Have you ever been confused about this?Over the years, you have given a lot, and you are exhausted, why don't others appreciate it?You have been nice to many people, but why don't you get the same amount in return in the end......The true face of life is often like this, people's hearts are unpredictable, and it is difficult to reconcile people's mouths. Don't expect everyone to be nice to you. There is a saying: "The cheapest thing in the world is the heartfelt, useless tenderness and wishful waiting." "Life is too short to meet everyone's expectations. Remember, in any relationship, be in a good sense of proportion, and don't be a cheap person.
Giving and giving are not always equal, and there is the Wallenda effect and the diminishing marginal effect in psychology. The Wallenda Effect stems from the story of a famous tightrope walker who was too nervous before a performance and fell to his death. The marginal diminishing effect reveals the phenomenon that the more you have, the less you cherish. Sometimes, people mistakenly think that others will understand your kindness, but life will show you: not all efforts can be exchanged for a smile. Life is short, don't live to meet everyone's expectations.
However, life is not long, and kindness needs to be reserved for the right people and worthy people. When you learn to reclaim your sincerity towards all people, you will discover new worlds. The world will treat you gently, not because you tolerate. The ancients once said: "Forbearance is not weak, respect is respectful." "Forbearance is not a manifestation of cowardice, but a kind of bearing, a kind of self-cultivation. Respect for others is the only way to earn the respect of others. However, in life, we often meet those who have to make inches, and the more you give in, the more they don't know how to measure inches. Liang Xiaosheng once received a letter from a reader about his experience of opening a restaurant. On the opening day, he invited his friends to eat and drink for free, but one of them often ate and drank for nothing, and even brought others to come. This distressed the author and did not know how to deal with such a situation. In life, we often face such a situation: we don't want to offend people, we don't want to hurt our feelings, even if we are wronged, we choose to back down everywhere. However, there is a degree to everything, and there is no limit to tolerance, which will only make the other party gain an inch. People need to go both ways, and when you meet someone who only cares about yourself, the wisest choice is to show your true attitude. When asked how Confucius repaid the resentment of others with virtue, Confucius replied, "Repay kindness." "To be born as a human being, you must have the courage to reject others and show your generosity. Only in this way can you truly protect yourself.
In this world, we can't please everyone. Xi Murong once said: "When I looked back, I suddenly realized that all the efforts I had made in my life were just to satisfy myself. "We can't change other people's perceptions, and we can't control other people's behavior. All we can do is be ourselves and stick to our principles and bottom line. Only in this way can we truly live our own value and not be swayed by others.
Re-examining grievances will only bring more unscrupulousness to yourself. From cautious to fearless, all it takes is a courage to be hated. Faye Wong's words and deeds are the best interpretation of this courage. When confronted with a question, she always responds with a fixed answer: "I don't know." "I don't want to. "I don't have much to say. "What does it have to do with you. When she thinks the question is too offensive, she chooses to answer it this way. She never wronged herself and catered to the expectations of others, she loved herself deeply and lived as a living artist. In this world, we must not only be good people, but also have the courage not to be accustomed to the spirit of others. Feng Xiaogang once said: "After half a hundred years old, I finally understood that making myself happy is the real thing, and everything else is nonsense." "A person who is brave enough at heart can always live more freely. You are no longer a cheap person, live your own attitude, show your external edge, in order to spend the second half of your life more freely. In the second half of life, look inward and pursue a high-quality life. The abbot once said: "The Buddha is not bad, cultivate yourself first." And Montaigne once said: "The greatest thing in the world is that a man knows how to be his own master." So let's live our lives with courage and embrace a new chapter in our lives with joy.