Interest is really the best teacher, with small goals, take the initiative in everything you do, adults are like this, and children are even more so.
My son has recently become obsessed with cigarette cards, and the most popular game for primary school students in Guangdong is to fold the top of a hard-shell cigarette box into a small rectangular paper shell, put it on the table, and turn it over with a pat with your hand, and there seem to be many ways to play.
Since the school doesn't encourage children to play, I didn't know the specifics of the game, and it didn't seem to be anything wrong. Since the school doesn't encourage it, I always want to stop my son from playing when I see him, and I have to remind and even check my schoolbag every day to make sure that I haven't brought it to school to play. He likes it very much, and always thinks about the law to secretly take two back to school, and sometimes bring a few more back, which should be given by classmates.
I forbade him to play this, mainly because the school was going to ban it, and I was worried that he would break discipline at school. As for whether playing with this thing will be harmful to him, I haven't found out yet. But there is a little unexpected hair, in order to play cigarette cards, the son has improved in other aspects:
I said that playing cigarette cards delayed studying, so he took the initiative to complete his homework;
When I said that I was addicted to playing cigarette cards, I immediately recited the multiplication mantra aloud and took the initiative to memorize words to prove to me that his mind was still bright.
In order to save more cigarette cards, he is willing to get up 20 minutes early every day, and then walk to school, in order to have the opportunity to pick up empty cigarette boxes on the way, he can see the cigarette box without reading the words can say what brand of cigarettes it is, he is really serious for his own interests, and has changed a lot, I sometimes grasp his weakness and let him do some lazy problems that he didn't want to do or don't want to change, which is basically effective.
Children are the same as adults, they are interested in something, or have a goal they want to achieve, and they can do their best to do it without being urged by adults. Or, when educating children, we should use his interests more to supervise, rather than yelling and yelling.