How to communicate with children who are tired of school in junior high school?
1. Parents must understand one thing: boredom is not a matter of one or two days.
Boredom with school must be the result of a long period of accumulation, and freezing three feet is not a day's cold.
So parents don't expect words to bring their children back. Not only can't parents do it, but you can't do it if you ask school teachers, ask your children's respected elders, and invite psychologists.
Because the laws of psychology are like that. Problems caused by time also need time to be solved.
2. Boredom comes from the accumulation of small grievances and frustrations.
When I got home, I was urged by my parents to write my homework, I was criticized by my parents for writing wrong questions, and my parents kept reprimanding me after being named by the teacher, and I was counted out for not doing well in ......the examand so on, these trivial things are like a drop of water, dripping through the slate in the child's heart.
Children are tired of learning because they have accumulated a lot of grievances, not because they are tired of learning because their brains are pumped.
Therefore, if your child is tired of school, parents should not ask "why don't you like to learn Xi?"”
This sentence will become in the ears of children: "Are you sick and don't like to learn Xi?"”
He only had grievances and depression, and couldn't answer anything.
3. Parents should be determined.
Determination is that there is no one who does not want to live well. The child is naturally self-motivated, and he must yearn for a bright future.
Don't always think that your child will ruin your future.
In fact, all children who spoil themselves are taking revenge on their parents or other close ones.
Therefore, when your child is tired of school, do not control him with anxiety. There is some relaxation, but it is more problematic.
4. Be patient and make long-term plans.
Children are tired of school, and we should have a long-term plan.
First do two things: one is to improve the parent-child relationship, and the other is not to put pressure on children to learn Xi.
When the parent-child relationship is good, the child will guide his parents to really love him and be more willing to listen to his parents. When the pressure of learning Xi is reduced, children will be more willing to learn Xi.
The communication of parents is working in two directions here.
Don't say anything that is not conducive to improving the parent-child relationship, and don't mention things that affect your child's Xi emotions.
5. Pay attention to children's sense of worth.
To put it simply, a sense of value is the feeling of "I'm good, I'm useful".
Many parents like to criticize and criticize their children as useless, and their children's sense of worth has also fallen to the bottom. In a real-life case, a child said to his parents, "You just treat me as a lump*, leave me alone, okay?"”
How can such a child work hard to learn Xi?
Parents should praise their children more and use them more, so that their children can be recognized and give full play to their own value.
The higher the sense of worth, the less likely a child is to get bored with school.
Editor: rob