Emotional outpouring. I am a widowed man, my wife has passed away for more than 3 years, a son has been married for many years, and I have been living alone since my wife passed awayOf course, I'm very lonely, I don't have friends, my parents are gone, I have nowhere to go every day, I don't know what to do, I basically deal with food, I don't know how to do it, I just don't get hungry, and I don't have any hobbies.
To be honest, I have long planned to find a wife, but I have to wait until my wife's 3rd anniversary, I don't want to be talked about by others, I have a little more than 4800 yuan a month, I have a house, my health is not bad, except for my poor memory, there are no other problems, I don't smoke and drink a little wine at night, the basic situation is like this.
Just after the Spring Festival this year, someone introduced me to a lady, divorced, 55 years old, a son is married, because he lives with his son, there is a conflict with his daughter-in-law, so he plans to find an old wife, people look good, at first glance is a clean and neat person, so I communicated twice, I feel okay, and I am very satisfied with me.
Just put forward a request, her pension is only more than 1,000 points per month, what I am worried about is that if I leave early, I may not even be able to go back to my son's house, and I told me to see if I can save some for her every month, even if it is a few hundred yuan, there is no other meaning, I feel that there is no problem, she said that the problem does exist, this worry is not superfluous, so I agreed.
I said that I only have 5,000 yuan a month, and the two of us will live according to this standard, there should be no problem, and we will not rent a house, 180 yuan of water, electricity and gas will be enough, and I can't eat big fish and meat every day, and there are no other expenses, and there is also medical insurance, so it should not be a big problem, so we came together like this.
Let's be together for a month, I saved 10,000 yuan for her, let her rest assured, we went to the vegetable market and a supermarket together, went out for a walk together, cooked together, and there was nothing to do in a day, but after two months, the problem appeared, she didn't like to be with me at night, every time she would say that she was not feeling well, there were few times together, and she was almost not together in the next few months, which was not a reluctant thing, but I felt a little uncomfortable in my heart.
It's because I don't understand it enough, or she has a problem, no matter what, we are husband and wife, even if we don't get a certificate, we are a substantive husband and wife, so that the separation feels like losing the meaning of finding a wife, and now we have been together for more than half a year, if it goes on like this in the future, then the meaning of finding a wife is in **?
Tell me, what should I do?
You're the person in question, and if something like this happened to someone else, what would you say to him?Whether it's a partner to live or remarry, husband and wife are not just daily life, if there is no 'life', then it will lose its meaning, this is a thing that men can not accept, this is very different from the original couple, if it is the original partner, it may not be nothing, but it will not work for the old wife who came together later, the man is looking for the wife, this matter is very important, and it is also the main purpose of the man, saying that everything else is a lie and an excuse.
But then again, both of you have problems, because your age should be very clear, and your physical fitness is not the same, as a man, how is your body, how old is it to find a suitable person, you should have a number in your heart, just like a car, you want to run at a speed of 80 miles, you buy a tractor, can it withstand your speed?I'm sure I'm going to throw the car away.
This lady also has a big problem, looking for a wife should know what the purpose of the wife is, since you can't accept this matter, then you shouldn't look for it, people don't want to drive, why do you want to buy a car?For the sake of ornamentation?This means that this lady also has a big problem, how is her body, whether she needs it or not, she should be very clear, if she doesn't need it, and she can't accept the needs of men, then she shouldn't find a wife.
Two people need to communicate, what is the problem, can you discuss and solve, is it sick, you have to go to the hospital to find a doctor, you can't compete with each other silently, men should understand women a little more, 55 years old is really no longer young, some things are really not needed, this is completely understandable, as a man can not be tolerated, these all need effective communication, mutual understanding and love.
A tractor made in the 60s, you have to run at high speed, you think, can it do it?
It's like we are driving, holding the steering wheel, the clutch with the left foot, you need to slowly release the clutch, slowly step on the accelerator, you can't start at high speed, take your time, when to shift gears, when to give the throttle, when to point the brake, you have to have a degree, this is not an off-road vehicle, you can't run so fast, don't turn off when going uphill, use a low gear, don't put neutral gear when going downhill, with a gear, point the brake, the engine has an abnormal noise, you have to stop and check it** If something goes wrong, you should repair it when you should repair it, and you should also take a 'break' when you should take a 'break', and take good care of your car, so that you can drive it for longer.
If you really can't accept it, then there is only one way to go, it's better to get together and disperse, it's normal to consume a little bit for more than half a year, there is no need to be difficult for yourself, let alone for others, what do you say?
For the elderly looking for a wife, can think of what will happen, then prepare in advance, get vaccinated, no matter what, health must be put first, if you know that you have something unacceptable, then don't look for any wife, 'life' is very important, you can't do without, you say right?