This time my daughter has been gone for a month. If she's not at home, I'll be on my own. When she was there, I mostly prepared three meals a day according to her taste, she liked meat, she had to have meat to eat, and it was troublesome to cook every day, and I loved vegetarian food, I loved to mix all kinds of grains together to make porridge and drink, and I ate much simpler alone.
When you are alone, you can think more calmly. I recalled the scene before she left the house in a fit of anger that day, reviewed how the quarrel happened, and then found that I also had a problem, if I didn't say that at the time, my emotions were not so impatient, things would not have developed into the way they were, and I regretted and blamed myself a little when I thought about it.
When she first came back for a week, because of something, she still said that she wanted to cut off the mother-daughter relationship with me, but a few days later, she took the initiative to do what I said.
Sometimes, it could be a certain sentence or an event, and she suddenly realized something, and it turned things around. In the days that followed, she was occasionally impatient, but she could feel that she was also controlling her emotions.
That day, if I hadn't just explained, but listened patiently to her complaints, maybe it wouldn't have caused her emotions to come back all of a sudden, and finally she left crying. When your daughter is in a bad mood, as a mother, you should be able to catch her emotions and wait for her to calm down.
Speaking from the heart, seeing her crying so sadly, I feel so distressed. But when I thought of her being out of breath, I don't know how long it would take for the mother and daughter to recover to the point where they could speak well. Unexpectedly, only three or four days later, she WeChat me, she transferred an item on Xianyu, and asked me to help her find the thing and then contact Shunfeng to send it out. Ten days later, the weather suddenly cooled down, I took the opportunity to send her a down jacket, and stayed for three days, my daughter was happy to see me, and the two got along harmoniously, which was considered to be reconciled again.
Two days ago, she also transferred her tens of thousands of yuan to me, saying that she would let me take the financial management, and she was too lazy to get it herself. I guess it's probably because she earned it from playing games. Originally, I was very opposed to her playing games, and my hatred for playing games stemmed from her father, who was obsessed with games and didn't care about his family at all, even if the child was sick, he didn't care. At that time, there were many game halls on the street, and he played all over the country, and he also bought game consoles at home, and sat on the sofa to play every day when he came back, often playing all night. The love of play is also genetic, grandparents are obsessed with mahjong and do not do business, so, as soon as I see her playing games, I am very angry, and those unpleasant scenes in the past are vivid.
I remember when I talked to the psychiatrist about it, the doctor didn't object, he said that you can make money playing games. I said hatefully, I'd rather she didn't earn the money, and I didn't want her to play games. The doctor said that as long as she doesn't break the law and she doesn't spend your money, you can't interfere. Now, I agree with the doctor.
Another reason why I don't want her to play games is because I'm worried about her body. When playing games, hours have passed, and my eyes are staring at the screen without blinking, and my cervical spine and eyes will have problems. But she's going to get up and move for a while now.
Parents hope that their children can take a safe path, such as becoming a well-organized person and living a solid and stable life, however, children always have their own ideas, and not everyone is willing or suitable to enter the system, what parents can do is to respect their choice.
When we were young, we often didn't listen to what our parents said, and we would stubbornly do what we wanted to do, and we didn't handle our work and life well. Parents and children have very different ideas, and if parents blindly reject their children's ideas, then they will inevitably have conflicts everywhere with each other.