In this complex world, we often encounter people and things.
They may not be directly related to us, but they still affect our mood.
But these people and things may have become a foregone conclusion and cannot be changed.
The root cause of a person's unhappiness is often due to excessive anxiety
We are always worried about the future, dwelling on the past, but ignoring the beauty in the present.
Learn to let go of these 3 uncontrollable things, and when your heart is relaxed, you can live a chic and calm life.
01 For what has happened, have the ability to turn the page
Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple, was kicked out of the company he founded because of a dispute with other colleagues in the company.
Although it was an extremely painful experience for Jobs, Jobs was not defeated by past setbacks, but turned them into motivation to move forward.
Later, he founded Next and eventually managed to return to Apple.
Despite all the hardships, Steve Jobs insisted on reinventing himself and writing his own glorious chapter once again.
The key to Jobs' success lies in his ability to turn the page.
For what has happened, we should clear the previous weeds, free ourselves, and listen to the call of the heart.
Seize every opportunity in the moment and face setbacks calmly.
Live the present moment well, and have the ability to turn the page, so that you can restart your ability to be happy.
02 Stop being anxious about what hasn't happened yet
Sanmao once told us: "When we are thirty years old, we should not rush about the things of fifty years old." Everything is coming. ”
We often fall into the trap of worrying about the unknown of the future and worrying ahead of time about what has not yet happened.
My cousin is a person with an anxious constitution who always can't wait to make arrangements for the future.
When she first got married, she began to prepare for her child's school district house before she was pregnant.
As soon as the child was a month old, she began to look around and finally bought the ideal school district house.
However, even if you buy a school district house, you will no longer be insured, and the number of places will be tight, and the number of applicants will exceed the number of admissions, and you will be shunted to other schools.
My cousin began to get anxious again and couldn't sleep all night.
The child is still six years away from going to primary school, and no one can ** the changes during this period.
The enrollment and admission data changes every year, and it is neither scientific nor accurate to use this year's data to deal with the data six years from now.
Positive Psychology says: "90% of what humans fear will not come true in the future. ”
Life is like a ship in the sea, sometimes calm, sometimes turbulent, full of variables and uncertainties.
No one can predict where the future will go, and worrying about the unknown will only lead to endless pain.
Instead of thinking wildly, it is better to let go of your worries and do the things in front of you in a down-to-earth manner.
Don't let those unknown futures hold you back, so that we can better face life's challenges.
03 Stop being anxious about things you can't change
The Virtues of Human Nature" says: "Please do not cry for the moon, nor shed tears for spilled milk." ”
Life is like the cycle of the four seasons, impermanence is the norm, and some things cannot be reversed by man.
Even with our best efforts and hardships, reality still stands.
A truly wise person will accept everything that happens.
Only by letting go of the fear of impermanence can we attain inner liberation and live freely and joyfully.
Stop being anxious and have a good mindset is the cornerstone of success.
We can't predict the future, but we can grasp the present.
Let's learn to let go of our anxieties, live in the moment, and trust that everything will work out as promised.
04 Write at the end
For those things that we can't control, we have to learn to accept reality.
Something has happened and cannot be changed, we can only accept it.
The past is in the past and cannot be repeated, and we must learn to let go of the past.
When we learn to let go of these things that we can't control, we will find that our hearts become more relaxed and calm.
Only in this way can we live more chic and calm, and enjoy every beautiful moment of life.