who complain that they have a bad background, a bad job, and a ...... that their love is blocked, as if he were the most unfortunate person in the world.
As everyone knows, these are just the normal state of life, and true happiness may always be around, but you turn a blind eye to it.
In the book, Hou Yuan tells the story of the miracle of his brothers.
When he was in elementary school, Miracle's parents divorced, and since then, he has become a "motherless child" and has been labeled as "uneducated" by everyone, even though he has not done anything uneducated.
Miracle silently endured the prejudice of adults and the bullying of his classmates.
The only thing that made him happy was every time his mother visited, but he never dared to tell anyone else, because he knew that his mother would still leave.
Later, Miracle discovers that his forbearance will only be regarded as cowardice, so he begins to fight back, although he will still be despised, but no one will bully him anymore.
The miracle of not being able to read a book, he began to earn a living very early, he worked as a big worker, a small worker, and a tower crane driver on the construction site, earning up to 200 yuan a day.
When he invited his brothers to dinner, he sat there and bent over, and his words revealed humility.
Later, the miracle parents are ready to get back together.
During that time, Miracle seemed to be a different person, he no longer paid attention to the trivial things around him, and his speech was no longer full of negative energy, but he noticed the little things in life and made a girlfriend.
However, the good times did not last long, and a few months later, Miraculous's mother passed away and his girlfriend broke up.
After disappearing for a while, Miracle switched to selling fruits, and his goal was: to earn money to buy a second-hand car and a small courtyard on the outskirts of the county, and to have a home of his own.
The German writer Hermann Hesse once said in "Steppenwolf"."Even the most unfortunate life will have sunny times, and small flowers of happiness will grow in the cracks of the sand and gravel. ”
Although life is full of bitterness and helplessness, as long as you dare to face it, you will feel even the smallest happiness.
As the author said in the book: "The road of the world is rugged, whether it is sweet or bitter, maybe only in the thought of you and me." ”
Instead of staring at the unsatisfactory, it is better to do soFeel it with your heartHappiness in front of you.
lifeBothThere is bitterness, but also sweetness
One night in winter, Hou Yuan was hungry after playing a game, so he walked out of the house and wanted to eat a bowl of noodles.
Under the dim streetlights, the streets were deserted, except for the occasional few fallen leaves.
When I looked at my watch, I realized that it was half past one in the morning, and when I was about to walk back, I saw fireworks on a lonely stall on the side of the road.
The boss is a middle-aged man wearing clothes with Naruto's face on them, crotch pants, and a pair of dirty canvas shoes on his feet.
At first, Hou Yuan thought that the boss was still childlike, and after chatting, he learned that it was his son's clothes.
The boss said that as long as he had time, he would set up a stall here until two or three o'clock in the morning.
Hou Yuan looked at his canvas shoes and asked, "Aren't they cold?"”
The boss embarrassedly shrunk his feet behind the gas canister and said, "I don't have a fire here, and besides, this stove is full of oil, so I can't wear other shoes." ”
Then, waving his spoon, he said, "You don't know, it's too hard to do this." If you don't get off work in the middle of the night, you won't see visitors for an hour or two;I want to get off work, but I'm afraid that someone will come to ...... after I leave”
Then, the boss talked about his junior high school children: "It's okay to study, but I love to spend money......There was a hint of helplessness in his proud tone.
His son likes **, although the family is very poor, pots and pans can basically be used, but there are all kinds of musical instruments.
Fortunately, the child is very sensible, does not smoke secretly, does not fall in love, and saves up every time he gives pocket money and does not buy snacks, and buys birthday gifts for him and his lover.
His grades were also at the top of his class, and he sat in the first row at every parent-teacher conference.
Although the parents of other children are all big leaders, big entrepreneurs, and well-known scholars, ......, but as a common man who sets up a stall, he has never felt worse than them.
Every time the child handed him the award, he felt that all his hard work was worth it.
In "Wonderful Sayings", Bai Bonnie once sighed: "The heart is full of bitter people, how much sweetness does it take to fill it." Ma Dong replied: "A hint of sweetness is enough." ”
In the adult world, thoughFull of bitterness, but also sweetness.
It is this sweetness that allows us to carry it allHard andToughConstantlybeforeYes.
Bi Shumin said: "Only when a person places all his body and mind in the best state can he become a soft cotton yarn, and the world full of holes and thousands of turns, warm embrace, weaving a wonderful and splendid life." ”
There are smooth roads and gaps in the world, and no matter what you have been through or are going through, don't complain.
Only with a contented and grateful heart, with a positive and optimistic attitude to face difficulties and accept the challenges of life, can we have a better life.
Finally, let's use the book's epilogue to encourage us:
After walking through the ten floors of the world, it is still born upward. Even if you are born like a mustard, you will never be willing to live in a sloppy manner!”
Cognitive Awakening: The best way to grow is to work the "edge of the comfort zone".
There will always be a past, there will always come": The best choice in life is to stick to your heart.