It has been said that when a person is old, the smartest way to live is to choose to refuse certain things. In particularWidowedAfter that, if it is not handled properly, it will be given a follow-uplifeBring more distress and pain. So, what exactly should be rejected?In the following articles, we'll look at three ways to help you spend the rest of your life wisely.
WidowedIt's a huge blow for everyone, especially those who are old. Some people areWidowedAfter a long period of inability to get out of the shadow of sadness, the whole person began to become depressed, and even appeared to age sharply. After losing their partner, some people not only have a serious mental state being seriously affected, but also have obvious deterioration in all aspects of their physical functionslifeAll kinds of discomfort also lead to sudden illness, and some people even die unfortunately. One of my colleagues experienced such a dilemma. She and her husband had always had a very good relationship, but the sudden death made her lose all fighting spirit, both mentally and spirituallylife, all have undergone earth-shaking changes. hersDiet, living and the wholelifeThe quality has been greatly reduced. In order to reassure your deceased wife, you must make yourself stronger. Therefore, when we are confrontedWidowedFor the rest of our lives, we should refuse to be depressed and embrace the future with a positive attitudelifeGet better.
Refusing to be depressed means that we have to take the initiative to find new things to make ourslifeFull of sunshine and energy. We can participate in some meaningful social activities, make new friends, join volunteer organizations, and contribute to society. In addition, we can try a new hobby or learn a new skill Xi enrich the rest of our lives by constantly improving ourselves. Someone once said, "Live to be old, learn to be old", and only by constantly learning and Xi making progress can we make our lives more meaningful. At the same time, keep it goodlifeXi, such as reasonableDiet, moderate exercise, and adequate rest can keep us healthy and energetic to cope betterlifein various challenges.
Some people areWidowedAfter the rush to find a partner again to fill the void in the heart. However, it is not easy to find a suitable partner again, and there are often many difficulties and run-in problems. If you don't find a compatible partner, in your later yearslifeIt is possible to lose the originalTranquility, but it takes more effort to adapt. A friend of mine had this experience. After her husband's death, she began to try to find a new wife, however, the new partner hid many bad Xi before marriage, which gradually became apparent after marriage. These Xi not only forced my friends to make changes, but also made unfair arrangements in terms of the economy and property. The most distressing thing is that my friend's property was unknowingly transferred. Therefore, finding a new wife requires careful choice, and it is better to have a shortage than an abundance. If we don't meet the right partner, we can live alone to entertain ourselveslifeand have a good time to yourself. For the rest of our lives, we only need to take care of our own feelings, and we will not be interfered with and restricted by others.
Refusing to find a partner casually does not mean that we should be isolated from the world, on the contrary, we can expand our social circle by participating in social activities or joining interest groups, meet more friends, and enrich ourselveslife。In addition, we can also read books,Listen, appreciationArtand other ways to cultivate their sentiments and find inner peaceTranquility。During the time spent alone, we can take better care of ourselves and do what we wantlifewithout worrying about the needs and expectations of others. In short, refusing to find a partner casually does not mean that we will miss out on the good life, on the contrary, we can spend the rest of our lives in a freer and more fulfilling way.
WidowedSome people become overly dependent on their children and completely shift the burden of losing their partner onto them. However, children also have their ownlife, they can't take on too much responsibility and pressure. When children can't handle the pressure, they feel exhausted, even if they won't reject us. One of my former fellows had such an experience. After losing her husband, she became more and more dependent on her children, and as she grew older, she continued to become more dependent on them. Not only does the child have to take on more household chores, but she also has to deal with her diminishing ability to take care of herself. When the patience of the children is reachedTipping pointwhen herlifeBegin to walk towards the edge of crumbling. While it is understandable to be appropriately dependent on our children, and it is natural for us to take care of one another, we must not rely too much on them. After losing a partner, we should try our best to cope on our ownlifeall kinds of difficulties. We should be ourselveslifemasters, rather than relying on others.
Rejecting over-reliance on our children means staying independent and autonomous. We should try our best to solve our own problems and maintain our ability to take care of ourselves. Health is what supports us to be independentlifeTherefore we should focus on keeping it goodlifeXi, such as reasonableDiet, moderate exercise and adequate rest. In addition, we can improve our abilities and adapt ourselves by Xi learning new knowledge and mastering new skillslifein various challenges. If inlifeWe can seek help from our relatives and friends, but we can't pass on all the responsibility and stress to others. Everyone has their ownlifeWe can't expect others to do much for us. It is important that we believe in our abilities, reach our potential, do our own things well, and live a fulfilling and meaningful lifelife
InWidowedAfter that, we need to re-examine ourselveslife, refusing to be depressed, casually re-finding a wife and overly dependent on children. Rejecting depression means being positivelife, find new things to fill the void in your heart, and maintain a positive attitude. Refusing to find a partner again means choosing carefully, rather than finding a partner to fill the emptiness and loneliness. Rejecting dependence on our children means remaining independent and autonomous, trying to solve problems on our own, and not shifting the blame and pressure entirely to others. By rejecting these things, we can get through them betterWidowedAfter the rest of your life, stay healthy, happy, and meaningfullife
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