Whether it is in the TV show or in the original work, I don't give high praise to the role of Zhou Rong.
Of course, as a reader, I try to put aside all prejudices and look at each character in the book from a relatively objective perspective, including their personalities, choices, experiences, and pasts, as well as their various life experiences in this world.
However, no matter how I look at Zhou Rong from what perspective, her charm is still hard to fall into.
From an emotional point of view, she seems to only care about love, and ignores the emotional ties of family. From the perspective of caring for her children, her way of love is too simple, and the content of her love is too simple. From the standpoint of her children, her gratitude to her parents is far less than Zhou Bingkun, and even inferior to Zheng Juan.
She falls in love with a girl who is two years younger than herself, but sacrifices her happiness and joy because she loves her. From her perspective as a parent, she also has some shortcomings. Her daughter Yueyue has lived in the Zhou family since she was a child, with the help of Zheng Juan and Zhou's father, and when she grew up to be a teenager, she moved to Zhou Bingyi's house.
Some people may think that she is an individual with independent thinking, pursuits and ideals. I think if she hadn't been like that, she wouldn't have been a good woman. On this point, I do not refute it. Zhou Rong does have her own uniqueness, but for me, who is vulgar, I don't appreciate this so-called "uniqueness" very much. Her uniqueness is shaped by her selfishness, as well as by the selfless dedication of her family and the support of her family, which together shape her unique personality.
The mother's eyes were damaged from crying.
In her young days, Zhou Rong left the Zhou family with a resolute attitude.
In order to love, she quietly left a letter for her mother, and then boarded a train to Guizhou.
When her mother's eyes fell on the one-page letter, her emotions quickly collapsed and she burst into tears. Her child was an excellent student, but by chance, he ran away from home and never returned. She couldn't understand why her daughter had chosen to leave the way she did, which made her angry and worried.
Mother is a very ordinary person, she is nothing special, but because of her daughter, her life is full of sadness and helplessness. The young daughter is far away from home, just to pursue what she calls love, ignoring the emotions of the whole family, which makes Zhou's mother feel difficult to let go.
Since then, whenever Zhou's mother thinks of her daughter, her eyes are always filled with tears. In the original work, due to Zhou's mother's frequent tears, her eyes were severely damaged, resulting in a significant weakening of her eyesight, and she could not see anything clearly.
After Zhou Rong left, it seemed that eight years had passed (original).
During this time, in order to alleviate the pressure on her daughter's life, Zhou's mother would squeeze out 20 yuan from the family's daily expenses every month and send it to Zhou Rong. Zhou Rong is also Xi of sending safe letters to her family, while Zhou's mother, who does not understand writing, will ask Zhou Bingkun to read her daughter's letters to her many times and listen patiently.
These letters became the spiritual sustenance of Zhou's mother, and sometimes she would even put the cloth bag containing the letters into the quilt and fall asleep with her daughter's letters tightly in her arms. "My daughter has been in my hometown for more than two years, and every time I come home, I have lunch with my daughter. Zhou's mother used this way to express her deep longing and anxiety for her daughter who was far away.
Finally, Zhou Rong's mother finally received a letter that she planned to go home for the New Year.
She happily kept all the precious belongings of the family and looked forward to the return of her daughter, son-in-law and granddaughter. The daughter and son-in-law are back, and the daughter can naturally do her own thing with confidence. However, all she was waiting for was the news of her granddaughter, Yueyue, and her son-in-law's misfortune and her daughter's hospital.
Zhou's mother suddenly fainted because she couldn't bear such a blow. With the assistance of Chunyan's mother, Zhou Bingkun successfully sent Zhou's mother to a medical institution, but unfortunately, Zhou's mother was judged to be in a vegetative state. Zhou's mother has been lying down for more than a year, and under Zheng Juan's careful care, although she is awake, her mental state has fluctuated, sometimes sober, sometimes a little confused.
As time passed, when they returned to the city where the Zhou family was located, the responsibility of caring for their mother still fell on the shoulders of Bingkun and Zheng Juan.
Although we can't simply blame Zhou Rong for Zhou's mother's accident, she does have a deep connection to it. If it weren't for the willfulness of the past and that accident, Zhou's mother might have lived a happier life in her later years.
A father who is cold on the outside but passionate on the inside.
Zhou Rong is her father Zhou Zhigang's favorite child.
At first, Zhou Zhigang was very angry about his daughter's sudden departure. He thinks his daughter is "** is "revenge" on himself. He not only reprimanded Zhou's mother, but also pushed his anger on Zhou Bingkun, and slapped his youngest son fiercely because of this.
However, Zhou's father's anger did not last long, and his concern and longing for his daughter soon replaced his previous complaints. He knew that his daughter's condition could get worse. Because of his deep longing, Zhou's father had symptoms of neurasthenia, and often had difficulty sleeping all night.
He was worried that his daughter would be in danger outside, so he called her to sleep with her. In order to alleviate the trouble of insomnia, he will do more work every day and go home a little later to rest, so that he will not lose sleep all night because he misses his daughter.
In addition, in order to get closer to his daughter, Zhou's father submitted an application for transfer to Guizhou.
Soon after he arrived in Guizhou, he sent a letter to his eldest son, Zhou Bingyi, hoping to tell him Zhou Rong's address, because he no longer had a grudge against Zhou Rong, but wanted to visit her in person.
Therefore, Zhou's father took twenty catties of flour, five catties of bacon, a few pieces of soap, as well as candles and rubber shoes, and began his journey to visit his daughter. He has only one purpose - to let his daughter eat well and be full. That's all he has. He wanted to take it home.
Zhou Rong's flour was specially changed for her, because she had a bad stomach since she was a child. The soap was saved by Zhou's father three years ago, and the rubber shoes were saved by himself wearing straw sandals. As for the five catties of bacon, it was secretly purchased by Zhou's father without discipline.
This basket of items represents Zhou's father's deep love for Zhou Rong.
When Zhou's father saw his daughter Zhou Rong, he couldn't help but shed tears. His daughter, the man who had worried him for years, stood quietly in front of him, and there was no anger in his heart. He really hoped that his daughter would be doing well, but when he solemnly warned his daughter not to act excessively, Zhou Rong gave this reply:
That's what I do!Until now, I have not caused trouble to any of my loved ones, nor have I asked you to continue to be a model worker. If it really happens one day, I will completely cut ties with our family!I would see myself as someone who jumped out of a crack in the stone!From then on, I will lose my parents, brother and brother, I admit my mistakes, I am sorry for any of my relatives, I will live for whom I will repay, be a cow and a horse!”
At this moment, Zhou Rong, deep in her heart, only has the quiet place that belongs to her. She firmly believes that she is not causing trouble for her family, so everything she does is right.
But is it really as concise as she described?She has always been so inferior in her heart. Is her family really to blame for enduring so much fear and worry for her?She didn't know if she was supposed to do it — she didn't understand how much responsibility she had
She always thought of herself as if she had jumped out of a crack in the stone, as if she had been wronged, and her heart had never considered her mother from afar or her father who had traveled long distances to visit her. Even if it's a small one, she may not be so confident.
Father Zhou watched his daughter think about it day and night, and finally gave in. He is an honest and honest farmer, and he has no special ambitions, he just hopes that his son can grow up healthy and happy. He was no longer verbose, nor resolute in saying anything, and agreed to the proposal of his son-in-law, Feng Huacheng. On the occasion of leaving, Father Zhou expressed his feelings to Feng Huacheng:
Please remember that if you behave inappropriately towards my daughter, I will never let you go easily. ”
In this way, Father Zhou carried the empty bamboo building and embarked on the road he came.
After Zhou's father retired, on the one hand, he cared about Zhou's mother, who was in a poor mental state, and on the other hand, he assisted Zhou Rong in taking care of Yueyue. She said that she was lucky to be with her to this day, and she was a lucky woman. During that time, Zhou Rong remained determined to pursue her life goals, first successfully admitted to Peking University, and then admitted to graduate school. Later, because of Feng Huacheng's betrayal, she returned to her hometown after the divorce.
Zhou's father died shortly after she returned to her hometown, so she rarely had the opportunity to complete a day of filial piety at his father's bedside.
A completely self-centered "egoist".
As a daughter, Zhou Rong obviously did not meet the passing standards.
Her mother and father had done so much care and toil for her, and she knew it, but she didn't really make it happen. My mother was a hardworking and simple rural woman, and although her family was poor, it did not affect her quality of life. Everyone praised the Zhou family for cultivating two promising people, Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Rong, but Zhou Bingkun was not good enough.
However, in my personal opinion, Zhou Bingkun is undoubtedly the individual who deserves the most recognition. Because his actions, words and deeds embody the qualities that a good man should have, and it is this quality that makes her the most capable woman to help others. Zhou Rong's freedom and willfulness benefited from the tolerance of her parents, while Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan did their filial piety for her behind her back. Although her achievements are for herself, she brings endless worries and troubles to her family.
I don't want to put too much criticism on Zhou Rong's various behaviors, she has her own reasons and philosophy of life, but her philosophy of life tends to focus only on herself, which is the most difficult to accept.
Finding your true self, finding your true love, and sticking to your faith are all the right choices. She is just an ordinary girl, a daughter abandoned by her parents. However, I hope she will take a second look at how her self-worth is built on the selfless sacrifice and dedication of family members and others.
When she decided to leave home, she skillfully took advantage of Cai Xiaoguang's deep affection for her;
When I went to Guizhou to assign work assignments, I borrowed my father's title as a "big third-line" worker;
In her early life in Guizhou, her mother received 20 yuan a month, while her brother Zhou Bingyi and sister-in-law Hao Dongmei received 15 yuan, which provided support for her love life
Feng Huacheng's extreme behavior caused an accident, and it was Zheng Juan and Zhou Bingkun who helped her deal with the chaos and took on the responsibility of taking care of Zhou's mother and Yueyue;
She decided not to stay in Guizhou anymore, and instead of going home to visit her parents or pick up her daughter, she chose to return to Beijing with Feng Huacheng and enter university XiFinally, instead of having to go to work every day, she looked for a job online and lived at home with her parents. For Zhou Bingkun, entering university has been his dream for a long time.
The reason for returning to her hometown was that she broke off the marriage contract with Feng Huacheng, but due to the duty of taking care of Yueyue, she transferred from Zhou's father to Zhou Bingyi's home;
Every detail and every thing is laid out here. If not, why is her life so difficult?Does her wayward behavior and her freedom really represent true independence?How could she have indulged herself so much without the support and encouragement of her family?
In my opinion, Zhou Rong is undoubtedly a person who thinks about herself through and through."
All the efforts and dedication she makes are out of consideration for herself. There is actually something wrong with this statement. One might think that it is perfectly right to live only for one's own benefit. Although there is nothing wrong with this statement, under the premise of doing a good job of personal responsibility, whether we should rethink our responsibilities as mothers and daughters is not only something that cannot be avoided, but also should not be lost.
If the other members of the Zhou family can act like Zhou Rong, then the final result is predictable. Without the financial support of her family, her love would have ended long ago in the mountains. Without the company of Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan, Zhou's mother may never have the opportunity to meet her daughter. Without Zhou's father's care and care, her daughter Yueyue might wander in **
This is the reason why I am disgusted with Zhou Rong. It's not that she pursues love unreservedly, but in her perspective, she always focuses only on her own gains and losses.
In the original work, she once expressed this opinion to her daughter Yueyue: "Those who give themselves life are actually people who have a heavenly favor for themselves. This heavenly grace is like the rays of the sun and the moon, and anyone who is able to do so should give it in return. This sentence moved her to tears. I'm not sure if she was recalling Father Zhou and Mother Zhou when she said this, and although she said her own opinion, she didn't really practice it.
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I especially appreciate the sentence written by Lu Yao in "Ordinary World":
What is the most cherished thing in this world?Is it money, power, or honor?Indeed, having these things is not a bad thing. But nothing compares to the warmth and preciousness of human affection – it's the best thing about life that you can feel. ”
Living in this world, we are responsible for both ourselves and those family members who give us warmth and love, and when the world is really just us, it will be a desperate and lonely voice.