The daughter-in-law asked her mother-in-law to help take care of the children, giving 6,000 a month, and my mother-in-law I didn't take care of it
A woman's birth is a huge event in her life, involving a change in identity, physical adjustment, and anxiety about a newborn. In order to better take care of themselves and their children, some women choose to hire a confinement nanny or go to a confinement center, but this is often accompanied by a lot of financial pressure, especially in big cities.
Confinement at home has become a choice for many families, whether it is because of the average economic conditions or the wife's frugal Xi. Although various relevant knowledge can now be obtained through the Internet, in this special period, the daughter-in-law prefers to get the help and experience of her mother-in-law to make the confinement more smooth. As a person who has experience in taking care of children, the mother-in-law is more attentive to the children and knows how to take care of them, so that the daughter-in-law is more at ease.
Aunt Cai, who is 59 years old this year, has a deep understanding of the hardships of women getting pregnant and giving birth. When her daughter-in-law called ** and asked her to take care of the confinement, Aunt Cai did not hesitate to quit her job and go to her daughter-in-law's house. However, when the child was still five days away from the full moon, Aunt Cai found a reason to return to her hometown.
After Aunt Cai left, her daughter-in-law called ** and asked her to help take care of the children, and said that she would pay her salary every month. However, Aunt Cai reluctantly refused: "I'm sorry, I won't serve any more money." ”
Through her own narrative, Aunt Cai expressed her concern for her daughter-in-law when she was pregnant, and even gave a sum of money in advance. Although the daughter-in-law did not express her gratitude, Aunt Cai did not care, although she felt uncomfortable, she understood the hard work that her daughter-in-law paid for the family. With the daughter-in-law before giving birth, the daughter-in-law asked her to come and serve the confinement again.
Before leaving, I brought 20,000 yuan, which I planned to use to shop for my children and daughter-in-law. Although there is not much harvest in my hometown, I am reluctant to ask my son for money all the time. Even if the son doesn't mind, the daughter-in-law may be angry when she finds out.
When my grandson was born, I cried with emotion. Not long after the daughter-in-law left the delivery room, she was told the news by a neighbor. If my daughter-in-law gives birth to a girl, will I still cry?
I was a little stunned, this was my first time being a grandmother, and I was really a little excited, and I had never thought about it. I told my daughter-in-law that I like both boys and girls very much, and now that men and women are equal, I don't have a patriarchal attitude.
The daughter-in-law pursed her lips and did not speak.
My daughter-in-law had a natural birth, and we were discharged home the next afternoon. The doctor advised her to lie down as much as possible at home, and her daughter-in-law was lazy, so there was a reason to lie down all day.
I told her to wake up for dinner, but she said that the doctor had recommended bed rest and asked me to bring the meal to her room. I brought the meal to the room and she asked her son to feed her. I thought my daughter-in-law was quite hypocritical, but my son had no objection, so I had to eat it in the living room by myself.
The son only took three days off, during which he kept feeding his daughter-in-law and carrying her to the toilet.
To be honest, seeing that my son did not complain, I envied my daughter-in-law, who found a husband who really cared for her, and was much luckier than when I was confined.
After my son went to work, I was responsible for feeding my daughter-in-law every day, and carrying her to the toilet was a problem. She is 1.6 meters tall, 120 pounds, while I am only 1.58 meters, 100 pounds.
The first time I carried her, I almost fell. She was worried that I would fall on her, so she asked me to help her go to the bathroom. I thought I would just help her to the bathroom, but she didn't expect me to help her lift her pants.
I kind of think she's too lazy, it's obviously a smooth birth, even if her stomach is uncomfortable, her arms still have strength. I was a little disgusted by her laziness, but because of the relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I could only endure it.
Every morning at 6 o'clock, I get up to cook for her, and after she finishes eating, I hold the child, make milk powder for the child, and wait for the child to sleep before starting to wash the housework.
As soon as my grandson cried, my daughter-in-law rushed to find me. She never makes milk powder for her children, and she doesn't want to change diapers. Even if the child cries in the middle of the night, she will call me first, and if I don't hear it, she will hit **.
I feel that I am already a responsible mother-in-law, and it is my own business to buy groceries, cook and take care of the children, while my daughter-in-law only knows how to eat and sleep, but there is more smile on her face. But within a few days of such days, the daughter-in-law began to find fault.
One day I was washing my child's clothes and she was thirsty and called me to help her get water. I told her that I still had a piece of clothing in my hand, that I could wash it in three minutes, and that I would help her get the water when it was done.
She couldn't wait any longer and got out of bed to fetch the water herself. She saw me doing laundry in the bathroom when she went out and suddenly asked me loudly, why don't you wash the child's socks and clothes in different basins
The daughter-in-law bought three basins, one for washing pacifiers for the child, one for washing socks, and one for washing clothes.
I explained that the child was still young, his feet were not dirty, and it was okay to wash his socks and clothes together.
The daughter-in-law yelled angrily: If it's all the same, why do I buy so many pots for?You're too unhygienic, aren't you?!
I saw that my daughter-in-law was angry, and hurriedly explained that I would change it immediately. After I changed the basin, she asked me again, do you wash socks without gloves?I wash clothes every day without gloves and go to cook after washing clothes, can this meal be free of bacteria?She ate something with bacteria, how can her body recover well?
I hurriedly found the gloves and put them on, and my daughter-in-law said a few more words, "It's too unhygienic, it's too sloppy" before turning around and going back to the bedroom.
When I came back at night, my daughter-in-law complained about these things like my son, and my son asked me to pay attention to it, and my daughter-in-law talked about hygiene, and since I came to this house, I had to learn to adapt to my daughter-in-law's Xi.
I smiled and nodded on the surface, but there was a hidden dissatisfaction in my heart. The daughter-in-law's living Xi is annoying, clothes are only washed once every three days, leftover food is thrown around, and even moldy does not matter, she is not keen on cleaning, but only has low requirements for herself and high requirements for others.
Since that day, whenever I am ready to cook, she asks me to wash my hands first and then she checks on me. I even need to sanitize my hands when I hold my grandson.
I quietly called my wife **, feeling very unseemly mixed up at my son's house. My wife advised me to be patient, saying that the child would get better when he was older. However, a few days before the grandson's full moon, the daughter-in-law called her mother-in-law.
As I was about to bring her the prepared meal, I overheard her talking to her own mother at the door. She said that in her opinion, I was nothing more than a free babysitter, who didn't need to spend a penny, diligent and submissive. I'm more cost-effective than paying for a babysitter.
I thought she was complimenting me, but she went on to say that it was natural for my grandmother to bring her grandson, and that I was only good to her for my grandson, and she would not be grateful to me at all. Her plan was for me to take care of the child until he no longer needed me, and then let me go back to my hometown and disappear into her life.
My mother-in-law tried to comfort her daughter-in-law, advised her to speak softer, and suggested that she find an excuse to ask me for money. She reminded her daughter-in-law that I can still work and earn money now, and when I am really old and have no ability to make money, I may not be able to get it if I want to ask me for money.
These words made me feel complicated, and in the dead of night, I called my wife ** and told me what happened during the day. When my wife learned that I had not only contributed money and efforts to my son's house, but had not been treated well, my wife suggested that I consider returning to my hometown.
In the middle of the night, I hurriedly packed my bags and set out on the way home. While the train was moving, I dialed my son's ** and made up a lie claiming that my wife was not in good health, so she returned home early.
My son asked me when I would be able to go back, and I explained that it was difficult to get out at the moment. My mother-in-law had just retired, and I suggested that she take care of her daughter-in-law first, and then make plans when my affairs were over.
A few days after leaving, my daughter-in-law called** and begged me to help take care of the child. Her mother was too busy with travel and square dancing to help. Even mentioned that he was willing to pay me a salary.
I insisted on telling my daughter-in-law that city life made me feel uncomfortable. If she needs my help with the children, she can only send them back to her hometown, and I don't plan to go back to the city.
My daughter-in-law asked me how much money I needed to take care of the child, whether it was 1,000 or 6,000 or 7,000I told her that the future would be discussed later. I'm not old enough to take care of myself. She is young and should live her life well.
I know very well that my daughter-in-law is a very realistic person, and I have paid a lot for her, but she picks and chooses from me, can I really rely on her in the future?It's better to work together with your wife to earn more money and prepare more for your future life.