In a relationship, it is normal for a man to change his mind, change is eternal, and the same is how we should deal with it, and the best way is two words.
First, "accept" the other person's love and let go of attachments.
There's a term in psychology called loss aversion.
When we get used to having something, when we lose it, we feel sad. It's like a man who always revolves around you and makes you the center of life.
Suddenly he decides to give up on you and stop loving you, and it's easy to be disappointed.
In fact, love and love are mutual feelings, we can't be left and right, instead of struggling to save a person who wants to leave, refusing to admit a man's change of heart, it is better to accept reality.
Accept the complexity and uncertainty of love, and accept that even if we were once in a relationship, it couldn't stop it from passing.
The wind decides to go, the clouds can't be saved, the man has changed his mind, according to the old way of getting along, it is impossible to change his mind, and it is in vain to pay again, it is better to let go of the past attachment and accept the reality that love no longer belongs to him.
Second, "reflect" on the relationship between the two parties and learn to love.
I once loved a boy with all my heart. That was my first love.
We try to be together, but when we're together, I'm always afraid to express my feelings.
When there is a conflict, I always like to find a third party to help communicate;When the other party takes the initiative to approach, I will subconsciously choose to keep my distance from myself, and dare not boldly welcome my love.
It wasn't until he finally decided to let go and reflect on this love that I knew that there should not be a third person in the world of two people, and all the pinching of those who fell in love with one person, in the eyes of the other party, showed that I didn't love.
In life, some people come and go, and his presence not only makes us feel sad, but also teaches us something.
In a relationship, if there is no love, it is destined to not be able to keep people.
When you are running an intimate relationship, always using the wrong ideas and standing in the wrong direction, love is destined to come to an end.
Although loss comes at a sad price, when you think about it, it is a gain that is conducive to the arrival of better love.
3.Focus on your own growth and look forward to the future.
Especially like a sentence:
Nothing is constant in this world, the only constant is change itself.
In the process of constant change, we can only cherish and grasp ourselves.
People come and go in life, love is like a cloud floating in the sky, what we need to do is to keep paying attention and taking care of ourselves.
Only if you love yourself enough, put all your attention on yourself, and pursue inner stability and peace, you can better face the changes in love.
When a person comes, he believes that he has been loved enough and does not rejoice in being loved;
When a man changes his mind, we can still accept the reality that love will not change, but the heart will not be eternal, so that we can calmly face any gains and losses in life.
Focusing on yourself doesn't mean giving up on the pursuit of love, but finding a balance that allows you to remain inner integrity and independence in the face of losing love.
In this state, you can meet the next right person.
In the emotional world, we need to respect our own emotions and the choices of the other person.
If a person changes his or her heart, it is impossible to change the other person's decision from the standpoint of the self, all we can do is change our attitude and behavior.
Do what you have to do, be brave enough to face the challenges that love gives you, cherish what you have, and let go of what you miss.