Love yourself, Hu Fangfang.
"Rejection is a right, just as survival is a right. ”
- Bi Shumin
You don't have to look for any reason to reject someone, because that's your right.
I bought my child an electric toy car and went to play in the empty park on the weekend, attracting a bunch of children.
One of the children was crying and wanted to play, and his mother only asked if we could lend her child to play for a while.
My daughter refused, I was a little embarrassed, so I persuaded my daughter to lend the toy car to the other party to play, but my daughter disagreed.
When I got home, I asked my daughter why she didn't want to lend her car to other children to play with
My daughter said with a serious face, because I don't want to borrow it!
I still hope to take this opportunity to teach her to be generous, so I continue to ask her, why?Don't you want to make a few more friends?
My daughter still replied with a serious face, "No reason, I just don't want to borrow it!".
Yes, if you don't want to borrow, don't borrow, it's as simple as that!Why should I ask the reason repeatedly?Do you need a reason to reject someone?What children understand, we adults don't understand.
We subconsciously think that there must be a high-sounding reason to reject someone, but we forget that rejection itself is our right and we don't need to find any reason.
Respect your own ideas and refuse to be a people-pleaser.
You don't need to say no to someone, and if you have to say one reason, it's this: I don't want to!
My subconscious tells me that I will be unhappy if I don't say no.
Since I'm going to be unhappy, why don't I just say no?I have to respect my thoughts and feelings.
Some people may say that you can't be so selfish and only care about your own feelings, so that you are not afraid that refusing will make the other person unhappy
The other party is unhappy, so I should wronged myself to please the other party and make them happy
If the other party is unhappy, that is the other party's problem, not mine, and I have no responsibility to carry other people's problems.
Everyone must first be responsible for themselves, be kind to themselves, take care of their emotions, and respect their feelings and wishes.
You can't wronged yourself without a bottom line in order to please others, and you can't be embarrassed to reject others because you are afraid that others will be unhappy.
Not knowing how to refuse, often stupid kindness;Sacrificing oneself to please others without a bottom line will only ruin oneself.
The criterion for growing up is to not feel guilty about rejecting others.
Why do we subconsciously feel that we have to have a high-sounding reason to reject someone?
It is so that the rejected person understands us and does not blame us, so that we can feel at ease and not feel guilty.
For example, a friend asks you to borrow money, and you don't want to borrow it, but you are afraid that the other party will be unhappy;If you borrow, you yourself will not be rich, and it will be difficult to get an account in the future.
If you think about it, you don't owe anything to the other party, so why would you be embarrassed to refuse?Why embarrass yourself?
The person who is rejected by you says that you are not interesting enough, but in fact it means that you are not easy to fool;Saying that you are selfish is actually not taking advantage of you.
To say that you are too sensitive is to say that you guessed correctly;To say that you are too stubborn is to say that you are assertive and not good to pua you.
The person who deliberately makes you feel embarrassed is not a good person, and he comes with the mentality of taking advantage of you and making you suffer.
In that case, why should you care about the other person's feelings?Don't be afraid to say no, and don't feel guilty about it.
It's normal to say no to reason, others aren't as weak as you think;To make others comfortable, you have to make yourself comfortable first.
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