Love is not spoken, it is done.
It is two people who get along in the minutiae of getting along, running in a mode that makes each other comfortable, and a long-term business relationship. But if a man's words and deeds always make you feel uncomfortable, regardless of your feelings to break through the bottom line of getting along, such a man is destined not to love you. The following two places, the more he touches, the less he loves you. 
1. Don't care about your feelings, touch your bottom lineI have seen a short **: The girl in the middle is particularly disgusted with the boy taking his parents home to live, because every time the other party's parents come to the house, they look like they are yelling at each other and asking the girl to serve them. At first, the girl felt that it was her boyfriend's parents and that she should treat her with a friendly attitude, so she agreed. But I didn't expect that there were too many times, and the other party's family took it for granted, and they had no money to ask the girl, and they were not comfortable to blame the girl for not taking good care of them. 
The girl repeatedly asked the boy for advice, hoping that the boy's parents could return to their hometown, even if it was a regular monthly payment. The boy not only disagreed, but also told his parents that the girl's house was his own and she could live in it as she pleased. Seeing that her boyfriend and his family didn't care about their feelings so much, the girl finally couldn't bear to bring it up and broke up. I thought that the boy would keep it, but in exchange for the other party's accusation, the boy accused the girl of being too hypocritical and not suitable to be their daughter-in-law. 
The girl was very happy, glad that she broke up early. If a man really loves you, he won't always touch your scales again and again and make you unhappy. People who take you to heart will take care of your feelings, respect your choices, accept your uneasiness, and understand your decisions. Instead of pushing you the opposite side of him, it makes you feel extra cold. 
Second, there is no responsibility for love, and the red line is frequently touchedThe reader confided in me that one night I woke up in the middle of the night and found my husband's phone on. It turned out that my husband fell asleep while chatting. The reader didn't have the habit of looking at her husband's mobile phone, but that night, I didn't know why the ghost was wrong, so I turned on the other party's mobile phone, and found an unbearable scene. On the surface, she has always been in love with her husband, but behind her back she has a very ambiguous relationship with several women. 
The content of the chat is not the kind of simple sharing, not the kind of affection that has a good impression of each other, but the topic of unscrupulous relations that have developed to a certain extent. The reader is dizzy and wakes up her husband to confront him. The other party quickly admitted his mistake when he saw that the matter was revealed, hoping to be forgiven by the reader, and promised not to make an example. Unexpectedly, it didn't take long for readers to find something similar again, and then over and over again, the relationship between the two fell into a kind of dead loop. The reader's husband keeps admitting his mistakes, and then he doesn't change it, and the reader is eventually disappointed and has no confidence in the marriage relationship. 
frequently touches the red line in marriage, but the attitude is very good, seems to love you very much, and is willing to give in to you. In fact, this is the biggest disguise of love, such a man does not love you, but himself. In order to satisfy your inner desires, you can get along with different people in a variety of ways, even if you are with you, but it is just for the sake of marital stability and family security. A man who really loves you will stick to the bottom line for you, and will choose to refuse ** and abide by his behavior because he cherishes your feelings and your relationship. 
When two people get along, they need to have a sense of boundaries. Once the line is crossed, whether the relationship is good or bad is debatable. A man who really loves you understands your bottom line and can sense your worries, and then take the initiative to choose and do things that can protect your inner sense of security.