Rabindranath Tagore once said, "The difference between friendship and love is that friendship means that two people are connected to the world, and love means that two people make up the whole world." In friendship, one plus one equals two;And in love, one plus one is still one. ”
In reality, many heterosexual relationships fail to clarify the boundaries of friendship and love, and the slightest carelessness can cross taboos.
There are even some people who deliberately confuse the concepts of friendship and love, often with impure motives, especially for men.
If the two parties cannot clearly distinguish between friendship and love in the middle of the relationship, it may eventually lead to the breakdown of the relationship.
Getting the opposite-sex friendship right can be one of the most beautiful relationships in the world, but if it is not handled properly, it can also lead to a relationship breakdown, which is regrettable.
Therefore, when men and women are dating, they must pay attention to the proportions of the relationship between the opposite sex, and never exceed the principles and bottom line.
Heterosexual relations are manifested in the following three aspects, and it is hoped that men and women will pay attention to them.
1. Contact is too frequent and out of proportion
There is nothing wrong with normal interactions between people of the opposite sex, but if the connection is too close and out of proportion, it will have a negative impact on the relationship.
There are many men and women who often keep in touch regardless of the occasion, even late at night, and this excessive contact is no longer normal.
Frequent contact may disturb the other person's life, interfere with the other person's family, and cause emotional distress to the other person.
Here, the concept of relational degrees is important. It's okay to make proper contact, but it's important not to bother the other person when you shouldn't.
For example, my colleague Miss Wang was misunderstood by the male girlfriend's wife because she often contacted her male girlfriend, and the relationship became awkward.
Miss Wang has always maintained a close connection with her male girlfriend, chatting every night before going to bed. However, the male girlfriend's wife discovers this connection, which leads to an escalation of conflict in the relationship.
When you are different, you should be careful to avoid frequent contact, especially chatting at night, which is not advisable. Keeping a certain distance and not crossing the line will help maintain a long-lasting relationship with the opposite sex.
2. Often make ambiguous jokes, there are no boundaries
It's okay to make an occasional joke between people of the opposite sex, but if you often make ambiguous jokes and say something out of place, it doesn't seem normal.
Men and women who are in a normal relationship will not easily test the bottom line of the relationship, let alone say something inappropriate. Otherwise, even the best friendships may eventually suffer.
Men, in particular, like to make ambiguous jokes with the opposite sex in life, and this kind of inadvertent speech can easily bring discomfort to women.
Ambiguous jokes often have a strong sense of purpose, and if both people don't pay attention to this aspect, the relationship may cross the line.
If both are single and willing, this kind of joke is understandable. But if both parties have partners, they must not be ambiguous.
Many relationship breakdowns often stem from this impure joke, and once the relationship crosses the line, it is almost impossible to go back to the way things were.
In addition, if you cause dissatisfaction with your partner, it can lead to more unexpected problems.
Married men and women are especially reminded that they should not make ambiguous jokes for any purpose. If you don't have a sense of boundaries, it will eventually affect your feelings.
In the past, we must maintain the bottom line and do not do things that should not be done to maintain the stability of the relationship.
3. There is physical contact, and there is no shredging in it
If there is physical contact between people of the opposite sex, it is basically equivalent to a relationship that has crossed the line.
No matter how good a relationship with the opposite sex is, it is necessary to avoid excessive intimacy when being alone, and many things need to be paid attention to.
It is not advisable for men and women to openly have intimate contact without noticing the influence.
Regardless of whether the relationship is normal or not, once physical contact occurs, the relationship is likely to become ambiguous.
The statement that the two are just comforting each other or that their friendship is pure is often impractical when there is physical contact.
Because of physical contact, even if the relationship between the two parties is pure, others will not see it this way.
Normal disagreements are unlikely to involve this kind of behavior, because they know how to avoid it, and they are able to keep an appropriate distance and maintain proportion.
Only such a relationship can be truly long-lasting and make the friendship more pure. Otherwise, the relationship crosses the line, and even the best relationship will eventually fall into strangeness.
Xiaoling broke up because of physical contact with her boyfriend. The boyfriend is in a close relationship with a friend of the opposite sex, and the two are in a regular relationship.
At first, Xiaoling felt strange and even angry, thinking that her boyfriend was not single-minded.
The boyfriend explained that the other party was just a friend, and he usually just had a normal relationship, so he asked Xiaoling not to worry about it, and swore that he would not be sorry for her.
Seeing that her boyfriend was so sincere, Xiaoling accepted the explanation and just told him not to get too close to his friends of the opposite sex.
However, the boyfriend did not keep his promise and continued to associate with friends of the opposite sex, and when the other party came to him for something, he always rushed over to help as soon as possible.
Once, Xiaoling was sick and wanted her boyfriend to accompany her to see a doctor. When he called ** to his boyfriend, he said that he was at his friend of the opposite sex and asked her to go to the hospital by herself, and he would go over in a while.
Xiaoling went alone, but when she came back, she saw her boyfriend and his friend of the opposite sex holding hands downstairs and chatting.
This made Xiaoling feel very angry, and finally recognized the fact that her boyfriend's relationship was not solid, and resolutely broke up with him.
Therefore, if there is always ambiguity between the opposite sex, and there is physical contact, it is basically certain that the relationship has crossed the line.
In fact, many heterosexual relationships that cross the line start with physical contact and must be avoided.
There are very few true pure friendships in this world, and most of them are ambiguous excuses for both sides. It is recommended that men and women must pay attention to proportion, maintain principles and bottom lines when dating, so as not to affect their relationship.
Relationships are inherently complex, and if you don't pay attention to the boundaries of your relationship, it's easy to ruin the relationship. If it causes distress to both partners, or causes the relationship to be unable to continue, the so-called heterosexual friendship will be the culprit.
It is sincerely suggested that the opposite sex should abide by their duties and not cross the line, which is a respect for feelings and a responsibility for each other's relationship.