He is the hero of Jiafu, the same age as Jia's mother, but he has been the lowest house slave for a lifetime, and when he is old, he is tied into the horse shed by the fifth generation grandson of Jiafu and fed horse manure. Who is this person?
He is Mafu Jiaoda. In "Dream of Red Mansions", there is a wonderful scene where Jiao Da scolds Jia Rong: "Brother Rong, don't make the master sex in front of Jiao Da." ......If you are not Jiao Da alone, you will be an official and enjoy the glory and wealth ?......He did not repay my kindness, but became my master. Savor this passage, and then see the big melon he shook out behind him, Jiao Da really doesn't know the height of the sky, it's just the rhythm of "death"!
Why is Jiao Da the rhythm of "death"?
Let's start with his identity. Jiao Da is just a little groom played by the ancestor of Ningguo Mansion, Jia, a lowest-level domestic slave. Jia Fu to Jia Rong's generation is the fifth generation, that is to say, he has been the lowest domestic slave in Ningguo Mansion for a lifetime.
But why does he think that Jia Rong is not qualified to put on a score in front of him, and even Jia Rong's father Jia Zhen and grandfather Jia Jing dare not put up a stand in front of him and want him to score three points?
The reason is that he is the hero of the Jia family, without him Jiaoda, there would be no Ning Guofu at all, and there would be no glory and wealth of the Jia family.
Jiao Da's words are true. Jiao Da followed Jia Yan, the ancestor of Jiafu, when he was a teenager, and for Jia Yan, he was indeed a loyal servant and a life-saving benefactor.
Jiao Da followed Jia Yan to the battlefield three or four times, which can be said to be born and died. Jia Yan was recited by Jiao Da from the pile of dead people. In order to save Jia Yan, he didn't have anything to eat, he went to steal, and all the stolen was given to the master, but he was reluctant to eat;I didn't have water to drink for two days, so I easily found half a bowl of water and gave it all to the master, and I went to drink horse urine when I was thirsty.
It is this credit that Jia Yan is grateful to him and takes special care of him. Jia Yan's descendants, hindering the face of their ancestors, also let him have a few points.
And Jiao Da's own mentality is also undergoing subtle changes. When he rescued Jia Yan, he must have only relied on his kindness and a slave's loyalty to his master to save people, and he probably didn't think about getting any benefits in his mind. With Jia Yan's special care for him, he also enjoyed the attention of the Jia family to him, and over time he felt that this special care became a matter of course.
When Jia Yanxian went, the so-called "people go to tea and cool", which means that the most direct beneficiary has paid off the favor he owes - Jiao Da's life-saving grace. And his descendants, remembering your Jiaoda's credit is affection, and it is also their duty not to remember.
At this time, it is the most important time to test a person's mentality and even character. Obviously, Jiao Da didn't pass either.
Let's start with mentality. After Jia Yan's death, Jiao Da still slept in the previous merit book and did not want to wake up, insisting that the descendants of the Jia family can have today's glory and wealth, it is he who saved their ancestors. They should be grateful to Him.
Jiao Da has this idea, and it is understandable. Jia Yan's descendants, although they don't pay as much attention to him as much as Jia Yan did when he was there, they don't seem to be too much to him.
Jia Yan's granddaughter-in-law, You Shi, said to Wang Xifeng: "I often say to those in charge, don't send him on an errand .......""At this time, Jiao Da is old, even now, no matter how rich a family is, they will not take money to support idlers, and they have already sent Jiao Da out, at most some pension money, which can be regarded as benevolence and righteousness, but the Jia family does not. When the grandmother said this, thinking that Jiao Da usually has nothing to do.
And what about Jiaoda's performance?
Regardless of decency, blindly eating and drinking, and getting drunk, no one scolds ......This is the evaluation of the hostess You Shi on the character of Jiao Da.
No, on this day, Wang Xifeng was invited by You Shi and Qin Keqing (Jia Rong's wife) to take Jia Baoyu to Ningguo Mansion for tea. When he was happy, he introduced Qin Keqing's younger brother Qin Zhong. Before leaving in the evening, the housekeeper Lai Er really couldn't spare anyone, so he sent Jiao Da to drive a carriage to send Qin Zhong. Unexpectedly, Jiao Da was drunk again, and he scolded the chief manager Lai Er for being unfair and bullying the soft and afraid of the hard. He said that if he had a good errand, he would send someone else, like he would send someone in the middle of the night. Scolding the housekeeper for being a conscienceless bastard!
A frame that sells old with the old, who will like it when they see this frame and listen to these words?
When Jiao Da scolded the housekeeper Lai Er, it happened that Jia Rong sent Wang Xifeng and Baoyu back to Rongguo Mansion, and ran into Jiao Da's formation with no one in his eyes, and his face was ** hangingWhat's more, Wang Xifeng thought that they were too soft on Jiao Da before, and they were too used to Jiao Da, so they should have sent out of the house a long time ago. So Jia Rong scolded Jiao Da twice, and ordered someone to tie him up and teach him a lesson.
Unexpectedly, this Jiao Da didn't take Jia Rong in his eyes at all, and scolded the words at the beginning of this article. not only moved out of the old credit, but also threatened the little master to get a white knife in and a red knife out without a bottom line.
These words made Wang Xifeng, who has always been known for his ruthlessness, listen to them, can he not be angry?She thinks that Jiao Da is a "thing without a king's law", and it is a "scourge" to continue to stay in the mansion, and it also makes relatives and friends "laugh" and let Jia Rong "send it away"!
Unexpectedly, when the little servants tied up Jiao Da and dragged him to the stable, Jiao Da scolded even more outrageous words: "I want to go to the ancestral hall to cry for the master." There is hope that these chusheng will be born until now!Daily house stealing* dog play* chickens, crawling* gray climbing* gray, raising* little uncle's raising* little uncle, I don't know anything ?......The little guys were so panicked that they used horse manure to plug his mouth!
Do you think this Jiao Da is asking for hardship and suffering?It's too much!
As the saying goes, "Don't slap your face when you hit someone, don't expose your shortcomings when you scold someone", not to mention that this is someone else's family ugly!Who doesn't want to be decent?You're just a lowly house slave?
These chusheng", one sentence overturned a boatload of people, Jiao Da scolded all the people of the Jia family, men, women and children!
stealing * dog play * chicken every day" is to scold the descendants of the Jia family for not doing their jobs all day long.
The last two sentences are more powerful:
Climb * gray climb * gray", is to scold her father-in-law Jia Zhen and daughter-in-law Qin Keqing together, is this melon big?
raising *little uncle's *little uncle" is to scold Wang Xifeng and Jia Rong for being ambiguous. This is purely groundbreaking on Tai Sui's head!Do you say that Jiao Da is "doing death"?
So why did Jiao Da "die" so much?Is it just because he loves to drink and is immoral when he drinks?
Not really!On the surface, he was showing merit, because he was afraid that the descendants of Jiafu would forget that he had saved their ancestors.
The deep reason is that he is asking for attention, attention, and affirmation.
The American psychologist William James put it this way: "The most pressing need of human nature is the desire to be affirmed. ”
Jia Yan affirmed Jiao Da's credit. Jia Yan's descendants, on the surface, have a good focus on it, but after Jia Yan's death, the old Jiao Da was not only not driven out of Jia's mansion, but also served with good food and drink, and rarely sent work.
But the descendants of Jiafu do not respect Jiao Da from the heart, but treat Jiao Da as if they are gracious, condescending, not grateful. In their hearts, Jiao Da Bijing is a house slave, everything you do is a matter of course, there is not much with you, and there is no lot without you. They don't want to affirm Jiaoda's merits.
didn't give him a job, You Shi told the truth: "It's all over when you die......"It's not really out of focus.
The more the little master has this attitude, the stronger the sense of loss in Jiao Da's heart, and the more wine he drinks.
Drunk and cowardly, so Jiao Da will use the strength of wine, and small things will also become the fuse, and he will shake out the dissatisfaction in his heart, what he sees in his eyes, what he hears in his ears, and what he doesn't have. This is Jiaoda's sorrow, and it also exposes the hypocrisy of Jiafu.
Drama into life, life is like a play, in fact, such a drama can be said to be staged in a corner of real life every day. No, Dong Yuhui's "small composition" incident that has just ended, why is it not "eager to be affirmed"?
It is human nature to desire to be affirmed, and there is no need to avoid it, but when we make appeals, we must pay attention to the ways and means, and pay attention to the timing and occasion of speaking.
Obviously, Jiao Da doesn't understand this, and Dongfang's selection may be ill-considered.
The lessons of others are taken as a mirror, and I hope that when you make demands in the future, no matter how great the credit is, you don't have to take it out from time to time to say, it is annoying to say too much;If you want to speak, you should also grasp the timing of your speech, and pay attention to the way and occasion of speaking.
Bi Jing, no matter how good the knife is used for a long time, it will be dull, and no matter how good the steel is used on the blade, it can help.
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