Wake up, get up, get up......
Hurry up, you're going to be late for ...... school
Can you hurry up and eat, everyone has finished eating, and you are the only one left, how long do you have to eat......
Hurry up and go to bed, if you don't sleep again, you won't be able to get up from school tomorrow......
As a parent, are these your mantras, and are you worrying about your children every day?Children are lazy and have no time concept, these tricks teach you to change!Quit your child's "procrastination".
The "excessive sense of responsibility" of parents leads to "procrastination" of children
American psychologists have found that those parents who are strict and harsh often raise children with "procrastination", that is, the more you are competing for everything and having a strong sense of time, the more likely your child is to suffer from "procrastination". Because strict parents only demand unconditional obedience from their children, if children do not want to carry out and complete their parents' orders, they will resort to procrastination to vent their frustration.
Procrastination, to a large extent, is a passive act of aggression as a way to rebel against the control of others. As parents, we must recognize that slight procrastination is completely normal. After all, it's human nature to stay in your comfort zone.
The most striking characteristics of controlling parents are high-pressure supervision and coercion, and they are good at planning for their children's future from their own perspective. If you want your child not to take "procrastination" as a way to resist high-pressure parents, parents learn to let go, which is the first step to understanding their children. The second step is to cultivate children's self-awareness and sense of responsibility, which should be cultivated from the child's 3 years old to have a sense of independence. The core of the cultivation of a sense of responsibility is to make children realize that "doing their own things" is a sign of growth. In family life, as a parent, the first thing is to give the child a voice, and let the child choose for himself and bear the consequences.
In addition, as a parent, you should set clear boundaries so that your child is aware of what is acceptable and what is not. Once a child crosses the line, punishment must be given to improve the child's self-discipline. Take the training of children to be "punctual" as an example, you can give your child a time limit and give him the task of punctuality: when your child is still grinding at 12 o'clock in the middle of the night and does not finish his homework, force him to go to sleep, because he destroys the minimum sleep time, and the next day, he must bear the punishment of not completing the homework alone. After being punished, he will realize the apprehension and sense of punishment that comes with the friction. This kind of moderate punishment often does more with less.
1. Use "task reorganization" to reduce the psychological impact
"Task reorganization" is a psychological strategy that can help children overcome procrastination.
When the child has difficulty completing a taskYou can narrow down the targetto give the child the motivation to complete the task.
For example, children are required to read 10 pages of a book in half an hour and write excerpts, but the child cannot complete them every time.
Parents can tell their children that it would be fine if they read 5 pages in half an hour.
When your child is able to complete a given task, she will build self-confidence and will be more motivated to complete the task.
2. Remind children to pay attention to methods
Some parents will decisively say that their child is not doing well when they see their child behaving unsatisfactorily, which will directly hit their child's self-confidence.
For example, when you procrastinate in your homework, you will blame it loudly, which is not right. Parents remind to pay attention to the methodDon't let your child feel like an adult is picking on the thorns.
The most important thing is to find ways to help your child take the initiative to complete the task, so that the child can recognize his mistakes and correct them.
3. To change children's procrastination, parents need to be accompanied for a long time, reminded from time to time, and patient and patient guidance.
The most important thing is to make sure that the child is focused on everything he does. Don't be like a kitten fishing, one moment to lift a green fly, the other to catch a butterfly. Half-heartedly, it seems that one thing can never be done!
The sooner parents guide their children to learn how to manage their time and adjust their own learning Xi methods, the stronger the child's Xi in learning.
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This set of 8 books is suitable for children in the lower grades, and corresponds to the key issues in children's learning Xi, such as how to manage their time and how to complete homework easily.
Who stole my time" guides children to arrange their time reasonably and not to do "little procrastination".
This book can help children easily understand what going to school is all about.
Writing homework is no longer difficult for me" tells children that writing homework is actually very simple.
I'm not afraid of exams" tells children that by doing so, they can get good grades.
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Through humorous and imaginative stories, the book adds appropriate fairy tale colors to real life, and tells the story to the hearts of children.
While reading the story, the book also proposes many practical ways to teach children how to manage their time and how to better complete their homework ......
This set of extracurricular reading materials imported from South Korea can help children quickly adapt to school life, cultivate good XiXi learning habits, and develop good time management Xi habits from an early age.
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