My relationship with my mother-in-law, Zheng Fengying, has not been very good. Zheng Fengying has a traditional idea of patriarchy, and always believes that giving birth to a daughter is a loss-making deal. I have been married to my husband Li Zhenwang for three years, and I have never been able to have children, Zheng Fengying often finds fault with me, saying that I can't raise my husband well. I have a relatively docile personality, and for the sake of family harmony, I can only swallow my anger. Her husband Li Zhenwang is relatively weak and is always in a dilemma between his mother and wife.
Yesterday, I finally checked out the good news of two months of pregnancy. I excitedly said to my husband, "Husband, we're going to be mom and dad!".My husband was also very happy, hugged me tightly and said, "Great, baby, my mother won't nag us anymore." ”
When the family had dinner in the evening, her husband happily conveyed the good news to Zheng Fengying. Zheng Fengying looked disdainful: "As long as you two can't raise your own body, can you have a healthy grandson?"I couldn't help but reply, "Mom, children are a gift from heaven, we will take good care of ourselves, and we hope to receive your blessings." Zheng Fengying gave me a blank look and didn't speak again.
Later in pregnancy, I often felt the fetal movement and my body became weak. Zheng Fengying always gives me a petty temperament, and it is useless to nag me all day long. One day, when she saw me resting on the sofa, she nagged, "Can you give birth to a healthy child just like you look lazy?"”
I couldn't help but reply, "Mom, I'm weak now, can't you be considerate?"”
Zheng Fengying choked mercilessly: "Hmph, laziness makes excuses!."I was pregnant with your husband at that time, and I also helped your father-in-law farm and work!”
I could only turn around and go back to my room with red eyes, full of grievances. Her husband Li Zhenwang was also present at this time, but he just persuaded his mother in a helpless tone: "Mom, she is pregnant now, don't nag her anymore." Zheng Fengying still goes her own way.
In this way, I survived a difficult pregnancy under the mockery of my aunt, and finally gave birth to a little daughter in agony. After my caesarean section, my body was weak and I needed to recuperate. Unexpectedly, Zheng Fengying began to control me even more frantically at this time.
The first meal I had when I gave birth to my daughter was white porridge, and Zheng Fengying removed all the fish and meat, and only let me drink white porridge and eat cabbage. I weakly begged, "Mom, let me eat some fish and meat to replenish my body, shall you?"Zheng Fengying sternly refused: "If the confinement is low in nutrition, you will give me honest porridge!."”
In this way, I spent a painful confinement under Zheng Fengying's suppression. She supervised me to eat only white porridge and cabbage all day long, did not let me rest and recuperate, and sometimes even deliberately found trouble to make things difficult for me.
One day, she saw me holding my daughter in the yard in the sun, so she nagged and said, "You are careful to tan your daughter in the sun like this!".Get me into the house!”
I begged bitterly, "Mom, let me get some more sun, I'm so weak now, I need the sun to help me recover." ”
Zheng Fengying showed no mercy: "I said that if I enter the house, I will enter the house!."It's great that you're treating me as a mother-in-law now?”
I could only carry my daughter into the house with tears in my eyes. At this time, my father-in-law came over to comfort me: "Daughter-in-law, don't pay attention to the dead old woman, take my bank card and buy some delicious supplements." ”
I thanked my father-in-law, but I didn't take his bank card. I know that my father-in-law's small pension is the family's finance**, and I can't take it too much. I endured the humiliation and continued to eat the bland meals assigned by Zheng Fengying.
Half a month has passed, and my body is still weak, and my milk is getting less and less. Zheng Fengying also asked me to do housework, and once when I was digging out the garbage, she instructed me to wipe the toilet. I was really worried that my body would not be able to bear it, so I couldn't help but beg her: "Mom, let me rest for two days, I'm still recuperating." ”
Zheng Fengying immediately became furious: "What a break!."I cleaned the toilet when I gave birth to your husband, so don't make excuses for being lazy!”
I could only brush the stinky toilet with red eyes. At this time, my husband happened to come back, saw my weak appearance, and cautiously persuaded my mother: "Mom, let her rest for a few days, she hasn't recovered yet." ”
Zheng Fengying's eyes widened angrily: "You still help her speak?!."I'm your mom and she has to listen to me!”
My husband could only shrink his head and didn't dare to say anything more.
That night, I couldn't bear it anymore, and said to my husband angrily in the bedroom: "Zhenwang, what do you think your mother thinks of me?"I had such a hard time giving birth to a child, she had to treat me harshly!”
My husband put his head on his head and carefully persuaded me: "Baby, my mother's personality is like this, don't take it too seriously." ”
I said excitedly, "Don't you go to your heart?".She makes things difficult for me every day, and wants me to recover my strength and do housework, which is like killing me!Do you just look at me and get angry?”
My husband smiled: "Baby, just bear with it, and when you get better, I'll take you out for a good break." ”
Bear with it, I can't bear it anymore!I cried with red eyes, "Zhenwang, you are a man, you have to speak for your wife and children!."Are you just watching your mom abuse me?”
The husband lowered his head, like a turtle with a shrunken head: "Aren't I afraid of offending my mother?"
Okay, since you don't have to take responsibility, then I can only solve it myself!I angrily threw out the door, came to Zheng Fengying, and plucked up the courage to say: "Mom, you can't control me like this all the time, I am also your daughter-in-law, you should care about me, not make it difficult for me!."”
Zheng Fengying was stunned, but she didn't expect me to suddenly erupt: "What are you talking to me?"I just want to control you and let you know what will happen if you marry into my family!”
You're taking revenge on me for giving birth to a daughter!I raised my voice, "You want me to live better than die, I want to live a healthy life!."”
You!Zheng Fengying was so angry that her face was red and her neck was thick, "You dare to tell me about the conditions?"From today onwards, you get out of this house for me!”
I said with red eyes, "Okay, I'll pack up and move out today!".I have endured your anger and suffered your losses for so many years, and today I understand the truth. I will live a hundred times happier than you!”
After saying that, I went into the house without looking back, packed up some necessities, and then left this hellish in-law's house with my daughter in my arms.
I moved into a mother-and-baby home and started a new life. The sisters here are very friendly and professional** take care of me and the kids. I breastfed my daughter every day, and then went to the cafeteria to replenish my body, and my strength gradually recovered.
After I left my in-law's house, Zheng Fengying lived alone and found that it was very inconvenient to have no one to serve her. I used to do all the housework, but now she has to cook and wash her own clothes, which makes her hands and feet sore. She tried to get her son Li Zhenwang to take care of her, but he worked long hours and couldn't take care of her at all.
One day, Li Zhenwang came home and saw that the kitchen was a mess, and Zheng Fengying sat at the table in a daze. He persuaded his mother softly: "Mom, I'll hire a nanny for you, I can help you with housework and take care of your life." ”
Zheng Fengying said angrily: "I don't want a nanny!."What do you want the nanny to do, it's not that the dead girl is gone, and there is no one at home to serve me!”
Li Zhenwang carefully persuaded: "Mom, this is also a matter of no choice, Feng Ying is gone, we can only figure out our own way." I could come back for more weekends to spend with you. ”
It didn't work!Zheng Fengying said angrily, "What's the use of you, you can't control that dead girl!."I've been stupid since I was a child, and I don't have any responsibility at all!”
Li Zhenwang could only shrink his head, but he was thinking in his heart: If I were responsible, I wouldn't watch Feng Ying being troubled by you. We are both mothers and sons.
At the same time, I gradually recovered at the Mother and Baby Home. One day, the aunt of the social worker came to see me and said with concern: "Fengying, you are working hard with the children alone, right?"Do you want to contact your family?”
I smiled wryly and said, "My in-laws will only make things difficult for me, and it is useless to contact them." I just want to raise my daughter independently and give her a warm home. ”
Auntie nodded: "We all admire an independent woman like you." If you need help, you can always tell us. ”
I thanked my aunt and thought: I will work hard to support myself and my daughter, and I will never go back to that hellish in-law's house!
And just like that, the days went by, and my daughter was about to reach the full moon. On this day, I received a strange call, which turned out to be Zheng Fengying.
I picked up ** suspiciously, and Zheng Fengying's voice came from the earpiece: "Fengying, I'm my mother, don't hang ** first, I have something important to say." ”
I said coldly, "Mom, just tell me, I'm busy." ”
Zheng Fengying said in a heap of words: "Child, I figured it out, it was really my fault for treating you badly at the beginning, and after you left, I found out how uncomfortable it was to have no one to take care of life, so I called ** to apologize to you, and beg you to come back, we start again, I will be a hundred times better to you and my granddaughter." ”
I calmly said, "Mom, I accept your apology, but I won't go back to live with you." I have my own life and will work hard to support my daughter. ”
Zheng Fengying said anxiously: "Fengying, don't be so decisive, I promise you that I will get rid of all my previous shortcomings, you can come back, how hard it is to take care of a child alone!."”
I held my nerve and said, "I can bear it myself, and my life is much better now than your troubles." ”
Seeing my resolute attitude, Zheng Fengying's tone softened: "Fengying, I really know that I am wrong, you just give your mother a chance, I promise to be a good mother-in-law, how good it is for our family to reunite." Zhenwang also thinks that you can't think about it, and you are sad every day, please come back. ”
When I heard my husband's name, I was silent. After a while, I said, "Mom, I can accept your apology, but Zhenwang and I still need time to calm down." I could consider going home once in a while, but I won't be going back to live with him anytime soon. Zhenwang needs to be mature and independent, not rely on me to support his family. I can wait for him to change his mind about getting back together. ”
When Zheng Fengying heard this, she said hesitantly: "Okay, if you think about it, I will tell Zhenwang and let him work hard to change and become a man you can rely on." We will also wait for you, Feng Ying, no matter what time it is, this is your home. ”
Hang up**, I take a deep breath. I forgave my mother-in-law, but I couldn't trust her easily. I will try to live and become stronger than before. Maybe one day, both my husband and mother-in-law have changed, and I will consider reuniting with them. But for now, I'm going to focus on my daughter and myself. There is still a long way to go, and I have to be brave enough to go on.
After hanging up my mother-in-law's **, I fell into deep thought. I forgave my mother-in-law, but can I really go back to the way I was?I have to think about my daughter's best interests.