In relationships and marriages, there is a very common but sensitive topic, and that is cheating. When it comes to cheating, one of the first things that comes to everyone's mind is physical cheating, which as the name suggests, is having sex with other people. There are very specific standards and intuitiveness for physical infidelity, and once the physical infidelity is broken, it will have a very big impact.
The concept of mental infidelity is not as well-known as physical infidelity, because there is no specific standard for mental infidelity, and there is no direct physical evidence, and even if it is discovered, it will be forcibly whitewashed because it has not yet made an actual move: "Won't I just chat, and I haven't done anything sorry for you, how many men don't cheat?".It's okay if you don't have a physical derailment, don't be nervous and unreasonable all day long!“。Therefore, many people have no way to break up and divorce as confidently as if they were physically derailed after being derailed mentally.
But in fact, among physical and mental derailment, the most unworthy and difficult to forgive is spiritual derailment.
It is said that men are creatures who think by the lower body, although this sentence is not scientific, but it also shows that men are easily dominated by sexual desire. So it's hard to say whether a man cheats to satisfy his sexual desire or because he's in love with each other. But mental derailment represents a departure from love, involving the sharing of emotions and spiritual communication with others, this betrayal will make the partner feel neglected, betrayed, disappointed, and insecure, and hurt the partner's trust and connection.
The reason why mental infidelity is less forgivable is also because mental infidelity hits people harder. Mental derailment to physical derailment is actually a process of quantitative change to qualitative change. Mental infidelity is like a "cheating story": when a wife finds out that her husband has an ambiguous object to chat with, but because they are only occasionally ambiguous when chatting, they do not make the move of Century Star, so she does not take the chat record to question her husband, she is worried that after questioning, her husband will accuse her of not trusting him, so she can only endure it and continue to live as if nothing happened. But this ambiguous object is a thorn in her heart after all, so she will regularly look through his phone, as if waiting to find something. Finally, one day, she waited for a hotel registration record.
After discovering that her husband and boyfriend are mentally cheating, there is no way to continue to live and get along as usual, and the love, trust, and expectations for him will be worn away little by little, and you will fall into internal friction in the suspicion and suspicion day after day. This kind of internal friction can make people become unconfident and suspicious even after a breakup.
All in all, no kind of infidelity should be forgiven, but mental infidelity can cause greater and more lasting damage. In other words, physical derailment is equivalent to a shot to death, and mental derailment is like Ling Chi, grinding and not giving a pleasure. So if the other half shows signs of mental derailment, there should be no hesitation and wait for the situation to develop to the point of no return. If you can't let go of the other party, then talk openly and honestly with the other party about how to solve it when you find out;If you can't stand that your other half is emotionally impure and not unique, then separate immediately and don't give yourself a chance for internal friction.