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In the seemingly calm but undercurrent of the workplace, we often hear a sentence on the lips of bosses: "I am an emotional person." ”
However, you can't help but be careful when this sentence comes up, because in this profit-oriented modern workplace chess game, feelings are often an elusive chess piece.
For example, Xiao Li, a colleague who had outstanding performance in the company, swore that he would not poach any colleagues in the company when he left to start a business. However, the river of time always quietly changes its original trajectory.
Half a year later, Xiao Li began to poach his old colleagues. Here, we not only see the contrast between Xiao Li's commitment and practical actions, but also see the complex entanglement of interests and emotions in the workplace.
In this story, feelings and interests are like two parallel lines that never seem to intersect.
Xiao Li's behavior, on the one hand, reflects his determination to give up his old promises for the development of his startup, and on the other hand, it also exposes a reality in the workplace
In the face of practical interests, emotional relationships often seem inadequate.
Therefore, in the workplace, those seemingly emotional statements are actually likely to be a strategy.
The workplace is like a battlefield, and everyone is fighting for their own interests. In this context, those promises of affection may only be a temporary expediency, a temporary compromise in the face of interests.
After all, the workplace is first and foremost a field of interests, and then a field of friendship. Everyone is fighting for their own interests, and feelings are often just an add-on in a given situation.
Let's take a look at the company's attitude towards Xiao Li. They initially chose to be understanding and supportive, but when they found out that Xiao Li was poaching, their attitude changed to using the company's position in the industry to set up obstacles.
This change is actually a sober understanding of reality: in the face of interests, the so-called "heavy feelings" are nothing more than empty talk.
So, when you hear your boss say that he is "emotionally heavy", you have to be careful.
This may mean that when interests conflict with feelings, feelings are often the one that is sacrificed.
This is the reality of the workplace, cold and direct.
Therefore, in the complex drama of the workplace, the relationship between feelings and interests seems to be a delicate dance.
The workplace is essentially a field of interests.
This does not mean that we completely abandon the human touch, but we must have a clear understanding that in the workplace, profit is always the driving force. When a boss says he's "emotional," it's usually a sign that he's more inclined to use emotions than tangible interests to maintain employee relationships.
This is not to say that feelings are worthless, but on the chessboard in the workplace, feelings are often a double-edged sword.
Going back to Xiao Li's example, we see a typical workplace transition. When he left his job to start his own business, he promised not to poach his colleagues from the company, but then he broke that promise. This begs the question: Was the promise based on genuine emotion or a momentary mantra?
In fact, in the workplace, the weight of commitments often varies depending on the situation.
Xiao Li's behavior is actually part of the rules of survival in the workplace. When the situation deteriorates, when survival becomes a priority, earlier promises and feelings often become secondary. This is not to say that Xiao Li's behavior is completely correct, but on the other hand, his approach also reflects a kind of workplace realism.
Now, let's turn to the situation of the boss of the company. He faces a common workplace dilemma: how to deal with this perfidy situation?
On the one hand, he tries to solve problems through communication, which shows a humane management style. But on the other hand, he also needs to consider more practical countermeasures, such as improving employee treatment, or legal means.
The key point here is that the workplace is not only an emotional field, but also a field of interests. When dealing with such issues, it is important to maintain emotions while not ignoring practical considerations.
However, when bosses or employees overemphasize feelings, they often overlook this essence of the workplace.
On the other hand, relationships in the workplace are not completely worthless, at least to some extent promote teamwork and a working atmosphere.
But the problem is that this feeling cannot be the overwhelming deciding factor.
Because on the big stage of the workplace, everyone is the master of their own destiny. Affection can be a seasoning, but it must never be a main course.
For example, the beginning of the story seems to be warm, Xiao Li left his job to start a business, his old club expressed his support, and the two sides got together and dispersed.
However, only half a year later, things began to change, and Xiao Li began to poach the employees of his old club.
Here, there is the other side of the workplace - the game of interests.
Xiao Li's behavior, although it seems to violate the original promise, under the rules of the workplace, he has not done anything wrong. Because the workplace is first and foremost a field of interests, and then a field of friendship.
The boss's "affection" is likely a strategy to make up for the gap he can't give more material rewards. When he felt threatened, he proposed to set up a checkpoint to obstruct Xiao Li, isn't this the embodiment of the supremacy of interests?
In other words, the relationship between the boss and the employee is actually based on the material foundation.
If material things are satisfied, feelings can exist. Otherwise, everything is empty talk.
So, when the boss says, "I value feelings", how should we respond?
First of all, we must clearly understand that the workplace is a field of interest. We need to rationally analyze the intentions of the boss, and at the same time, we must protect our own interests. If your boss really values you, he will give you enough in return materially.
If it's just a verbal "heavy feeling", then the feeling may just be a ploy or a cover.
Secondly, don't rely entirely on the "feelings" of your boss, and have your own judgment and bottom line. In the workplace, we must learn to protect ourselves and not be confused by so-called "feelings". Remember, a true workplace relationship is based on mutual interests, not just emotion.
Finally, have the courage to fight for the benefits you deserve. If the boss really values you, then he will give you the reward you deserve in material terms. If not, then maybe it's time to think about looking for new opportunities.
In short, you should be more careful when your boss says, "I value feelings".
In this workplace battlefield full of interest exchanges, we need to keep a clear head, analyze the situation rationally, protect our own interests, and not be confused by superficial emotions.
In this way, we can better survive and thrive in the workplace.