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Many readers on the Internet like the character design, they need the author's content to be consistent to carry their emotional projection and make up for their inner narrative.
All extreme love and extreme hatred are not liking or hating real people, but that persona, if the persona collapses, the first person to step on you is the first person to praise you. On the Internet, many people don't really see another person's mental strength, but more of their own inner projection.
I don't have a person, a layman who is greedy for money, lustful, and loves to toss himself.
In fact, to put it cruelly, the essence of all relationships is the exchange of interests.
Thoughts, material things, emotional values, a sense of companionship, or something else, all have something for each other, so that feelings will not dry up. What a person has is his business, and what can continue to provide you with is the root.
If you've been playing a sacrificial role in a relationship and don't get anything you want, it's time to think about whether the relationship is still necessary.
As shared before, it is necessary to distinguish between the self-interested attribute and the altruistic attribute in a person, don't be confused by bells and whistles, and don't be kidnapped by morality.
You feel that the effort is far greater than the return, why don't you hurry up and run?
Many workplace skills and industry secret business methods are no different from chicken soup at first glance, and they are no different from chicken soup when they are done seriously. For example, Ma Yun said, the key elements of success are three points, do the right thing, do it in the right way, and do the right thing in the right way at the right time.
After all, he didn't say anything about the right thing, the right method, and the right time.
But if you really get started with it yourself, do business yourself, and if you really remember these three sentences, you will benefit a lot.
For example, when you cheat and make fake documents and fake seals in order to make money, you suddenly think of "doing the right thing", and you don't do it.
For example, if you are in a bad mood and don't want to go to work, you want to be lazy, and you suddenly think of doing the right thing, so you grit your teeth and insist.
For example, the customer is too annoyed to face it, and suddenly thinks of doing the right thing, so he does it.
It sounds like chicken soup, and it also tastes like chicken soup, and it's still chicken soup when you talk about it, there are no in-depth details and methods and skills, only gritting your teeth and persevering.
If you don't persevere, you can't succeed.
Another example is that I have a senior brother who is the chairman of a state-owned enterprise group.
His mantra is two sentences:
Win-win and win-win, everyone's good is really good.
What exactly is a win-win situation, he rarely says specifically.
Later I learned that win-win is to praise others more, praise others more, and most importantly:
Learn to share the money in the team and don't be reluctant.
When you are reluctant to share the money, just read a few more words, win-win and win-win, and you are willing to do it.
This sentence still sounds like chicken soup nonsense, but in practice, it is very useful.
Human relations are not so complicated, as long as you have socialized normally, an empathy can handle 80% of human relations. Pay attention to the following 4 in place to help you develop a social bandit.
First, the number of etiquette is in place. For young ladies and little brothers, etiquette is to be polite, sweet, warm, free, respectful, and not popular to preach. But for the older generation, etiquette includes courtesy and gifts.
Deliberately develop the Xi of not coming to the door empty-handed, you can go back and ask your older generation, in fact, we ourselves are the same, among those relatives, classmates and friends who have come to the house as guests, there are two types of people who are particularly impressed.
One is the flamboyant tongue of the playful egg, the left aunt and the right uncle shout particularly sweet;There is also a category of people who come to the door with large bags and small bags at every turn, although we say politely, we are actually quite happy in our hearts.
Second, the mood is in place. Nowadays, emotional value is emphasized, and young people are advocating a sentence, and I am happy to buy a thousand dollars. People who have achieved a little bit are especially prominent in this point. Therefore, people with ability have a big temper, and easy-going is just a superficial phenomenon.
can give people emotional satisfaction, as long as they follow other people's wishes, and accompany him crisply. For example, if the girl wants to ride a merry-go-round, you don't have to grind, just buy a ticket and get on;The customer likes to drink, and you don't have to be awkward, just dry the big bowl, and if you don't vomit one of you, he won't have fun.
If you are too rational on the wine table, people will always think that you are too reserved and insincere. At this time, don't think about the amount of alcohol, in fact, what the other party wants is a crisp and refreshing attitude, and what you want is an atmosphere.
Third, spend your money properly. The money spent here is not about slapping a swollen face and being fat, but emphasizing that within the scope of one's own ability, it is a little higher than the level of the same level, with a little surprise that exceeds expectations.
For example, if you ask for milk tea, someone else orders more than 20 cups, and you order her for almost 510;For example, eat a pancake fruit, add two dozen more eggs to make a luxurious**. In the past, when I was running on the front line, I sent fruits, and they were all delivered in a few boxes. **When it is good, there is a foreign company whose peers are more ruthless, and the souvenir is Apple's most**, and his famous scene is still circulating in the industry.
We can come according to our own situation, small money is smashed, these can't cost you much, but the benefits of human favor are far greater than the money paid, and the other party will remember you for the first time.
Fourth, understand in place. If you want to ask someone for help, you can't take it for granted, and you always feel that the other party can do it easily. In fact, others have spent favors, and there is a cost. There are two points to understand here.
First, we must understand the difficulties of others, not everything can be done, and do not force others to do things that they can't do. The second is that no matter whether it is successful or not, you have to thank you, you just want to open the hanging, you can't think about the white prostitution, take the initiative to dispel the other party's concerns to help you in advance, and the concerns and cost concerns must be taken into account.
In fact, it is necessary to exceed the normal strength, if there is a condition, it is best to arrange people to be comfortable, and people are embarrassed. Since it is a bad plot of the open card, it is necessary to be frank and aggressive, otherwise how can the other party show that his pretense is reserved.