When you go out to eat with colleagues or friends, you usually use AA to handle your bills in an AA way, which ensures that you don't owe each other anything and that no one takes advantage of others. On the stage of friendship, honesty should be the first principle, avoid too much deception, and take the initiative to AA after a meal should become the norm.
As for going out with colleagues, needless to say. We can't be sure if we will work together in the same unit for a long time, so adopting the AA system at social gatherings helps to maintain the harmony of work and friendship and avoid many unnecessary disputes.
Even in a couple's relationship, the adoption of AA is quite normal, especially at the stage of the relationship. This practice shows that both parties are willing to treat each other as equals and not be greedy for cheapness, because no one can guarantee whether the two will go on forever. Therefore, the adoption of the AA system in dating, such as a meal paid by one person and then a movie by another person, also falls under an AA system. However, once you enter the marriage stage, if you continue to maintain this system of account sharing, it may cause problems and even lead to a breakdown of the relationship.
It is generally accepted that there should be no AA in a marriage. After all, husband and wife are a family, and all expenses are directly related to both parties. This means that there is no longer a need to argue about who should bear the cost. However, even in today's society, there are still some couples who insist on the AA system, and the results are usually not good. Many people eventually choose to divorce, just like Sister Liu, who was already chilled by the marriage when her partner offered to continue splitting the account.
The city under the neon lights, noisy and quiet are intertwined, and the marriage between Sister Liu and Brother Wang is also like this city, there have been brilliant times and bleak days.
The two met on a rainy spring afternoon, and Brother Wang held an umbrella to shelter Sister Liu, who was walking in a hurry. Their encounter was picturesque, and Sister Liu's bright eyes became the most beautiful scenery in Brother Wang's life. Soon after, the two walked into the palace of marriage hand in hand, vowing to be together for a lifetime.
In the early days of their marriage, they were the most enviable couple on that street. Sister Liu blooms like a flower, and Brother Wang is the bee guarding by her side. They have a deep trust in each other and an unchanging passion that seems to never change.
However, there is always a side to life that cannot be avoided. The days after Sister Liu's pregnancy should have been full of joy, but the frequent morning sickness made her feel painful. As the days passed, her physical condition did not improve, but became more and more serious. Brother Wang watched his beloved suffer so much, and his heart was full of mixed feelings. He began to feel anxious and lost for the days ahead.
During this period, Sister Liu chose to resign because she could not continue to work. This decision undoubtedly increased Brother Wang's psychological burden. His personality gradually changed, and his care and care for Sister Liu decreased, replaced by incomprehension and complaining.
The sweetness of marriage is gradually eroded by the pressure of reality, and the rift between them begins to appear. Sister Liu's morning sickness did not receive the understanding and support of her family, but became the fuse of their quarrel. In the dead of night, their quarrels resounded throughout the floor, and the neighbors knew that the once-loving couple was going through the trials of marriage.
And the real impact is yet to come.
With the progress of pregnancy, Sister Liu's physical condition has not improved. Every morning, while the city was still asleep, she was woken up by severe morning sickness. During this period, Brother Wang did not give her enough care and attention, and he began to put all his energy into his work, wanting to provide better material conditions for this upcoming new life.
However, Brother Wang didn't realize that what Sister Liu needed more at this time was spiritual support and care. Whenever Sister Liu couldn't get out of bed because of morning sickness, Brother Wang didn't take the initiative to prepare breakfast for her, but hurriedly went out to work. Sister Liu can only endure this physical pain and mental loneliness alone.
In Sister Liu's heart, she did not resent Brother Wang, but only felt deeply lost and lonely. She wanted to share all this with Brother Wang, but Brother Wang didn't seem to want to listen.
One day, Sister Liu suddenly fainted at home, but fortunately was found by a neighbor in time and sent to the hospital. After Brother Wang learned the news, he immediately rushed to the hospital, and when he saw Sister Liu's pale and thin face, his heart was like a knife.
The doctor told Brother Wang that Sister Liu's morning sickness reaction was too severe and she needed bed rest and could no longer have any mood swings. Brother Wang looked at Sister Liu on the hospital bed, and his heart was full of self-blame.
From that moment on, Brother Wang decided to take good care of Sister Liu, he would prepare a hearty breakfast for her every day, and would also massage and make soup for her. However, it all seemed too late, and the rift between them could no longer be repaired.
Time flies quickly, and in the blink of an eye, Sister Liu is already in labor. Outside the operating room of the hospital, Brother Wang waited anxiously, with both expectations for the child and worries about Sister Liu. After a long wait of several hours, Sister Liu finally gave birth to a healthy boy.
Looking at his wife and newborn son, Brother Wang's heart was full of happiness and relief. But this joy did not last long, because Sister Liu's body did not recover ideally, and she needed a longer time to recuperate.
After returning home, Sister Liu's physical condition did not improve much. Despite her best efforts to take care of her newborn son, her physical condition limited her. Seeing his wife working so hard, Brother Wang was full of guilt, and he decided to hire a sister-in-law to take care of his wife and children.
However, even with the help of the confinement lady, Sister Liu still can't get out of the shadow of pregnancy psychologically. She always felt that she was not doing well enough and often fell into self-blame and self-pity. And Brother Wang gradually returned to his previous work state, busy with work every day, and rarely had time to spend with his family.
At this moment, Brother Wang's family made a request, hoping that Sister Liu could return to work. They believe that now that there is a confinement sister-in-law at home, Sister Liu can go to work. But Sister Liu didn't want to do this, she wanted to accompany her son to grow up.
The pressure from Brother Wang and his family made Sister Liu feel unbearable, and she began to wonder if she was really suitable for this family. And Brother Wang began to emphasize the family's financial pressure, hoping that Sister Liu could understand him.
In this way, the contradictions between the two accumulated more and more, and they began to return to their previous AA life. Every time over money, the two would argue, and the family atmosphere became more and more tense.
As the night grew darker, Brother Wang came home and saw that Sister Liu was putting the child to sleep, he was silent for a moment, then walked to Sister Liu's side and said softly, "Sister, I have something I want to discuss with you." ”
Sister Liu held the child, swayed gently, and did not answer, but just motioned for him to continue.
Brother Wang took a deep breath and said, "My parents are old and not as healthy as before, I want to take them over to live." ”
Sister Liu was shocked by this sudden news, and she instantly felt a strong pressure, which she knew meant that she would have to take on more responsibilities for housework and taking care of the elderly.
You know my current physical condition, and I still have children to take care of, and I really can't take care of your parents anymore. "Sister Liu tried to release.
Brother Wang's face immediately became serious, "Eldest sister, they are my parents and your in-laws, you should take care of them." ”
Sister Liu felt unacceptable, she said: "We have been AA system for so many years, everything is a separate battle, and now you suddenly make this request, how can I accept it?"”
Brother Wang said coldly: "This is your responsibility as a daughter-in-law, and you can't shirk it." ”
Sister Liu's heart was full of helplessness, she felt that she was bound in a predicament that she could not extricate herself from, she looked at Brother Wang, her eyes were full of pleading, but Brother Wang didn't seem to see it, he turned around and left.
That night, Sister Liu didn't sleep well, she thought about it for a long time, and finally made a decision ......
As time passed, the life of Brother Wang's family gradually became tense. Although Wang's parents have moved into the house, the relationship between them is becoming increasingly strained. Brother Wang often blames Sister Liu for not taking good care of his parents, while Sister Liu retorts that she has done a lot.
One day, Brother Wang came home to find the house in shambles, and his mother was lying on the bed, apparently because she was unwell. And Sister Liu was busy cooking in the kitchen and didn't notice this situation at all.
Brother Wang walked up to Sister Liu angrily and asked, "Why don't you take care of my mother?."She's obviously not feeling well!”
Sister Liu raised her head, her face full of exhaustion, "I only have two hands, and I've done my best." ”
Brother Wang said coldly: "You always make excuses, you obviously don't want to take care of my family." ”
Sister Liu's eyes were full of tears, and she finally broke out: "Do you know?We've been married for so many years and I've put up with your AA system, even though I don't agree with it. I also wish for a harmonious home, but you never thought about it for me, only to blame me. ”
Brother Wang was stunned, he had never heard such words from Sister Liu.
Sister Liu continued: "I am not your servant, nor is I your nanny. I was your wife, but you never treated me as your family. You want me to take care of your family, so what have you done for me?”
Brother Wang didn't know how to answer, he only felt that there were mixed feelings in his heart, this was the first time they really communicated since they got married.
A few days later, one morning, when the chirping of birds was still echoing outside the window, Sister Liu sat at the dining table with a cup of steaming tea in her hand. She had apparently been awake for a long time, her eyes were red, and she seemed to have not slept all night. Brother Wang pushed open the bedroom door and saw her sitting figure, and his heart couldn't help but tighten.
We need to talk. Sister Liu said calmly.
Brother Wang slowly sat down across from her, silently waiting for her to speak.
Sister Liu took a deep breath and said in a deep voice: "I have been thinking about it for a long time, and I think we need to re-examine our marriage. You know, over the years, I have given a lot for my family, for you, and for my children, but all I feel is indifference and responsibility. ”
Brother Wang clenched his hand, and his voice trembled: "You want to say ......."”
Yes. Sister Liu interrupted him, a determined glint flashing in her eyes, "If we continue like this, I think divorce may be the best option." ”
Brother Wang's heart felt as if he had been hit with a hammer, and he couldn't believe what he had heard.
Why?He almost shouted.
Sister Liu said slowly: "Because I don't want to live in a home without love, respect, and responsibility." What I want is a real home, a partner who can support and understand each other, not a roommate who cares about every penny. ”
Brother Wang couldn't refute, he knew that Sister Liu was right.
As night fell, Brother Wang sat alone on the balcony with mixed feelings in his heart. After decades of marriage, he and Sister Liu have experienced ups and downs together, but he has gradually forgotten why he chose to spend his life with her in the first place. In the process of pursuing a material life, he forgot about spiritual satisfaction and the sincere feelings between husband and wife.
He remembered the sweetness of his first love, when they had nothing but each other. They look forward to the future together and work hard together. But as time went by, he became more and more utilitarian and treated Sister Liu more and more coldly.
He realizes that his past actions have deeply hurt Sister Liu, and he needs to make a change.
Early the next morning, Brother Wang got up early and prepared a hearty breakfast for Sister Liu. When Sister Liu woke up, she couldn't help but see the food on the table, and her eyes couldn't help but turn red.
Brother Wang took a deep breath, walked up to her, and gently held her hand: "Eldest sister, I know what I did wrong. I really regret what I did in the past. But I hope we can start over, I'm willing to give up AA, and I'm willing to work with you to rebuild our home. ”
Sister Liu looked at him with mixed feelings in her heart, and finally she nodded lightly.
Time is the best proof. Brother Wang's transformation was not just a momentary impulse. He really gave up the AA system and no longer deliberately cared about every penny. He started to share housework at home again, often preparing surprises for Sister Liu, so that she could feel the warmth of home. Their lives are slowly returning to the past, as if they have regained the sweetness of their newlyweds.
Sister Liu also saw Brother Wang's efforts, and she began to let go of the mustard in her heart and accept him again. She understands that there are sometimes misunderstandings and frictions in life, but as long as both parties have the determination to change and work hard, they will be able to find the good things of the past.
The two set out to travel together to explore this wonderful world and experience different cultures. During the trip, they get to know each other more deeply and deepen the emotional bond between husband and wife.
And their child, because of the harmony of his parents, has grown into an optimistic and sunny teenager. He often tells the people around him that home is the warmest place and is his safe haven.
Life flies, and 20 years have passed in the blink of an eye. Sister Liu and Brother Wang are already gray-haired old men, but their eyes are still full of enthusiasm for life and deep attachment to each other.