The real psychology of an ordinary man s cheating

Mondo Psychological Updated on 2024-01-29

I am a post-90s generation, from the countryside, through hard work and luck, I went to university and jumped out of the rural environment. Now, I live in a third-tier city with a stable job and a warm family.

My wife is also from a rural area, we are a good match, she is very virtuous, sensible, and filial to her parents. We have a son and a daughter, a house in our home, a domestic car, and a little money in my wife's account. However, all this good life became gone from the moment I cheated.

I'm a person who is comfortable with what comes my way, and I don't have a strong drive in the workplace. So I'm satisfied with my current state of life. My circle of friends is very small, and there are almost no other social activities except for colleagues and friends. So when I'm bored, I like to go to the small pedicure shops around the neighborhood for a pedicure, which has become a way for me to spend my time.

There, I met Little G. She's a good chatter, and she's good at it. At first we were working on the simplest projects, but as time went on, we communicated more and more, and I enjoyed chatting with her more and more. She was very good at kneading my ** and made me react, and she massaged it as if nothing happened, which made me very excited. We've been talking to each other for a long time, but I don't have anything else to think about.

Everything changed on a summer evening. That night, I went for a massage again. Because I was afraid that the air conditioner would blow, I only turned on the fan. When I pressed my thighs, she rubbed my ** again. This time, my reaction was stronger than ever. She was still massaging as always, and I was getting more and more excited. But I didn't dare to move.

After the massage, I felt very hot. So I took Xiao G's hand and touched the sweat under her neck. But when my hand touched her, I felt very soft and slightly raised. All of a sudden, my heart became very excited. So I plucked up the courage to grab her hand and pressed it to ***, she struggled a little and acquiesced. After she helped me rub it for a while, I sent her a red envelope.

Later, I went to see her more and more, and I had other expectations in my heart. Every time she rubs it a little ***, I often send her red envelopes.

I told Xiao G that I had a strong libido, but my daughter-in-law was a little cold and often rejected me. And Xiao G told me that mine is not small at all, and the hardness is good. This makes me even more excited about what will happen to Little G.

Finally, one night, I asked Xiao G to go around the park and have dinner together (I told my wife that I was working overtime). But after eating, I hurried home. However, this experience has taken my relationship with Xiao G one step further.

It turns out that I think Xiao G is a bit casual, but it's not.

Xiao G86 has a child in his 10s, who has a bad relationship with her husband, her husband is not strong in earning money, she doesn't play cards and drinks, and she doesn't give her money. The two of them make their own money and spend their own money, and they have been living in an old house. She wants to buy a new house, but her husband doesn't support it, and she probably doesn't have the money.

I can only work by myself to earn some pocket money and have no skills, so I can only do foot massage and the like. Before meeting me, Xiao G had been dating an unmarried boy born in the 90s for a year, and the other party was also her guest, and she even wanted to divorce and marry that boy;But the other party eventually abandoned her because of a job transfer.

I think people are just playing with her, after all, the age and identity are too different, I can't remember if Uncle Mao said that women lack love.

My analysis of Xiao G is that after breaking up with the boy, she lacks love, has a vacancy in her heart, and only dislikes her incompetent husband, while my identity as a college student, the character of a good man in the family, is attractive to her, and I am good at listening, not strong, so she indulged my small actions towards her, and at the same time I also provided her with good emotional value. She was willing to talk to me and felt that I was safe, and Xiao G expressed her willingness to develop with me and said that she could go out and open a house, but at this time I was a little hesitant.

After all, it's okay to be ambiguous in a foot massage shop, but I still don't dare to really cheat and open a house, or I'm worried about the consequences and I'm afraid that I won't be able to get rid of it and cause trouble. After all, my life is relatively stable now, so I haven't made up my mind for a few months, and then I will go on a business trip for two months, because I am bored in the field, I chat with Xiao G every day, and I talk about some very ambiguous topics to relieve loneliness and desire, and the relationship between the two people has also taken a step further.

After returning from a business trip, I happened to have a little conflict with my daughter-in-law, and my daughter-in-law refused to talk to me**, so I made up my mind to find Xiao G, thinking that if you don't let me do it anyway, I'll find someone else. You can't blame me, one Saturday afternoon, I sent my child to a tutoring class for three hours, so I had three hours of free time, and it happened that Xiao G said that she was bullied by customers in the store and wanted to find someone to talk to, so I drove her out for a walk.

In the car, she told me how the guest had moved his hands and feet, and she almost had to call the police. I comforted her a few words, but my mind was actually full of thoughts about doing it with her. Later, I drove the car to a secluded place and did it with her in the car, because both of them were mentally prepared in the early stage, and she didn't refuse, and I was too excited to finish it in a few clicks, which was embarrassing. After sending her back, I sent her a 200 yuan red envelope. She asked me what I meant, did I think I had prostituted once?I said definitely not, just to express my feelings, and also to admit my relationship with her lover.

After having the first time, I started to make frequent appointments later, I am a person with a strong libido, and Xiao G also likes to do it, or she is very cooperative. At first, it was all after dinner, and I drove out to do it 2 3 times a week under the pretext of going out for a massage. Later, I also went to private theaters and hourly rooms. Later, the frequency was low, about 2 times a month, and the basic meeting was just for **. It's very cool with Xiao G**, and it's completely two styles compared to my daughter-in-law. Little G was open in bed and screamed loudly and she said that every time she had an orgasm, it was that sometimes I had a shorter time.

Later, she got acquainted with me, and said that she couldn't stand it the first time she did it, because my was too thick and long, and fortunately the time was short, otherwise she wouldn't be able to stand it and wouldn't have been dating me.

My daughter-in-law said that my size is not enough, so it can be seen that the size of the man is also relative, and it has a lot to do with the woman herself. It has been almost two years since the first time, and I give her about 700 yuan a month, and a few hundred more during the New Year's holidays, rarely more than 1,000 yuan. She complained that I was reluctant to give her money to spend, but I was really shy in my pocket, and the monthly salary of 6000 was almost half of the cost for a family of four, and I had to honor both parents and personal relations.

There is also the fact that I am also afraid of being discovered by my daughter-in-law if I give too much, although my daughter-in-law doesn't care much about me, but I have taken the initiative to hand over the extra money to my daughter-in-law for safekeeping, and if the change is too big, I am afraid of being suspected.

As a married man, you have your own family and responsibilities, but you cheat and have an immoral relationship with another woman. This behavior not only hurts your wife and family, but also your feelings with Xiao G.

You need to be clear that infidelity is an act of betrayal that can cause harm to all involved. You don't have a real love for G, it's just because she satisfies your sexual needs. This relationship is not safe because you cannot give her a commitment and you cannot take responsibility for her.

You should realize that a relationship with Little G will only make you more upset and guilty. You have begun to feel panic and insecurity, which shows that deep down you have realized your mistake. However, it is not easy to break the relationship because there is already a certain emotional connection between you. However, if you continue to indulge in this relationship, the ultimate victim will only be yourself.

It is recommended that you seek professional help to resolve this issue. You can consult a marriage counsellor or psychologist who can provide guidance and advice to help you deal with inner conflicts and confusion. At the same time, consider having an in-depth conversation with Xiao G to make her understand that your relationship is based on immorality and that this is not the outcome she wants. If there are any problems or disagreements between you, they should also be resolved and dealt with in a timely manner so as not to affect each other's feelings and lives.

In conclusion, cheating is an unforgivable act that can cause you endless pain and consequences. You should take action as soon as possible to end this unhealthy relationship and get back on track.

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