In some families, the husband and wife are caught in a cold war, the language between each other seems to freeze into ice, the physical contact is like insulation, life becomes separate, and the family atmosphere is as cold as ice. This kind of silence and alienation is a manifestation of cold violence in the family.
1. What is"Domestic cold violence"
Domestic violence refers to informal violence such as indifference to each other, minimal verbal communication, and cessation or perfunctory sexual life after conflicts between husband and wife. Domestic cold violence is actually a form of mental abuse. This type of violence is generally manifested in the fact that the husband and wife do not resort to force, but torture each other through verbal aggression, financial control, etc., and control economically and sexually through implied threats or verbal aggression. Each other deliberately uses mental torture to destroy each other, so that the marriage is in a long-term abnormal state.
2. The reasons for the output of cold violence in the family.
According to marriage experts, there are several reasons for the output of cold violence: The first is that one party is dissatisfied with the other party, but is unwilling to say it directly, so he uses cold violence to vent his dissatisfaction;The second is that one party has also tried to communicate, but the other party thinks that it is purely nothing to do, and finally it slowly turns into cold violence;The third is that one of the parties encounters pressure outside, but brings this pressure back home, which translates into cold violence against the partner, and the fourth is that one party loses the belief and energy to maintain the marriage, but does not know how to speak, so he uses cold violence to force the other party to break up firstThe fifth is because of the shadow of childhood or the reason of the growth experience, which leads to the defects in the individual's personality, and always has to establish a good feeling of himself by suppressing others, so the pillow person often becomes"scapegoats".
3.How to collect evidence of cold violence in the family?
Domestic cold violence forensics is a complex and delicate process, which is different from traditional domestic violence forensics. The abuser mainly uses psychological abuse to carry out cold violence, which makes it very difficult for the victim to obtain evidence. Victims of cold violence are unlikely to have visible physical scars like victims of traditional violence, and perpetrators rarely leave physical evidence after committing cold violence. Therefore, the victim needs to seek help from a professional matrimonial lawyer. A lawyer can collect a large amount of evidence from various aspects of family conflict and fight for the maximum benefit of the victim from the perspective of the court trial. In this way, the victim can get rid of the wrong marriage and regain freedom and happiness as soon as possible.
4. The harm of domestic cold violence to marriage.
Domestic cold violence is often perpetrated through implicit threats, verbal assault, financial and sexual control, etc. This method will cause great psychological pressure on the other party, making it close to collapse, and at the same time, it will also lead to estrangement and mistrust in the marriage, and eventually lead to the end of the marriage.
Therefore, we need to pay attention to the problem of cold violence in the family and take proactive measures to prevent and solve it. Only in this way can we protect the rights and interests of the victims and maintain the harmony and happiness of the family.
5. How to deal with cold violence in the family.
Domestic cold violence is not only a kind of behavioral violence, but also a kind of psychological torture. It can cause great pain and harm to the victim and may even lead to the breakdown of the marriage. Therefore, we need to take this issue seriously and take proactive measures to prevent and solve it.
First of all, we need to strengthen our awareness and understanding of cold violence in the family. Understanding what cold violence can look like, how harmful it is, and why it can help us better prevent and respond to it.
Second, we need to establish positive ways of communicating. In marriage, both parties should be honest with each other and respect each other's feelings and needs. Through active communication, misunderstandings and conflicts can be eliminated, and mutual understanding and trust can be enhanced.
Finally, we need to seek professional help and support. If you encounter the problem of cold violence in the family, you can seek help from professionals such as psychological counselors and marriage and family teachers. They can provide professional advice and support to help victims get out of their difficult situation and rebuild a healthy marital relationship.
In conclusion, cold violence in the family is a serious problem that needs to be taken seriously. By strengthening awareness and understanding of cold violence in the family, establishing positive communication methods, and seeking professional help and support, we can better prevent and solve this problem, protect the rights and interests of victims, and maintain family harmony and happiness.