In this complex society, we often hear the admonition to "be honest".
However, being honest is not the same as being simple, naïve, or defenseless.
Excessive honesty often makes people fall into passivity, and even become the object of exploitation by others.
Therefore, we need to understand some truths, so that we can remain sincere and no longer suffer easily.
Many people mistakenly believe that as long as they please others in every way, they can get the respect and love of others.
However, this is often not the case. Excessive flattery will only make you lose yourself and become unprincipled and unprincipled.
Others will also feel that you deserve to give, and will be more unscrupulous to ask for it.
Therefore, we should learn to stick to our principles and bottom line, and interact with others without being humble or arrogant.
Only in this way can we earn the respect of others and true friendship.
This is not to encourage us to lose our temper at will, but to learn to express our displeasure and anger when appropriate.
Excessive tolerance will only make others think that you are a "soft persimmon" that can be pinched at will.
Of course, expressing anger doesn't mean making a fuss or speaking ill of each other.
We can express our dissatisfaction through firm and forceful language, serious expressions, or appropriate body movements.
In this way, they can not only protect their dignity and rights, but also do not damage their interpersonal relationships.
In interpersonal interactions, we don't have to give everything about ourselves.
Keeping some personal information and ideas appropriately can add to your mystique and appeal.
This is not to say that we have to lie to others or withhold important information, but that we have to learn to remain silent or answer vaguely when appropriate.
This protects your privacy and security, and stimulates curiosity and exploration in others.
The appearance here not only refers to the way you dress, but also includes the aspects of speech and behavior, temperament and cultivation.
A neat and elegant appearance, elegant manners, and a knowledgeable and witty conversation will make you stand out from the crowd.
When you become a person who cultivates both inside and outside, you will naturally attract more excellent friends and partners.
In social situations, we meet all kinds of people.
Some people deserve to be friends, some people can only taste it, and some people should stay away.
Therefore, we need to have a pair of discerning eyes and a calm heart to judge who is really worthy of friends or partners.
Only in this way can we avoid being taken advantage of or hurt by those who are outwardly enthusiastic and inwardly indifferent.
To sum up, "not being too honest" does not mean that we become hypocritical or cunning, but that we must learn to have the ability and wisdom to protect ourselves while remaining sincere and kind
Only in this way can we gain a foothold and continue to grow in this complex and ever-changing society;
Only in this way can we truly live up to ourselves and treat others well!