The son hit his daughter-in-law with a comminuted fracture, and the mother-in-law clapped her hands and said yes Who asked her to scold me
Every married woman has a serious expectation for marriage: to raise children carefully and pursue a happy life in a small family.
However, the reality is often not as good as it could be. The trivial contradictions and complex interpersonal relationships after marriage continue to erode women's patience and kindness, and finally make married life jump, and no woman can end this journey with a smile.
In marriage, the mother-in-law relationship is considered to be the most complex and most likely to cause harm to women. Even those seemingly happy marriages may break down due to discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Sister Zhang, who is in her fifties, and her husband have two children, who have now started their own families.
Sister Zhang's son, Xiaowei, is a big car driver who has been running sports cars for many years and is rarely at home. Therefore, Sister Zhang often helps take care of her son and daughter-in-law's children.
However, less than two months ago, Sister Zhang's son Xiaowei and daughter-in-law Fangfang had a fierce conflict, causing Fangfang to run away from home in a rage and publicly stated that she wanted a divorce.
In order not to break up her son's family, Sister Zhang had to helplessly find her daughter-in-law, but she was faced with an unexpected excessive request.
Fangfang told her mother-in-law, Sister Zhang, that she could go home and live without a divorce, but before that, she asked for an agreement.
The content of this agreement is: In the future, Fangfang will not raise her mother-in-law, Sister Zhang, and will not bury her when she dies.
This unbelievable condition almost made Sister Zhang angry. However, for the sake of her son and grandson, she decided to bring in an emotional mediator, hoping that the mediator could persuade the ignorant daughter-in-law to return home.
In addition to her mother-in-law, Sister Zhang's dissatisfaction with Fangfang, eldest sister Xiaoli was also very dissatisfied with her brother-in-law's behavior.
Xiaoli revealed that Fangfang suddenly ran away from home two months ago and did not want to live in the house at home, but wanted to rent a house on the street.
What made Xiaoli even more disdainful was that the cost of renting a house was secretly given to Fangfang by her younger brother Xiaowei behind his mother's back. In this regard, Xiaoli expressed great anger.
What angered her the most was that before this, her father had put down his body and personally went to persuade his brother-in-law to go home, but the brother-in-law actually said that her father was not a family member and asked her mother to come to her door to make amends.
However, Xiaowei explained that it was because his wife hated his mother that he decided to rent a house.
The mediator was very angry when she heard this: since Fangfang hates her mother-in-law, then don't go to eat the food cooked by her mother-in-law, and don't let her mother-in-law take care of the children, and let each other live their own lives.
As a daughter-in-law, you can't let your mother-in-law do things for herself, and at the same time disobey your mother-in-law in the name of not liking your mother-in-law.
The mediator approached Fangfang and asked her if she had ever asked her mother-in-law to sign such an agreement.
Fangfang said with a crying voice: "I don't think about anything now, I only think about myself." No matter what I do, it won't end well, and I already have a bad reputation if I sign the agreement or not. ”
The mediator gave a serious criticism to Fangfang and told her that such an agreement must not be signed: "Once signed, Xiaowei will become an unfilial son, and you will be regarded as an unfilial daughter-in-law!" ”
However, Fangfang responded: "Even if I don't sign, I have always been unfilial." It makes no difference to me whether to sign it or not! ”
Fangfang said that after losing her mother, she married Xiaowei, but she was bullied and blinded by her mother-in-law and eldest sister. In the past few years, she has lived with her in-laws, and her filial piety has been exhausted.
She said that if Xiaowei wants to divorce, then simply divorce.
The mediator was anxious and said that Xiaowei's family wanted them to live happily ever after.
Fangfang, who was emotional, said loudly: "Since you don't want to divorce, don't let me scruple about filial piety to my mother-in-law!" ”
Later, Fangfang cried and recounted the grievances between her and her mother-in-law: Xiaowei blamed her in the name of filial piety to her mother, even if she did not do it right sometimes, but was her husband's family completely right?
Two months ago, Xiaowei had just gotten out of the car and was about to go out early in the morning, but was stopped by his wife Fangfang.
Fangfang was eating breakfast and suddenly asked Xiaowei to give the child medicine, but Xiaowei refused: I don't know how the child eats, what if I make a mistake.
Fang Fang responded directly: You solve it yourself!
In a fit of rage, Xiao Wei threw the bowl and medicine to the ground.
Seeing this scene, Fangfang was furious and recklessly tore Xiaowei's clothes, leaving blood marks one after another. When Sister Zhang saw her son being beaten like this by her daughter-in-law, she directly erupted into angry scolding.
Fangfang did not show weakness and had a fierce quarrel with her mother-in-law.
Xiaowei, who didn't plan to do anything to his wife, suddenly got angry when he saw Fangfang dare to scold his mother, and there were many neighbors watching at the time, so he shot directly at his wife.
In the eyes of the eldest sister Xiaoli, Xiaowei's attack on his wife was completely self-defeating, and he didn't use too much force. But the wife refused to admit defeat and insisted on making things bigger.
However, Xiaoli's so-called "lack of strength" caused Fangfang's collarbone to be comminuted, and she was still breastfeeding at the time, and the child was not yet a year old.
Fangfang said that the conflict between her and her husband was originally complicated by the intervention of her mother-in-law.
After the mother-in-law scolded, Fangfang immediately fought back, but the mother-in-law used extreme means: lying on the ground and splashing and rolling. Seeing his mother like this, Xiaowei lost control of his emotions and punched Fangfang.
However, Sister Zhang said that every time her son and daughter-in-law quarreled, it was because her daughter-in-law's mouth was too strong. Fangfang not only spoke fiercely, but also scratched her son with blood all over his body.
This made Sister Zhang feel distressed, and she couldn't help but blame her daughter-in-law. But as long as she speaks for her son, Fang Fang will be angry with her.
Although Sister Zhang said that she had to come forward to teach her daughter-in-law a lesson, every time she quarreled, Fangfang would always tear Xiaowei's clothes, which made her feel very inappropriate.
The mediator saw Sister Zhang complaining to her daughter-in-law and advised: My son is in his thirties, and there are some things that he should solve by himself, and there is no need for you, an elder, to intervene.
In the mediation with Fang Fang, the mediator is still trying to persuade her.
Fangfang insisted that even if she did not divorce, she would no longer be willing to be filial to her mother-in-law.
The mediator quickly retorted: "It's not right to do that. Beat your mother-in-law's child, can you not feel distressed as a mother? ”
However, Fangfang insisted that her mother-in-law felt sorry for her beating Xiaowei, and she scolded her husband as a wife, and her mother-in-law was also distressed.
The mediator hopes that Fangfang can recognize and reflect on her mistakes, and at the same time, Xiaowei and her mother-in-law also need to reflect on their own problems.
However, at this time, Sister Zhang accused her daughter-in-law on the street.
She complained loudly to passers-by that Fangfang had no conscience: "For ten years, I have helped her take care of the children, and I have fed the children's meals one by one, and the milk powder money is all paid by me!" ”
Sister Zhang's behavior completely crushed Fangfang.
Fangfang squatted on the ground and cried loudly: "I don't recognize the milk powder money, I have never taken a penny from my mother-in-law!" ”
Seeing Fangfang collapse like this, Sister Zhang was even more proud, condescendingly accusing her daughter-in-law and asking her to shut up.
Right now, the emotional mediator is furious, thinking that she can understand why Xiaowei and Fang Fang are in conflict.
Sister Zhang's attitude of not being afraid of making big things made her daughter-in-law unbearable in public.
However, Sister Zhang insisted that she had taken care of her daughter-in-law and children for ten years, just to prove that she was qualified to let her daughter-in-law go home.
The mediator pointed out that today's daughter-in-law did not have a word of disrespect, and Sister Zhang's attitude would only lead to the breakdown of her son's family.
Sister Zhang said that her heart had been broken by her daughter-in-law.
At this time, Fangfang, who had been squatting on the ground, couldn't cry: "Even if she is an elder and I am a junior, I am at least a person!" I want to have basic dignity, but now I don't even have dignity! ”
Fangfang's father-in-law stood up and said to her: "Although I am not your father, I have always treated you as a daughter, you can go home in front of me!" ”
On the other side, the mediator is still persuading Sister Zhang, who is still angry: "Fangfang, she has no mother, and sometimes she is ignorant. But as an elder, can't you be more tolerant of her? ”
The mediator also understood that the quarrel between Xiaowei and Fangfang was not one-sided, and Sister Zhang was too strong.
After hearing this, everyone advised Sister Zhang to change her degree and not to blame her daughter-in-law.
At this time, Sister Zhang's face softened slightly, crossed her hands in front of her chest and said, "If she goes home, I will never quarrel with her again in the future!" ”
On the side, Xiaoli persuaded Fangfang, who was sitting there and refused to get up: "You live your life, my mother lives hers." ”
Xiaoli also emphasized that as long as Fangfang and Xiaowei can be independent, they can live in ** according to their wishes.
In the end, Sister Zhang reached out and pulled Fangfang up.
At this moment, Fangfang's mood gradually calmed down. The mediator said to her: everyone has their own temper and shortcomings, and although the mother-in-law has no credit, she has also paid hard work, after all, she has taken care of the child for so long.
The mediator hopes that Xiaowei can become a bridge of communication between his wife and his mother, and say more good things about his wife in front of his mother-in-law. Even in front of your mother-in-law, you have to protect your wife.
Xiao Wei listened silently, and Fang Fang suddenly became excited: He has never done this, and he has always said that I am the most vicious.
Fangfang has always felt that Xiaowei is not considerate enough and cannot understand her hard work and difficulty.
The mediator also noticed that Xiaowei was a wooden man who was not good at expressing his feelings correctly.
With the help of the mediator, Xiaowei and Fang Fang repaired their relationship, and they decided to transition to a small house rented by Fang Fang for a while.
As for Sister Zhang, the mediator also suggested that she could let go of her feelings and let go of Fangfang and Xiaowei's affairs. After all, marriage is a matter for Fangfang and Xiaowei, and Sister Zhang's overprotection of Xiaowei will only make the relationship between husband and wife more tense.
Xiaowei has been working outside for many years, and Fangfang is responsible for taking care of the children at home, which is a typical family with a male protagonist and a female protagonist.
The couple has been married for 10 years and has two children. However, both of them still have some childishness, lack the skills to properly handle conflicts between husband and wife, and once there is a disagreement, there is often only a quarrel or fight.
As a wooden man, Xiaowei usually doesn't do anything to his wife, unless he is forced to do it in a hurry, he will teach Fangfang a lesson. However, he ignores that men are far more powerful than women.
Therefore, his punch caused Fangfang's collarbone to be fractured, and it also planted a deep resentment in her heart.
Originally, these problems could have been solved through communication and tolerance between husband and wife. However, Sister Zhang's intervention made the situation confusing.
Fangfang believes that if it weren't for her mother-in-law's intervention, the conflict between her and her husband would not have intensified into this.
She emphasized that every time her husband made a mistake first, she couldn't help but be angry with him, which should have been a private matter of husband and wife, but it evolved into a joint exclusion of her by the entire in-law.
Due to the loss of her mother, she lost the powerful shelter she received in her mother's family, and now her mother-in-law and aunt's family are arrogant, and they are simply bullying her unilaterally.
The relationship between Fangfang and Xiaowei is not harmonious, in addition to external reasons, but also because of the poor communication between them.
In the eyes of the eldest sister Xiaoli, Fangfang only complained about her hard work of taking care of the children, but did not care about the hard work of her younger brother in the sports car outside.
However, in fact, Fangfang just expects more support and recognition from her husband, as well as the support she deserves from her in-laws.
It's a pity that Xiaowei is not qualified to mediate the conflict between the two parties, but the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has further deteriorated.
In the end, the two resolved their previous suspicions and decided to meet the future together.
Everyone needs to constantly improve their self-cultivation in the relationship, and life is for themselves.
However, if a relationship becomes extremely bad, unbeneficial, and instead of depleting itself, it is wise to stop the loss and get out sooner.