Fidelity is a requirement of marriage, and with such bondage, the relationship can be long-lasting. If one of the spouses abdicates responsibility for the marriage and has an extramarital affair, the family will eventually disintegrate.
Both men and women, even if they don't love each other, once they get married, they invisibly assume the mission and responsibility, be loyal to the family, and watch the centripetal force that two people pay together for the family.
If the marriage train deviates from the track in the process of moving forward, and each other no longer follows the path of their hearts, and even the basic marital obligations cannot be fulfilled, the relationship will naturally fall to the freezing point.
obviously has a wife in his arms, but he still can't do emotional self-discipline to pursue true love, there is nothing wrong with falling in love with other women, wrong is wrong, and having more than one relationship at the same time.
Breaking the worldly recognition of fidelity and betraying the vows of marriage will result in a person who may not necessarily enjoy happiness.
In Junichi Watanabe's ** "Betrayal", the protagonist is such an existence, who thought he had it at the same time, but he was powerless in the process of management, not only did not get it, but lost more.
Loving someone is a very energy-consuming thing, especially when the lover is unhappy, it takes time to coax, whether it can be coaxed, and how long it will take, are all unknown settings.
Even if the time and money spent still can't change the outcome of peace, if the mood can't be calmed down, it will fall into huge internal friction, affecting the energy and mood to do other things.
As the male protagonist in "Betrayal", Kazeno, an extramarital lover Kaneko quarrels with his wife and is jealous of each other, Kaneko vents all his dissatisfaction on Kazeno, deliberately speaks cruelly, implements cold violence, and his whereabouts are unknown, which makes Kazeno upset, has no time to work, and interrupts a lot of arrangements.
When he gets home, his wife will also invisibly exert pressure, so that Kazeno's heart is always in a state of high tension.
Family affection can satisfy the momentary stimulation, but this short-term novelty cannot become a long-term feast. Love is like sugar, it can only be a part of life, enough love is the seasoning of ordinary life, if there are more insatiable desires, it will make people tired of it.
Human energy is limited, and if it is only spent in one place, it is doomed to have no time to take care of others. The relationship in business is the same, with love outside of marriage, it is destined to spend time on each other to manage, and when you are busy, you will naturally blame the lover around you.
Just like the wind in "Betrayal", there is not only a wife at home, but also two lovely children, although his wife is not his beloved, but the children can always arouse his heart.
With Jinzi, in order to make each other happy, they stay together from morning to night, sometimes even at night, because as soon as they mention home, love makes a scene.
So every time I can go home, the child is either asleep or ready to go to school, and the parent-child relationship doesn't have much time to function, and this kind of life makes Kazeno feel guilty.
The time spent with the family seems to be long, but in fact it is short, just like children and parents, unconsciously, the number of times the child goes home each semester is getting less and less, and the degree of dependence on the parents is also getting lower and lower.
It would be too selfish if a person loses the opportunity to accompany his child to grow up in order to taste the freshness of love repeatedly, after all, the child's growth process is inseparable from one of the parents.
Men in a family not only play the role of fathers, but also husbands, sons, etc., the presence of love outside of marriage will greatly reduce a person's presence in the family, and in the absence of each family member, it is something that each other will regret.
This is probably the truest psychological state of every man who wants to have extramarital love.
It is of course a beautiful thing to be able to bathe in the freshness of love all the time, but no matter who you are with, you can't avoid the dullness of passion after all.
The novelty of a relationship is not repeating old things with a new person, but being able to try new experiences with an old person.
If you ignore the feelings of the elderly and repeatedly pursue new love, you will only inadvertently break your partner's heart and break up the otherwise stable family relationship.
Just like Kazeno in "Betrayal", every time he goes home, he can't see his wife's kind face, and he is always skeptical about his whereabouts.
Even, he would deliberately make a small mark on his underwear to test and declare war.
Love outside of marriage, no matter how much beauty you have tasted, only a wife will always be worthy of a lifetime.
If the marriage is not faithful enough, repeated betrayal breaks the wife's heart, and she is doomed to lose a confidant man.