Zhuangzi said:
"Knowing that it is helpless and peaceful, virtue is also. ”
It means that knowing that something cannot be changed, but still being able to accept it with peace of mind, is the highest state of moral cultivation.
For what has happened and cannot be changed, the wisest choice is to accept it calmly;
We can look forward to the future that has not yet happened, and think about how to take the next step.
In this life, although everything cannot go smoothly and everything goes well, we can regard suffering as a gift from God.
In this way, both obedience and disobedience are the best arrangements in our eyes, and we can draw the most precious insights.
In the second half of life, learn to see through, look down, and see clearly.
See through fame and fortune
There is a poem in Jin Yong's "Chivalrous Journey":
"The four directions of heaven and earth are rivers and lakes, the world is smart and confused, the wind and waves rise in Vanity Fair, but people lose in the end. ”
In this world, everyone wants to get ahead, and everyone is running for fame and fortune.
But in the end, how many people can come out on top in this pursuit of fame and fortune, and how many people can have the last laugh.
A true wise man will not indulge in vanity fair, but will go to what he loves, pursuing inner wealth and peace.
Cai Lan, a famous gourmet, has achieved a good reputation in the film and television industry, but he has always felt unhappy.
After struggling between business and art for decades, at the age of 56, he chose to leave fame and fortune behind to focus on his passion for gastronomy.
Countless people felt sorry for him, but Cai Lan replied:"Life is limited, and you should pursue something of your own and interesting. ”
Indeed, if we take fame and fortune too seriously, we will lose ourselves, and the awakening after seeing through fame and fortune can change our state of mind and make our lives suddenly brighter.
Compared with the fatigue after chasing fame and fortune, it is better to live according to what you like, but live a relaxed life and live a happy life.
Writer Yu Juan once wrote in "Unfinished in This Life":
"People should base their happiness on sustainable and long-term life goals, rather than just looking at short-term fame, fortune and power. ”
In fact, there is nothing wrong with the pursuit of fame and fortune, after all, who doesn't want to live an enviable life.
It's just that many people gradually forget the purpose of their coming and forget their original intention on the way to fame and fortune.
Thus, losing their way and going further and further down the wrong path.
As Mo Yan wrote in "Fatigue of Life and Death":
"The fatigue of life and death begins with greed; Less desire and inaction, body and mind are at ease. ”
In the process of chasing fame and fortune, people's desires are gradually amplified, and the greater the desire, the more tired they will live.
And the ** we feel tired of is also our heart that is unwilling to restrain our desires and unwilling to stop chasing.
Only by seeing through fame and fortune can we get rid of fatigue and be a happy self.
Bearish on gains and losses
Xu Zhimo once said:
"I'm lucky; Miss, my life. ”
We have to believe that everything is predestined, what does not belong to us, no matter how hard it takes, we can't force it, and what belongs to us will always belong to us if we go around and around.
Many times, we don't live as well as a fool, even if he is crazy, but he lives carefree and without worries.
And because we have too good a memory, painful, joyful memories remain in our minds.
Even a simple thing, after being processed by the brain, gradually becomes complicated, thus making yourself depressed.
The writer Yishu said:
"There are gains and losses, which is life, and we must not be angry. ”
I think that sometimes 'de' is more like a feather, the more you care about it, the more you run towards it, the closer you get to it, the feather will only get farther and farther away from you under the action of the wind.
If you think about it, the more we care about whether we can get it or not, the more likely it is to lose, or even lose it because of a small one.
On the contrary, if you are no longer attached and look down on gains and losses, everything will follow the fate, and the feathers will come with the wind and fall to you.
Although we can ** the weather, but not accurately * gain and lose.
There's a good saying:"Gains and losses follow fate, and there is no increase or decrease in the heart. ”
For uncontrollable gains and losses, we can be at peace with the situation, look down on the gains and losses, and maintain a peaceful and stable state of mind.
In this way, the bearish is put down, and everything is at ease.
See people's hearts clearly
Walking in this complex world, the more we can understand, the more difficult it is human nature to understand in this world, and the most difficult thing to see is the human heart.
As writer Keigo Higashino said:
"There are only two things in this world that cannot be looked at, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart. ”
The sun is dazzling so you can't look at it directly, and people's hearts are unpredictable so you don't dare to look at it directly.
In this life, only after experiencing ups and downs and understanding that people go tea and cool, can they truly see through people's hearts and know that true feelings are precious.
Some people say: there are many people who put icing on the cake, but there are very few people who give charcoal in the snow. ”
Indeed, it is difficult to distinguish between true feelings and false intentions until the time of distress.
When you can be at a low point, the person who pulls you must know how to be grateful.
You must know that there is no feast in the world that will not be dispersed, and those who can stay by your side must cherish it.
See through fame and fortune, and never forget the original intention; Look down on gains and losses, no worries; See people's hearts clearly and cherish good fate.
For the rest of my life, I hope you and I can see through, look down, see clearly, cherish the people around us, and let go of external objects.