In interpersonal interactions, we often meet people who are cautious and hold grudges. Whether it is because of competition at work or conflicts in life, these people are always obsessed with the faults of others, unwilling to let go, and even retaliate in various ways. However, the more cautious the person who holds a grudge, the more pronounced these traits become, and they often fall into a psychological dilemma.
Psychologists believe that people who are careful about holding grudges tend to have the following characteristics. First, they lack tolerance and the ability to understand others. They place too much emphasis on their own interests and opinions, and it is difficult to understand the actions and motivations of others from the perspective of others. Second, they are susceptible to past injuries and setbacks. Once they are hurt, they plant seeds in their hearts and are ready to take revenge on each other, which makes it impossible for them to truly let go. Finally, they often lack a sense of self-reflection and growth. They often see themselves as victims, putting all the blame on others and thus unable to free themselves from the pain of the past.
However, we should understand that the person who holds a grudge with a careful eye is not impossible to change. With some positive means, they can gradually get out of this psychological dilemma. First, they need to learn to be tolerant. Tolerance is a kind of cultivation, a noble quality, and only tolerance can truly liberate the mind. Second, they can move on to the pain of the past through self-reflection and growth. Only by truly recognizing one's own problems and taking the initiative to find solutions can one get rid of the psychological dilemma. Finally, they can solve their inner troubles by seeking the help of professional psychological counseling. A professional counsellor can help them find the real cause and provide effective solutions.
People who are careful about holding grudges are often plagued by their own psychological dilemmas, but they are not incapable of changing them. By learning tolerance, self-reflection and growth, as well as seeking the help of professional counseling, they can gradually get out of this predicament and regain their inner peace and happiness.