1. Internal friction is in complaining and anger.
Dissatisfaction and frustration in life often make us fall into emotions of complaint and anger. However, this emotion only drains our energy and makes us more tired. Complaining and anger don't solve the problem, but rather lead us deeper into trouble.
Sober people know that complaining and anger will only make themselves more miserable and make things worse. They choose to face life's challenges with a positive mindset and take action to solve problems. As the famous saying goes: ". .If you can't solve the problem, you'll be the problem. ”
Mr. Zhang was criticized by the leader for his mistakes at work, and he felt very angry and dissatisfied. He began to complain about the injustice of his leadership, the indifference of his colleagues, and his own misfortune. He spends a lot of time and energy complaining and angry instead of taking positive action to solve the problem. As a result, his work performance deteriorated and his relationships became more and more strained.
Second, the internal friction is in the endless comparison.
We often get caught up in comparisons with others, comparing material things, status, achievements, and so on. This kind of comparison not only makes us feel anxious and lost, but also consumes our energy and time.
Sober people know that comparison will only plunge themselves into endless pain. They choose to focus on their own growth and progress rather than comparing themselves to others. As the Internet saying goes, "Don't let other people's opinions dictate your heart." ”
Ms. Li and her friend Ms. Wang are both new to the workplace. Miss Li saw that Miss Wang had achieved good results in her work and began to feel anxious and lost. She began to compare herself with Miss Wang, trying to surpass her. She spends a lot of time and energy striving for transcendence instead of focusing on her own growth and progress. As a result, not only did she not surpass Miss Wang, but she lost her advantage due to excessive competition.
Third, internal friction in the past regrets.
We are often caught up in self-blame and remorse for past regrets. This emotion can not only make us feel lost and depressed, but it can also affect our future.
Sober people know that the regrets of the past cannot be changed, and they choose to learn from them and face the future bravely. As the famous saying goes: ". .The past is in the past, the future has not yet happened, and the only thing we can do is cherish the present. ”
Xiao Wang failed an important exam, and he felt very regretful and blamed himself. He began to dwell on the regrets of the past and could not extricate himself. He spent a lot of time and energy recalling the mistakes of the past without learning from them and facing the future bravely. As a result, he failed again in the following exams and missed important opportunities.
Fourth, internal friction is in the future worry.
We are often worried and anxious about the uncertainty of the future. Not only can this emotion make us feel tired and restless, but it can also affect our quality of life and well-being.
A sober person knows that worrying about the future will only plunge him into endless misery. They choose to live in the moment and cherish every moment in front of them. As the famous saying goes: ". .The future belongs to the brave. ”
Xiao Li is a college student who is starting to think about his future career plans. He was very worried and anxious because he didn't know which direction he should choose. He began to imagine all possible futures and tried to ** future trends. He spent a lot of time and energy worrying about the future, instead of focusing on the Xi and growth of the present. As a result, he missed out on a lot of opportunities and didn't make a wise career choice.
We should learn to complain less and be angry, avoid comparisons, let go of past regrets, and cherish the present. Only then can we truly enjoy the beauty and happiness of life. At the same time, we should also learn to pay attention to our inner needs and feelings, and find our own worth and meaning.
Only those who are rich in heart can truly feel happiness.