In the beginning of the 2023 freshman season, a new parent suddenly discovered a strange phenomenon: in her child's school, the proportion of boys far exceeds that of girls. This phenomenon caught her attention, and she immediately posted it on the Internet, which unexpectedly resonated with parents of new students across the country. After investigation, this phenomenon is not just a problem for individual schools, but a widespread situation across the country.
Further analysis found that this phenomenon is closely related to the relaxation of the country's fertility policy in 2023. As a result of the relaxation, many families have had second children, but surprisingly, the proportion of boys in these second births is much higher than that of girls. This has led to an imbalance in the ratio of men and women in the first grade of primary school.
This imbalance in the ratio of men and women not only leads to a serious shortage of school enrollment places, but also affects the development of the marriage market in the future. The current post-90s and post-00s girls have begun to ignore marriage and be more cautious about marriage. And with the passage of time, future girls are likely to be more cautious or even avoid talking about marriage. This will make it more difficult for boys to find a suitable marriage partner.
So why is there a preference for boys by parents?Here I have to mention some of the influence of feudal ideas. In the eyes of some "royal couples", inheriting the family property and continuing the family bloodline is a crucial thing. They are convinced that their wishes can only be fulfilled if they have a boy. In order to achieve this goal, they will stop at nothing. The most common method is to hide one's expectations of "boys" under the pretext of "having both children".
However, this patriarchal ideology is not just the preserve of the "imperial couple". In some ordinary families, boys are seen as a continuation of the blood lineage, overexpected and doted on. In contrast, girls are often marginalized and seen as a burden on their families.
The existence of this kind of ideology not only affects the quality of family education, but also has a profound impact on the growth of children. Children who grow up in this environment often lack the capacity for self-confidence, self-esteem and self-love. For a long time, the status of women in society has also been greatly restricted.
From the school's point of view, home education plays a decisive role. The goal of family education is not only to provide Xi tutoring, but more importantly, to cultivate children's character, temperament, and correct values.
However, some parents put the blame entirely on the school teachers, believing that it would be enough to send their children to school. In fact, teachers also observe parents' attitudes towards their children's Xi. Parents who ignore their children's learning Xi and do not pay attention to education often do not receive the attention and support of teachers.
Children who grow up in a healthy family environment tend to have positive mindsets. Through a good family education, they learn to think independently, learn Xi independently, and cultivate good interpersonal and social skills. These factors will lay a solid foundation for their future development.
The imbalance between men and women is not only a problem of individual families, but also involves the development of society as a whole. From the point of view of fertility, a decrease in the number of women will lead to a decrease in the number of people. This has brought great challenges to China's social stability and economic development.
In addition, in the marriage market, the imbalance between men and women will also put more pressure on boys. More and more women are financially independent and pay more attention to the equality of marriage, and they no longer see marriage as the only way out of life, as they used to. This will further exacerbate the marital gap between men and women, making it difficult to find a suitable partner.
In short, the feudal ideology of patriarchy has had a profound impact on our society. It has not only led to an imbalance in the ratio of men and women in the first grade of primary school, but has also affected the quality of family education and the development of the marriage market. We should be vigilant in time and strive to promote a change in social attitudes, so that every child can grow up in an equal and just environment and realize their dreams and values.
In my personal reflections, I deeply feel that respect and equality are the cornerstones of our social development. The feudal concept of preference for sons over daughters not only violates the values of society, but also harms the healthy growth of children. We should abandon this mindset and give every child equal education and opportunities to develop their talents and personalities in a just environment. Only in this way can we break the gender gap and build a more equal and harmonious society.