There is a saying in "Caigen Tan": "Fu Mo is blessed with few things, and disaster is not bad because of many hearts." This means that the greatest blessing of a person is to be free from worries, and the root of worry is to worry too much about the world, and if you worry about the world every day, it will inevitably make your heart too heavy. Carrying an exhausted soul on its back, one will only become more and more unhappy. Living in this world, some people have nothing to do with you, and some things have long been a foregone conclusion. Let go of these 4 uncontrollable things, and feel relaxed, so that you can live a chic and calm life. 
What has passed is no longer concernedIn a long life, everyone will have a knot that they can't let go of, and memories that they can't let go. But to constantly regurgitate the past is to rub salt into the wounds of the past and torture yourself. In fact, there is nothing that people cannot get over when they live. When you really let go, time will hurt everything. Ximen in "Fatigue of Life and Death" was a hard-working and kind landlord. He had never done anything unreasonable, but he was killed for no reason. The resentment in his heart was difficult to quell, and he cried out every day when he went to the underworld. Hades was overwhelmed and sent him into the beast path, allowing him to go through six reincarnations. In the first life, he threw himself into the donkey, but what was in front of him was wrong, he bit and beat people angrily, and ended up being eaten by the villagers. In the second life, he was reincarnated as an ox, and the grievances in his heart were even worse, but he didn't expect his son to torture him to death in order to protect Mingzhe's life. In the third life, he became a pig, slowly forgetting the past and being content with the days in front of him. In the fourth life, he became a dog, and the anger in his heart also dissipated, and he spent his whole life taking care of the home for his master. In the fifth life, he transformed into a monkey, no longer haunted by the past, and completely let go of hatred. Eventually, he regained his inner peace and returned to earth as a baby in his sixth life. Balzac once said that life cannot go on without forgetting much. Sometimes, the reason why people live a miserable life is because they are trapped in the past. Always chewing on the pain, people can't get out of the cage of memories. Entanglement with the past will only make you feel wronged. The only thing we can do is to turn the page and forget it. If you don't open the scar repeatedly, the wound will have a chance to heal. Just like Wang Yangming's admonition: ".If the grass is in the way, it is advisable to go, and it is just a matter of going;Even if you don't go immediately, you won't be tired. "Get rid of the weeds of the past and free yourself from the memories. Cherish the present and live the present moment so that you can restart your ability to be happy. 
Don't worry about what hasn't happened yetIn the vast Sahara Desert, there lives an earthy grey gerbil. When the dry season comes, they start hoarding grass roots and keep them busy all day. But the strange thing is that even if there is enough grassroots, they will continue to search against the clock, and they will not stop for a moment. So in the end, most of the grass roots that gerbils had worked so hard to hoard were useless until they rotted. While the other animals enjoy their leisure time, only gerbils live tired and anxious. In life, many people are like gerbils. I was scared all day long, and I always felt that the next second crisis was coming. Catastrophic thoughts take control of the mind and bury those moments that should be happy. Such a story is recorded in the Harvard Family Motto. During World War II, there was a gentleman named Jaime who was worried about something every day. He thought of his son, who was serving in the army, and worried about whether he would be able to return home safelyThinking that the old house will be demolished, and worrying that the money will not be enough to buy a new house;I thought of the business school that I had just founded, but I was worried that I would not be able to recruit new students......His wife saw that he was so anxious that he couldn't eat, so she asked him to write down these troubles and seal them in a box. A year later, Jaime stumbled upon the note and was surprised to find that none of the things he had feared had happened. According to Positive Psychology, "90% of what humans fear will not come true in the future." "After all, life is full of uncertainties, and no one knows where the train of the future will go. Worrying about the future will only make you fall into pain at the moment. Instead of thinking about an uncertain tomorrow, it is better to do what is in front of you in a down-to-earth manner. Open the road in the mountains, build bridges in the water, and have no worries in your heart, and your mood will turn from cloudy to sunny. 
Don't worry about what can't be changedOn the site of a church in the Netherlands, there is an inscription that reads: "It is a foregone conclusion, there is no other possibility." "Life is like this, there are many things that make you unsatisfactory. Birth, old age, sickness and death, gathering and parting, no matter how unwilling you are, there is absolutely no room for change. If you choose to resist, you will only ruin your happy life and bring yourself to a breakdown. And accept the facts, let yourself come out of despair, and you can meet the good things in the future. Dale Carnegie once recounted his friend's experience in his book. The friend's name was Elizabeth, and she had a nephew who died in the war. She is unwilling to accept the reality, washes her face with tears all day long, and cannot extricate herself from her sadness. Her heart was filled with resentment, she neglected her work, and let her friends drift away from her. After a while, she plans to leave her job and find a place where no one is around, but she will live the rest of her life. But while tidying up her desk, she stumbles upon a letter from her nephew that has written to her. The letter said: "No matter how far away I am, no matter how far apart we are, I will remember that you taught me to be a man, and to accept it bravely, no matter what happens." At that moment, a beam of light shone into her heart, and she seemed to hear her nephew say to her: hide your sadness behind your smile and go on bravely!So, she tried to put away her pain and resentment and put all her energy into her work. After work, she also wrote letters to her nephew's comrades-in-arms, participated in ** educational courses, and looked for new fun. Slowly, she stopped wasting her mind on things that couldn't be changed, and she greeted life with a happy mood every day. She accepted her fate and eventually reconciled with herself. In "The Virtues of Human Nature", it says: "Please advise me not to cry for the moon, nor to shed tears for spilled milk." "In life, impermanence is normal, and some things cannot be changed by human beings. Even if we try our best and suffer, the reality is still there. Someone who is truly transparent will allow everything to happen. Let go of the fear of impermanence and you can free yourself and live a peaceful and happy life. 
Don't worry about the rights and wrongs of othersAdler famously said, "Basically all human troubles arise from interfering in other people's problems." "When I see others having verbal disputes, I always want to come forward to advise, but I am not a person inside and out;Hearing that others have different opinions, they have to get involved, and they end up making a commotion. In fact, everyone has their own destiny, and it is up to them to pay for the good or the bad. If you worry too much about other people's affairs, the other party may not appreciate it, but it will make you fall into an unhappy situation. Some netizens told a true story. That day, the netizen's father went out to buy groceries, and when he came home, he found that there were two cars at the intersection in a stalemate. The two cars were walking in opposite directions, and the parking positions were very close to each other, thinking that the road was narrow, but neither of them would let the other cause this situation. Seeing that the traffic flow is about to increase, these two cars are blocking the intersection, which will inevitably affect the traffic. My father adhered to the principle of being enthusiastic about helping others, and decided to come forward to persuade him. But when the two sides heard this, they were still unwilling to give in, and when they were in a hurry, they choked on their father. The father was angry, felt that he was kind, and immediately began to theorize. Unexpectedly, the owner of one side said: "Who wants you to be nosy, where is it cool!".Naturally, my father didn't want to suffer from this nest, so he couldn't help but say a few more words. The owners of both sides were also angry, and they were worried that no one was angry, so both of them scolded their fathers. When my father came home, the more he thought about it, the more angry he became, and within a few days he fell seriously ill. He lay on the hospital bed and thought about it repeatedly, but he didn't expect that it was because of his participation in irrelevant rights and wrongs, and finally broke his body. There is an old saying that everyone sweeps the snow in front of his door, and does not care about the frost on the tiles of others. Everyone has their own life, and when they have nothing to do, think more about their own situation and care less about the rights and wrongs of others. After all, your kindness may be a burden to others. Interfering in other people's issues can easily put yourself in a predicament. It's better to respect each other's fate and live your own life. Without all the distractions in front of you, you can naturally live a more relaxed life. ▽
The philosopher Feng Youlan once said to those who "love to worry": "People will naturally go the right way, so you don't need to worry about it." When encountering problems, you will respond with your feelings, and this will respond to your feelings, which is usually right. "In this long life, we will meet countless people and experience countless things. If you worry about everything, it is destined to consume your mind and make you fall into depression. The only way to look at everything is to go with the flow, to let the past pass, and let the future come. If there are no obstacles in your heart, you will be able to live the rest of your life with joy.