My name is Wang Lin, I am 28 years old, and I am a senior project manager of a foreign-funded enterprise. I was born into an ordinary family, and my parents were retired teachers, who always taught me to be independent and have the courage to pursue my dreams. I've been working hard to live with this as a guideline. However, emotionally, I haven't been going well. I've had two failed relationships that have devastated me. I know that it may be because I haven't learned how to chase a man.
Recently, I met a man whose name is Li Jie, who is a police officer. He has a tall and straight figure and a handsome face, which makes people fall in love at first sight. Moreover, his personality is also gentle and always gives a sense of reassurance. I feel like I'm in love with him.
However, I've never chased a man, and I don't even know how to approach him. So, I decided to ask my friend Lin Jing, who is a relationship expert and has a lot of experience in relationships. She told me that to get close to him, you must first understand his interests and hobbies, and then look for opportunities to start a common topic with him. She also reminded me not to be too proactive, to keep a certain distance and keep men interested.
So, I began to pay attention to Li Jie's social ** and learn about his life and work. I found that he loved the outdoors and often participated in mountaineering and hiking. So, I signed up for a mountaineering event and invited him to join me. During the event, we exchanged a lot with each other, and I found that he not only has a wide range of knowledge, but also has a gentle personality and deep thoughts.
Gradually, we began to have more intersections. At a party, I invited him to do a dance. When dancing, I deliberately got very close to him, and I could feel that his body was a little nervous, but his eyes were very focused. After the dance, he offered to invite me over for a cup of coffee. Over coffee, we talked a lot about life and work. I've found that we have a lot in common and a lot of different perspectives. However, it makes us appreciate each other more.
Over time, our relationship gradually warmed up. We would go to the movies, go shopping, and eat together. Once, I invited him to my house. When it was time to cook, he offered to help me. We chop, stir-fry, and stew soup together. During the meal, he complimented me on the deliciousness of the food I made, which made me feel very happy. Then, he offered to help me wash the dishes. While washing the dishes, we talked a lot about each other's past and future plans. I found him to be a very responsible and responsible person.
Gradually, I felt that I had fallen deeply in love with him. I wanted to tell him how I felt, but I was afraid that it would upset the balance between us. When I was struggling, Lin Jing gave me some advice. She told me to trust my feelings and be brave in the pursuit of my own happiness. If he didn't feel the same way, then I would have lost a friend, but I would have gained someone who really loved me.
So, I decided to confess to Li Jie. On a date, I invited him to go for a walk in the park. During the walk, I plucked up the courage to confess to him: "Li Jie, I like you. ”
When he heard my words, he paused, then looked at me with surprise and confusion in his eyes. I know, he probably didn't expect me to say that. He took a deep breath and said, "Wang Lin, I'm grateful that you've been so kind to me, but I'm not ready to start a new relationship right now. ”
I nodded, and despite the feeling of loss, I wasn't depressed. I know that feelings take time and cannot be forced. I decided to give him some time and space to make his own decisions.
In the days that followed, we kept in touch, but I didn't bring up the topic of feelings again. We attend events together, chat together, and share moments of life together. I've found that even if we don't have a clear relationship, we can still have a good time.
One day a month later, Li Jie took the initiative to ask me out. In a quiet coffee shop, he looked at me, took a deep breath, and said, "Wang Lin, I think I'm ready." I also like you and am willing to start a new relationship with you. ”
Hearing his words, I felt extremely happy and excited. I know it's the moment I've been waiting for. I nodded, then reached out to take his hand. Our hands clasped tightly as if to say, "Let's go down together." ”
At that moment, I knew I had successfully pursued someone I liked. I know the process is full of challenges and difficulties, but I also learned a lot from it. I learned to be brave enough to pursue my dreams and happiness and not to be afraid of failure and difficulties. Because only in this way can we truly find our own happiness.
Now, Li Jie and I have been together for half a year. Our relationship is getting deeper and more stable. We have been through a lot together, including some difficulties and challenges. But we all know that no matter what happens, we have to face it together and solve it because we love each other deeply.