Many older people yearn for and regret when they mention "four generations in the same house".
The so-called four generations in the same hall are four generations of themselves, their fathers, grandfathers, and great-grandfathers living together and eating in one hall.
Of course, in other words, you and the child are two generations, and the child's child plus your father, if you can still live as a family, you will also be in the same family.
Some people in the fifties and sixties of the last century may still accept this, but for the post-80s and post-90s, they may not agree, and as for the post-00s, I am afraid they will not even think about it.
Not to mention that four generations are in the same house, even three generations are together, which is also very difficult.
We can imagine that you get married and have children, you have several brothers and sisters, and you have a father and grandfather above you, and that family has a family of 10 or 20 people, and you have to have two large tables just for dinner, and you have to be busy cooking for an hour or two.
Then there are problems such as accommodation, living environment, firewood, rice, oil and salt, it is difficult to reconcile, everyone can only compromise with each other, and fighting is inevitable.
For example, how to manage money?How to distribute the family property?Who has the final say in the affairs of the family?After all, it is not the old society, and it all depends on the head of the family to decide.
Who has more, who has less, trivial, verbal disputes, different ideological concepts, different positions and angles, if you encounter the injustice of the head of the family, serious internal contradictions, brothers are on the wall, then it is very common for relatives to become enemies.
Therefore, the ancients emphasized the word "forbearance", not to be stupid or deaf, not to be a familyman, if the elders do not pretend to be confused, they will not be able to manage the family.
Ask young people nowadays who are basically not willing to live with their parents, why?
The first is that they are afraid of management, the second is annoying, and the third is that they feel not free, and they are not as good as the world of the two. Judging by the trend, this is already quite good.
You must know that many modern people are dinks, and there are also singles, and in the environment of the city, people have a tendency to develop in the direction of becoming more and more self-independent and independent.
But let's think about it, even if it's only two people together, won't they blush and not quarrel?Not necessarily, I have seen many young couples who have a quarrel and divorce without a word, and their married life is not happier than that of the previous generation.
Perhaps the binary structure is not necessarily the most stable family structure.
One person is the simplest, but also dangerous, unless you are the kind of person who is strong and optimistic, and the one who lives alone is either a god or a beast, otherwise two people live together.
After all, people do not exist for themselves, two people have communication and interaction, and life is interesting. If you have a child, from two people to three people, then life will be much more lively and rich.
In fact, many young couples who were originally emotionally unstable only matured after having children, and there was love to family affection, and children promoted the sublimation of the relationship between husband and wife.
So it's easy to say simple, don't worry about it, but complex is more stable, because complex means ecological and deep.
After all, people are social animals, no one can exist alone, family relations are the basis of social relations, the ancients talked about self-cultivation and family governance of the country and the world, which is a very connotative opinion.
Times are developing, society is changing, and the family structure is different from the tradition. It is necessary to know that self-independence is the trend of the times, and the individual's consciousness will become more and more strengthened, which is in line with the law of self-centered human nature, in other words, the subjective consciousness is becoming more and more mainstream.
In the past, I couldn't go back, and now young people can't stand the kind of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law war, concubine war or sister-in-law war in the "Four Worlds in the Same Hall". I can't afford to provoke it, and I can't hide.
In fact, from another point of view, the rights and wrongs of a big family are actually complicating the relationship, and it is also where the human touch lies. If there are many people, we can't just think about ourselves, we must be considerate of each other. However, the structure and model of "four generations in the same house" is very difficult to maintain, and as mentioned above, one bad thing is that it ignites the barrel of dynamite, which brings great harm to the family. I think anyone who can do a good job as a head of a family is okay to be the CEO of a company.
But after all, time has changed, from the fourth generation to the second generation, the human touch may not be getting weaker and weaker. On the contrary, family affection may be more in line with the essence and more humane. Because it used to be somewhat mixed with some utilitarianism, falsehood and hypocrisy, but now the distance has widened and the structure has changed, people can understand each other, respect each other, look forward to each other's good, and be more pure-minded.
In short, it is necessary to keep pace with the times, it is not necessary to stick together if the relationship is really good, "human feelings" are subjective feelings, and what is really important is in the heart. Finally, I hope that young people can find love, and from love to marriage, love can find a home, blossom and bear fruit, and live a happy life.
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