In the process of children's learning and Xi, we often observe the rigidity and rigidity of their thinking. Whether it is the teacher's teaching, the parent's guidance or the content of the book, children always copy it mechanically and lack the ability to adapt, which makes many parents feel helpless. Faced with this situation, some parents tend to humorously sarcastic and sarcastic their children.
For example: Why don't you have an elm brain melon at all?"
Can you think for yourself and not always be so dull?"
Why are you always so stubborn?Can't make a slight turn and think differently?"
Since this method doesn't solve the problem, why can't you be flexible and try other methods or ideas?"
You're hopeless!This question is exactly the same as the question type and solution method of the example question in the book, and you actually say that you can't do it!"
Children's rigid thinking and lack of flexibility are detrimental to the development of their innovative thinking, curiosity and imagination. However, the causes of children's rigid thinking have their roots, mainly including the following five points:
1.Excessive parental discipline causes children to lose their right to ideas and choices.
2.Parents themselves are also stuck in rigid thinking, unable to create creative imagination space for their children.
3.Children have limited cognitive abilities and always treat their Xi in a one-sided, isolated, black-and-white way.
4.The child's thinking is narrow, rejects new things, and lacks imagination and creativity.
5.Children lack assertiveness, are unwilling to use their brains, and regard the words of teachers and parents as well as the content of books as golden rules.
At a time when children are supposed to be imaginative and creative, they show rigidity in their thinking. As parents, in the face of this anxiety, we cannot ignore the reasons that lead to the rigidity and lack of flexibility in our children's thinking. In addition to looking for the reasons within ourselves, we can also use some techniques to guide children to open their minds and look for other causes of their rigid thinking and lack of flexibility in their words.
Here are some helpful tips and phrases for parents:
You can try omitting some unnecessary, irrelevant steps and see what happens"
There is no only solution to this problem, and you can try to find other solutions. "
Mom thinks there's an easier way to solve this problem!Would you like to use your brain and try it?"
Teachers and parents may be wrongFor example, in the question just now, the method that your mother gave you was wrong. If you don't have your own idea and do what your mother does, you're going to go wrong!"
A child's rigid thinking and lack of flexibility will undoubtedly hinder intellectual development. Therefore, parents should pay attention to this issue, but this does not mean that they should force their children to make changes immediately. We should first find out the cause and then guide the child to solve the problem step by step.
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