What to do when you experience cold violence at home?If you don t want to break up completely, do it

Mondo Psychological Updated on 2024-01-30

Many families have experienced a lack of verbal communication, physical contact, living their own lives, and a cold family atmosphere

The answer to this question varies, but what is certain is that this condition does have a negative impact on the physical and mental health of family members.

Domestic violence refers to the mental or psychological harm caused to family members through acts such as coldness, contempt, permissiveness, alienation and indifference. This form of violence usually manifests itself in acts of ignorance, ignorance, incare, and inattention, leaving family members feeling lonely, helpless, and hopeless mentally.

If the two parties do not communicate in language, do not have physical contact, take care of their own lives, and have a cold family, this can be regarded as a kind of cold domestic violence. This behavior can lead to alienation and a lack of mutual support and affection, leading to feelings of loneliness and helplessness among family members.

Therefore, we should pay attention to the problem of cold violence in the family, and prevent and solve this problem by strengthening communication, paying attention to the feelings and needs of family members, and establishing a relationship of mutual respect and support.

Domestic cold violence"This term generally refers to informal acts of violence such as the indifference of one spouse to the other, the minimization of verbal communication, or even the cessation or perfunctory sexual life when there is a conflict between the spouses. This kind of cold violence is actually a kind of psychological abuse, which is more manifested in the conflict between husband and wife without resorting to force, but through implicit threats, verbal attacks, economic and sexual control, etc., deliberately using mental torture to destroy each other, so that the marriage is in a long-term abnormal state.

The causes of cold violence in the family, as revealed by marriage experts, are hidden in several corners:

First of all, one party is dissatisfied with the emotions of the other party, but is unwilling to pour out directly, so he vents this dissatisfaction in a cold and violent way, like spring rain.

Second, one side tried to communicate with the other, but the other side dismissed it as nonsense, and in the end, the two sides drifted apart and turned into cold violence.

In addition, when one party encounters pressure in the outside world, he or she sweeps this pressure home like the wind, turning it into cold violence against his partner.

Or, one party has lost faith and enthusiasm for the continuation of the marriage, but he is unable to speak, so he uses cold violence to force the other party to break up first.

Finally, because of the shadow of childhood or the reason of the growth experience, there are flaws in the personality of the individual, and it is always necessary to soothe the self-feeling by suppressing others, so the person next to the pillow often becomes a "scapegoat".

Domestic cold violence forensics is a complex and delicate process, which is different from traditional domestic violence forensics. The abuser mainly uses psychological abuse to carry out cold violence, which makes it very difficult for the victim to obtain evidence. Victims of cold violence are unlikely to have visible physical scars like victims of traditional violence, and perpetrators rarely leave physical evidence after committing cold violence. Therefore, the victim needs to seek help from a professional matrimonial lawyer. A lawyer can collect a large amount of evidence from various aspects of family conflict and fight for the maximum benefit of the victim from the perspective of the court trial. In this way, the victim can get rid of the wrong marriage and regain freedom and happiness as soon as possible.

Domestic cold violence is often perpetrated through implicit threats, verbal assault, financial and sexual control, etc. This method will cause great psychological pressure on the other party, making it close to collapse, and at the same time, it will also lead to estrangement and mistrust in the marriage, and eventually lead to the end of the marriage.

Therefore, we need to pay attention to the problem of cold violence in the family and take proactive measures to prevent and solve it. Only in this way can we protect the rights and interests of the victims and maintain the harmony and happiness of the family.

It is true that it is not advisable to rely solely on legal means to deal with "cold violence in the family" and to eliminate its effects, but to think more from a moral point of view. Cold and violent people tend to be sensitive, narrow-minded, and calculating. From a psychological point of view, many common psychological disorders originate from cold violence, and its psychological damage to people is obvious. Therefore, effective communication becomes the key to problem solving. Here are a few things you can try:

1.Honest conversation: Have an honest conversation with the person who is cold and violent and understand their innermost thoughts and feelings.

2.Take the initiative to choose: In the face of cold violence, take the initiative to choose understanding and tolerance, rather than blindly complaining and fighting back.

3.Persuasion: Through rational communication, persuade the cold violent person to realize the harmfulness of his behavior and guide him to change his behavior.

4.Say goodbye for a while: When communication is fruitless, try to keep your distance for a while and give both parties some time to think calmly.

5.Testing: Through some small tests, observe the reactions of the cold violent person to better understand the reasons behind their behavior.

These methods do not happen overnight and require patience and persistence. At the same time, we should also pay attention to protect our mental health and avoid further harm from cold violenceWhen dealing with cold violence, we can take the following methods:

1.Stay calm: When faced with cold violence, stay calm first. Don't get emotional because of the other person's indifference, this will only make the situation worse. Stay calm, analyze the problem rationally, and look for solutions.

2.Communication is key: communicate openly with the other person and express your feelings and needs. Through communication, you can understand the other person's thoughts and feelings, so as to find a solution to the problem. At the same time, listen to the other person's opinions and respect the other person's feelings.

3.Seek professional help: If the other person's cold and violent behavior has seriously affected your life and work, then consider seeking professional help. A psychologist or psychologist can provide professional advice and a plan to help you cope with the psychological damage caused by cold violence.

4.Pay attention to your mental health: In the process of coping with cold violence, also pay attention to your mental health. You can relieve stress and improve your mental quality through exercise, meditation, reading, etc. At the same time, learn to self-comfort and self-motivate to maintain a positive attitude.

In conclusion, dealing with cold violence requires patience and persistence. At the same time, learn to protect your mental health and avoid further harm. Hopefully, these methods can help you cope with cold violence and regain the beauty of life.

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