"The Years of Burning Passion" describes the romantic love between Shi Guangrong and Chu Qin. During their married life, the two experienced numerous quarrels and strife. There is a view that the way Shi Guangrong and Chu Qin interact is consistent with the interaction pattern of most couples in real life. Their lives are full of quarrels and joys, but when they get older, they realize that they are indispensable to each other, and this is the most sincere and simple love story.
However, in my opinion, does Shi Guangrong really have a deep affection for Chu Qin?What does his love really mean?In fact, he never really loved her, and his real intention in marrying her was only for his own happiness. His love easily satisfies her, but it doesn't make her really like him. In this marital relationship, he seems to love Chu Qin deeply on the surface, but in fact he is the most selfish person.
1.In order to marry Chu Qin, he was beheaded first, and then reported.
Shi Guangrong was always busy fighting the enemy. Although he had reached a young, energetic age, he had already devoted too much energy to the war. It wasn't until he was over 36 years old, after the founding of New China, that Shi Guangrong began to have the time and energy to pursue love.
Shi Guangrong was a long-time war fighter who rarely interacted with women. So when he first witnessed the 19-year-old Chu Qin dancing on the streets of downtown Shenyang, he had a deep memory of her hauntingly sweet smile. "I am a man, and I have a dream that after marrying that woman, I can live a happy life!Shi Guangrong said to himself that one day, he would marry this woman.
At a certain party, Shi Guangrong met Chu Qin again. He wanted to hug her tightly and dance, but Chu Qin always leaned slightly and struggled to break free. Shi Guangrong revealed to her that he was thirty-six years old. "I don't believe you're going to love me. The meaning of this phrase is that when he reaches marriageable age, he wishes to marry her.
However, Chu Qin only lowered her head and supported her body outward, desperate to quickly escape from the man's arms. Shi Guangrong has expressed his love to Chu Qin many times, but each time he is enthusiastic but cold behind his back. Faced with Chu Qin's predicament, Shi Guangrong chose a different path, hoping to convince Chu Qin's parents.
Chu Qin's parents run a small shop, and life is not so easy. My father was a veteran soldier who fought on the front line all year round. After Chu Qin's father learned the news that he was the head of the regiment, he resolutely said that he would only marry Chu Qin in this life, which shocked and delighted him. Although Shi Guangrong was much older than Chu Qin, Chu Qin's father firmly believed that not only would his daughter marry such a man would not only give her a better life, but also that their old couple would not be bullied.
Therefore, Shi Guangrong easily obtained the approval of Chu Qin's parents and chose a suitable date to marry Chu Qin.
Shi Hai described in the original work: After his father left, Qin's parents summoned Qin. She put her father's portrait and a ** on the table, and then wrote her name on a piece of paper. As soon as Jean caught a glimpse of her parents' expressions, she immediately understood everything. Jean cried very sadly. She seemed to have experienced great injustice, and said with tears in her eyes: I don't want to, I don't want to get married.
Jean bursts into tears with grief, her love ends prematurely because of her father's intervention, and no one knows that she is going through the relationship. When Qin was about to get married, his father sent Qin to one of the best middle schools in the county. On the day of the wedding, Jean's parents pulled Jean out of the room with Jean, and Jean cried loudly while crying: I don't, no.
However, this matter could no longer be handled by Jean, and Jean was pushed onto the horse, and the sound of neat footsteps and Jean's weak crying finally disappeared.
That night, Chu Qin sat in her new home, still crying loudly. Shi Guangrong didn't care about Chu Qin's marriage, he had already married her, and no matter how much she shed tears or caused a commotion, it couldn't change the fact that they became husband and wife. Even if she has feelings for other people, what kind of emotional fluctuations can she provoke?
For the outside world, Shi Guangrong's sincere feelings for Chu Qin are obvious, his love for her is so urgent and sincere, and he even wants to win the support and trust of his parents-in-law at all costs.
However, in Chu Qin's view, Shi Guangrong behaves rather selfishly. He knew that his heart was possessed by a woman, but he was unwilling to accept it. He was fond of Chu Qin's young and beautiful appearance, but never asked Chu Qin if he had a crush on himFrom the moment she first met him, her face was filled with an expression of rejection, but sadly, in order to fulfill his dream, he married a beautiful and touching wife, thus ruining her love.
After Chu Qin and Shi Guangrong got married, Shi Hai mentioned in his text that his father had many sleep problems, not only snoring, but also the Xi of grinding teeth, farting and chirping. My mother had the same problem, and often slept soundly during the day when she was drowned out by his snoring. It is difficult for the mother to fall asleep, how can she sleep peacefully in this environment full of foul odors and loud snoring?He thought, "My father must have wanted to take some kind of medicine!"He silently endured his father's evil deeds, immersed himself in the scenes in "Dream of Red Mansions" again and again, felt the falling red snow, chanted and composed poems, this is the real life.
The mother is full of deep emotions for the life described in "Dream of Red Mansions", and the love between men and women has reached the extreme. Although life is full of beauty, reality has torn my mother's dreams apart. She is always worried about whether her children will lose their confidence, ideals and pursuits because of unsatisfactory things in life. How could she not feel pain and not lose sleep?
Shi Guangrong and Chu Qin's lifestyles and upbringing backgrounds are completely different. After Shi Guangrong married Chu Qin, he fell asleep contentedly every day, he had a soft spot for this lifestyle, but he didn't realize that Chu Qin lived like a long time in such a living environment.
In order to make Chu Qin sincerely let go of the past and leave her heart in this family, Shi Guangrong thought of a wonderful way, that is, to let Chu Qin give birth to a child. A mother's love is like a mountain, and when she has a child, Chu Qin's heart will be completely bound.
2.Being good to your parents-in-law does not mean that you are good to your wife and children.
After Chu Qin became pregnant, Shi Guangrong's inner tension was finally relieved. This child is the joint property of Chu Qin and him. In other words, the child firmly bound his relationship with Qin, and Chu Qin decided to stay in the family forever.
Chu Qin gave birth to three children again and again, they are the eldest son Shi Lin, the second daughter Shi Jing and the younger son Shi Hai. Shi Guangrong's days at home were short, and by the time he decided to stay at home without a chance to fight, his children had reached their liveliest and most playful age.
Shi Guangrong couldn't stand the quarrels between the children and often spanked their butts indiscriminately, causing the children's butts to swell to the point that they couldn't even sit on the bench.
Out of concern for the child, Chu Qin pointed to Shi Guangrong's nose and told him: What kind of father are you?You wipe the feces and urine for which child, you have no right to harm the child!
Shi Guangrong does not think that he has failed to fulfill his duties as a father. In his conception, under the stick is the filial son. Therefore, he yelled at Chu Qin and said: You stay away from me, the child is mine, what do I want to do, you have no right to interfere, if you anger me, I will give you a beating.
In the face of the violence inflicted by Shi Guangrong on the child, Chu Qin chose to remain silent. She is a thoughtful woman, she doesn't like to quarrel with men, she hates arguing with men even more, she thinks that men are selfish and will hurt her. She knew that she couldn't justify herself, and often hid next to her and cried with tears streaming down her face: This is all the arrangement of fate, how could I marry such a rough man?
Unfortunately, Chu Qin's dissatisfaction with Shi Guangrong was not understood by anyone. Although Shi Guangrong is illiterate to outsiders, his filial piety to his parents-in-law is particularly high.
Shi Guangrong lost his parents at a very young age, and from the moment he can remember, he grew up by eating a hundred family meals. He regarded Chu Qin's parents as his own biological parents, and when Chu Qin's mother was sick, Shi Guangrong stood by him, providing funds and efforts to take care of her wholeheartedly.
When Chu Qin's father was sick and lying in bed, it was Shi Guangrong who cleaned his body with his own hands and accompanied him day and night in the hospital. His filial piety to the old couple not only touched the people around him, but also moved Chu Qin's parents.
Chu Qin's father often mentioned that although he did not have a son in his life, he had a son-in-law who was more filial than his son. Chu Qin was able to marry Shi Guangrong, which was a kind of luck for their Chu family.
However, Chu Qin's parents did not realize that Shi Guangrong's kindness to his parents-in-law did not mean that he was also good to his wife and children. Because he was a child of the landlord class. When Shi Lin grew up, he aspired to enter the university Xi, but Shi Guangrong firmly advised him to join the army and sent him to the most hostile areas.
In Shi Hai's original work, he mentions that his mother has a different opinion about his father's behavior. Mother said, "What else can he do at his age?"However, the father waved his hand and said: The child belongs to me, so it was decided.
The father always considered his three children to be his own, and even his mother was not around. He said, my son has grown up, he is his own person, and I want to give him the best life. In his love life, he has taken three children for himself.
Shi Lin couldn't stand the local living conditions, so he asked Shi Guangrong for help, hoping that he could transfer him closer to home. But Shi Guangrong refused his request and tore up Chu Qin's secret transfer order.
Shi Lin was extremely disappointed in Shi Guangrong and no longer called him his father. After his father's death, he and his mother lived in a very difficult way, they could only eat two meals a day, and sometimes they could see their father and mother together, and both father and mother were very hard. He stayed outside for many years, but never wrote a letter to Shi Guangrong. His only letter was written to Shi Guangrong after his death, saying that he hated Shi Guangrong, but he couldn't hate it either, because Shi Guangrong was his father.
Shi Guangrong generously helped many people in his hometown find good jobs and positions, but when it was his son's turn, he became ruthless and would rather be hated by his son for the rest of his life than help his son.
Shi Guangrong did not fulfill his responsibilities in the education of his children, and although he was never really involved in the development of children, he gave guidance and advice to their decision-making at the most critical moments in their lives. He does not take into account the emotions of the children and stubbornly tries to change their fate.
Although he ostensibly looks for the well-being of the child, in reality he gradually pushes the child into a dangerous situation. He gave everything he had to his children to make them a part of himself, and he was the happiest person in the world. In his point of view, the child's life is for him, for the realization of his dreams. He dedicates everything he has to his children, treating them as tools rather than partners, and treating children as playthings and toys. He selfishly occupies the child's right to choose the future, using the child's pain to realize his dreams.
Chu Qin was busy around the children and the stove every day, and his body was so tired that his back hurt, Shi Guangrong turned a blind eye to this, even if the oil bottle at home had been emptied, he would not help. Chu Qin tossed and turned in the middle of the night due to stomach pain, and it was difficult to sleep, while Shi Guangrong fell into a deep sleep. Even when he heard Chu Qin's painful moans, he didn't want to get up and ask her what had happened, or pour her a glass of water.
Iwakawa pointed out that if a person is good to a pet, it does not mean that he is also good to people;The righteousness of their brothers does not mean that they will remain absolutely loyal to their lovers;Showing filial piety to one's parents is not the same as showing tenderness to one's wife. The relationship between people is composed of each other's needs and expectations, and this need and expectation has become the most basic interpersonal relationship between people. In many cases, one thing can only represent another, and people tend to increase expectations and longings for another person through excessive imagination.
The reason why Shi Guangrong is so filial to his parents-in-law is because he has not received the care and warmth of the family, and he pours all his debt and affection to his parents-in-law, hoping to get a kind of inner comfort. He was kind to his parents-in-law and relatives back home, but his concern for his wife and children was not always so deep.
Shi Guangrong always verbally claimed to love Chu Qin, but in fact he only used words to express his feelings, and never really took actual action. Chu Qin not only has to work but also take care of the children, and when she returns home, she is also responsible for cooking and daily life. However, Shi Guangrong never participated in Chu Qin's housework, causing the child to cry continuously. Faced with such a situation, he would only loudly reprimand Chu Qin for not knowing how to take care of the child, and use violent means to make the child stop crying.
He had never really appreciated Chu Qin's efforts, and he was puzzled by this. In his conception, to be able to marry a beautiful wife and enjoy a good life with children is perfect. He is just an ordinary man, there is nothing to be proud of, and there is no capital to show off. He has achieved his wish, but how much effort and sacrifice it will take is not a question that he needs to think deeply. He married Chu Qin in the hope that she could help him realize his dream.
3.After marrying Shi Guangrong, Chu Qin completely lost her true self.
After giving birth to Shilin, Chu Qin originally hoped that her child would grow up as soon as possible, but she chose to return to the art troupe to continue her work, because it was the place where she grew up and loved deeply. Unexpectedly, she was dismissed from the troupe because of a small mistake, which made her very sad and sad. Chu Qin is not only outstanding in appearance and beautiful in singing, but also an indispensable pillar in the art troupe, and she especially likes this kind of excellent self to show her charm on the stage.
Unfortunately, Shi Guangrong made Chu Qin pregnant again, Shi Lin had learned to walk, and Shi Jing was still a baby. Chu Qin felt powerless and could only temporarily give up her enthusiasm for the stage.
When Chu Qin gave birth to three children and rejoined the art troupe, her slender figure and pleasant voice were gone. After working in the troupe for a long time, my body gradually became unsuitable for the life of the troupe. When she returned to the troupe, her duties were limited to managing various chores for costumes and props. On this stage, she can only be a costume designer. Chu Qin found it difficult to accept this huge gap in her heart.
Chu Qin confided in Shi Guangrong about her predicament, but Shi Guangrong felt that Chu Qin's expectations were too high, believing that as a woman, her main responsibility was to have children. Although Chu Qin is reluctant to go out to work, he has the ability to support his family, so there is no need for her to set too high standards for herself
Shi Guangrong's incomprehension made Chu Qin feel heavy.
In Shi Hai's original work, he describes his mother ending her artistic career prematurely and blaming her father for all her resentment and resentment, believing that it was his father who caused her to lose everything. I know that my mother had a strong interest in art since I was a child, and she used to tell me a lot of stories about painting, sculpture, etc. on a Sunday. At that time, my mother was very young, only 29 years old, but she still had many dreams and longings for life.
Shi Guangrong did not care about Chu Qin's opinions, he began to participate in the war at the age of nineteen and continued to fight until the age of thirty-six. He was a soldier and an ordinary person. When the people lived a stable and happy life, he began to feel lost and unsure of his future direction
Chu Qin hoped that he would devote all his energy to family life, because the family was not just a place for daily life, nor was it a battlefield, and Shi Guangrong was nothing more than a submachine gun without blood, body, and thought. "I've spent my whole life at war. "His way of thinking was always stuck in wartime, and he was ignorant of social progress and the changes of the times.
Whenever Chu Qin bent over and mopped the floor at home, Shi Guangrong would squint at her with contempt. In his opinion, Chu Qin's small things such as taking care of children and doing housework cannot be compared with his sand table or drawing maps at home.
Chu Qin's behavior does not meet the standards of elegance, and what he does is the most worthy of praise and greatness.
Shi Guangrong's persistence and the problem of his way of thinking were not only noticed by Chu Qin, but even the people around him criticized him for not living in the past, heroes should not recall the courage of the past, and people should look forward.
Despite this, Shi Guangrong was still unwilling to accept any material things, so in his later years, he and Chu Qin chose to live separately. However, as the years passed, Shi Guangrong's health gradually deteriorated, and he had to rely on Chu Qin's care and care. At this particular moment, he finally learned to compromise with Chu Qin and life.
One day, Chu Qin asked him: What is the purpose of your participation in the war?
Shi Guangrong expressed the idea that it was for a better life.
Chu Qin said with a sad smile: Is it appropriate to marry a good wife and give birth to children to continue the family bloodline?
Shi Guangrong was suddenly angry, and he realized that he had given up Chu Qin's love and pursuit of life, thus achieving his own happiness. He didn't regret why he made this decision, he was a very assertive man. He successfully realized his yearning for life, and also realized his desire to spend a warm kang with his wife and children, but he never thought about whether Chu Qin was really happy.
Zhang Xiaoxian believes that the real weakness of a person is not his selfishness or affection, but that he is too obsessed with falling in love with someone who does not really love him.
Shi Guangrong's deep affection for Chu Qin is actually out of selfishness. He is an authentic farmer, but full of passion and fantasy about life. In this marital relationship, although he enjoyed Chu Qin's youth and health in the name of love, he never gave back what he deserved. Emotionally, neither of them liked the man. Chu Qin has been with her husband for decades, but she has never really felt the deep love of her husband. Since becoming Shi Guangrong's wife, she has continued to contribute to the family without ending.
A person's nobility or self-centeredness can be perfectly demonstrated in a marital relationship. Marriage is a person's love and respect for their lover. A noble marriage is more focused on giving than in return, and genuinely cares about the family;A selfish marriage, on the other hand, is more about giving than giving, with self-centeredness and allowing family members to revolve around them.
Shi Guangrong's marriage is full of happiness and unhappiness, his happiness is based on Chu Qin's pain, and he uses the so-called love to carefully plan Chu Qin's life. Chu Qin, after getting old, had to face the reality and make compromises. In her world, she will always be just a woman, always belong to that man, and will always be a foil for men. In her life, she never really lived for herself. Her misfortune, who can tell clearly?Who can truly understand the pain she was experiencing?