Zhuangzi said: A person who has no name in his heart and is not bound by fame and fortune will be divided between inside and outside, and will be judged by the realm of honor and disgrace.
By sending our own light, walking our own path, and seeing our own feelings, we will not be confused by external gains and losses, honors and disgraces, and let ourselves be anxious all the time.
There is an eggshell theory in psychology, which believes that people must first mature inward, grow slowly, accept their soft feathers and slender limbs, and then break through the shell and break out of the shell.
Ma Zhou in the early Tang Dynasty was poor when he was young, but he was very diligent and studious.
On the way to Chang'an, when he lived in Xinfeng Hotel, the owner only warmly entertained those wealthy merchants, but ignored Ma Zhou.
And Ma Zhou didn't take the owner's attitude to heart, he still drank and read, and enjoyed himself.
After Ma Zhou arrived in Chang'an, he stayed at the house of Zhonglang General Changhe.
Tang Taizong asked hundreds of officials to write to talk about the gains and losses of the government, and Ma Zhou wrote for Chang He, analyzing them in detail, citing scriptures, and stating his suggestions in a literary and rational manner.
Slowly, Ma Zhou's suggestions were appreciated by Tang Taizong.
Seeing oneself and working hard to carve time in places that others don't care about, such a life may be hard, but it is very real.
Every effort you make is a precious accumulation and a light that illuminates the way to life in the future.
"Moss flowers are as small as rice, and they also learn to bloom peonies. ”
Learn to be a little mushroom Xi, and in every effort to yearn for the sun, you can see the power of your own stretching and see your most beautiful appearance.
The Indian poet Rabindranath Tagore said: When you miss the sun, you shed tears, and you also miss the constellations.
If you can't accept yourself, it's useless to feel regretful, sad, and anxious.
To accept oneself is to accept that oneself is different from others, and to accept that oneself is inferior to others in some aspects.
Psychologist Adler was very weak when he was a child, and his grades in Xi school were not good.
However, with his father's repeated encouragement, Adler changed his mindset and chose to accept himself.
With continuous efforts, Adler broke through his physical limitations and greatly improved his Xi performance.
Later, Adler worked hard to create his own individual psychology.
The poet Wang Guozhen said that opportunities must be won by yourself, but you must first accept yourself, let yourself take a step, and make efforts to fight for opportunities.
In The Ferryman, Dylan travels with his mother to Aberdeen to visit his father.
On the way, Dylan's mother died in a car accident, and Dylan chose to travel alone to Aberdeen.
When Dylan entered the wasteland, her heart was also full of fear and apprehension.
However, Dylan did not back down, she led Tristan through the wasteland step by step, and saw the yearning and faith in her heart.
Acceptance is to shake hands with oneself and let go of the anxiety and anxiety in one's heart;
Acceptance is also a breakthrough from scratch, standing in the present, starting from the present, and stepping out of your own steps.
American writer Tara. In his autobiographical book "When You Fly Like a Bird to Your Mountain", Westover recounts the story of the young girl Tara.
Tara was born into a poor farming family in the mountains of Idaho.
Tara, like the rest of her siblings, was not given a good chance to go to school as a child.
However, Tara still overcame many difficulties, studied hard, and studied hard to Xi.
In the process of leaving the mountains and leaving her family again and again, Tara won the opportunity to work for herself and a scholarship for herself.
Eventually, Tara broke free from her family and embarked on a path of her own growth.
Tara's family is very poor, and the ignorance, violence, narrow-mindedness, and suspicion that pervades her family have always been Tara getting out of the mountains and out of the closed barriers.
However, Tara enriches herself by reading books and grows herself through hard work.
In the process of constantly enriching herself, Tara also seeks to break through outward.
She allowed herself to grow up from the hard experience and became a fighting elf who did not give up even if she got wet, and worked hard to survive the wind and rain.
Break through yourself and get out of your own small circle, and you will see a wider life and move towards a wider distance.
Lao Tzu said: Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear.
Knowing others is a kind of wisdom, and knowing oneself is a kind of clarity.
Seeing yourself, your heart is clear, you know your strengths, you understand your direction, you accept your shortcomings, and you can see your flowering.
When you can open up a little bit according to your own flowering period, stretch outward a little bit, and stretch outward, life is opening up to you step by step, and beauty is slowly appearing little by little.
Life is to see yourself, accept yourself, and let yourself slowly stretch and bloom gently in the process of opening your life.