Each of us should know what our life script is and how to find it.
Nietzsche said:
You are neither a sequel to your parents, nor a prequel to your children, nor a side story to your friends.
Therefore, our life must be an open pattern, no one can trap us in that place, we have to find our own direction in life.
The most difficult moment in life is not that you fail and there is no one around you who can give you a cold greeting, nor that no one knows your suffering, but that you don't know what you want, you can't find a sober self, and when you know yourself clearly, you can find yourself.
1. Learn to accept
There are many things in our lives that are unpredictable, and there are times when we can't do many things even if we do them ourselves, and at this time, we must learn to accept them.
The young writer Lu Sihao said:
A big part of growing up is acceptance, accepting parting ways, accepting the impermanence of the world, accepting loneliness and frustration, and accepting sudden feelings of powerlessness.
Of course, what I mean by acceptance is not that you don't do anything at the beginning, but that you keep the other party, and the other party still chooses to leave, then we accept parting ways, and your fate has come to this.
Teacher Luo Xiang said that in the book "Details of the Rule of Law", it is said that the only certain life is an uncertain life.
Sometimes life is impermanent, God doesn't give us what we want, what you don't want, and frustration and difficulties come to the door.
You've done everything you can, and who can blame you for being on the verge of being outside?No one can blame you.
If you are lonely, then accept loneliness, it is not a fun thing to be friends with yourself, if you fail, then accept failure, and start all over again.
Accepting is not giving up, accepting what you can't do is not necessarily a good thing for you, we have all heard that you do what you can, within your strength, you did your best, what about accepting.
Live well, work hard, today's sun, can't dry tomorrow's clothes, tomorrow's rain can't drench today's self, forget what should be forgotten, let the heart go to zero, have a good heart, and move forward with a smile.
2. Know how to change
American writer Will Bowen wrote in "The World Without Complaining":
Complaining is like bad breath, we notice it when it comes out of someone else's mouth;But when it comes out of our mouth, we can turn a deaf ear. Change what you say and stop complaining. Change your words, change your thinking, and you can change your life.
Life is a lot of change, encounter different things, to know how to be flexible, meet different people, to learn to improvise, whether in life, or in the workplace, people who can adapt to different situations, will be able to deal with different emergencies.
Life isn't perfect, so we need to be flexible in life so that we can cope with the challenges that come with complex circumstances.
Just like math problems, many math problems have more than one solution, and the reason why there are different solutions is that we can open our minds, diverge our thinking in multiple directions, and look for answers from multiple directions.
Many problems have different solutions, and how can we have only one way to live in life?There are infinite possibilities in life, and learning to change and know how to be flexible will bring you unprecedented changes.
There are many tracks of the train, which can reach your destination from all directions, and you can also do different trains to reach your destination.
Whether it's a math problem or a train, it tells us that there are many ways to get to our destination, we don't have to stare at one road, life has infinite possibilities, and there is no need to block ourselves in a dead end.
3. Know to let go
The German writer Hermann Hesse said:
Some people think that persistence makes us stronger, but sometimes, letting go is.
People often say that it is the hardest to be able to do something consistently, but sometimes, knowing how to let go is the hardest.
The French are creative, but they think their country is creative because it goes hand in hand with their summer vacations.
Every year they have a month where they put down all their work and go to a place where they are guaranteed to be quiet, to let themselves go, to return to their hearts, to let themselves know about life.
Sometimes you must learn to let go of some moments in your life, put down the work at hand, take a break, and experience the beauty of nature.
When you experience more from letting go, you can feel a lot from it, and when you learn to let go of one thing, you will find that the world can be so interesting.
In the "Aphorisms", I once saw such a sentence:
Things in the world are never perfect, no matter how prudent you are, there will be shortcomings, and it is best to choose to get "half" and let go of "half".
There are so many things and so many people to encounter in your daily life, don't let anything take up your time, and don't let anyone disturb your life.
Sometimes we need some tranquility for us to have a change of mind, and for a moment for us to take some time to rest our minds.
If you can't accept it, you can change, if you can't change it, you can let it go, life is growth, and growth is life.
It is a kind of ability for people to live a lifetime, live transparently and wonderfully. May your life go more and more smoothly, life will be wider and wider, and it will be enough for you to enjoy yourself and be worthy of your heart.