In families with two or more children, quarrels between children are almost inevitable. However, when children have an argument, some parents may intentionally or unintentionally use inappropriate words for various reasons, such as being depressed or busy, in an attempt to stop the argument through these wrong words.
Here are some of the inappropriate words that parents often say:
1."You're a sister and brother, you have to give up some of your younger brothers and sisters. ”
2."How did you become a brother and sister? ”
3."Brother and sister didn't mean it, why don't you forgive? ”
4."Other people's brothers and sisters love each other and help each other, so why can't you get along well? ”
5."You're so noisy! Get out! ”
These rhetoric either emphasize that older children should learn to be humble and patient, or they simply take some accusatory and violent language. The former may lead older siblings to develop a stoic or rebellious personality, while the latter directly transmits anger and irritability to the child, both of which are detrimental to the development of a healthy personality. So, why do siblings quarrel with each other?
1.I want to get the attention of my parents through quarrels.
2.There is a conflict of interest between the children, and no one is willing to compromise.
3.Younger children tend to be vexatious by relying on their parents' preferences, while older children are reluctant to give in.
When dealing with quarrels between children, it is an effective way for wise parents to deal with their children's quarrels by patiently listening to them explain the reasons for the quarrel and understanding them from the child's point of view, rather than judging right and wrong from the perspective of the parents. In addition, parents should try to find appropriate words to communicate with their children and actively guide them to live in harmony. Here are some tips for parents:
1."What happened? Can you tell your mom one by one? ”
2."Your brother snatched your toy, don't you feel very wronged? ”
3."You must be sad that your favorite things are broken by your younger siblings, right? ”
4."Mom doesn't like to see you arguing, can you discuss how you can get along? ”
5."You broke my brother and sister's beloved things, didn't you? How are you going to reconcile with your brother and sister? ”
In fact, the relationship between siblings also belongs to the category of children's social skills, and whether siblings get along with each other reflects the strength of children's social skills to a certain extent. Therefore, it is important for parents to use appropriate rhetoric to help their children improve their social skills when dealing with their children's arguments.